[kj44]

Hi all, I found out yesterday my daughter has HIV. I was on my way to work, 4pm, I worked until 6am. Now I'm up and on my way to work again. I really haven't had time to think about this, but, the little moments I do, I know its going to be bad. We have been estranged for about a year when she started drugs again. Last summer, I got her in rehab, she did well for about 4months. She is bipolar, diagnosed last summer, she is a heroin addict. She gets all this from me, so, I'm thinking I have destroyed my daughters life, its not fair. I have been drug free for almost 13yrs.. I'm pretty destroyed right now, but, I'm going to keep as busy as I can until Tdoc appt. Tues.. By the way. I was in the ER with a patient last night, U of M, and I saw the way they treated MI patients, please don't go to U of M. Thanks for listening!!!

[Moose72]

i,m sorry ! What horrible news. *hugs*

[Moose72]

BY the way, who were you in the ER with? I go to U of M er relqtively often for belly issues and I've alwauys been treated ok. The PER nurses can be a real piece of work though....

[venusss]

sorry to hear this

but... it is not your fault. It was her who made decisions in her life... all you can do is to be there for her now. Don't beat yourself over what was in the past... it will not help neither of you...

[kj44]

Originally Posted by Moose72

BY the way, who were you in the ER with? I go to U of M er relqtively often for belly issues and I've alwauys been treated ok. The PER nurses can be a real piece of work though....

I was with a client, I was right across from the ER desk. They were ignoring people, I'm sure it was an MI issue, their beds were covered in cushy stuff. And they were making fun of a girl with anorexia. I was quite disgusted.

[kj44]

Originally Posted by VenusHalley

sorry to hear this

but... it is not your fault. It was her who made decisions in her life... all you can do is to be there for her now. Don't beat yourself over what was in the past... it will not help neither of you...

I'm hearing you!!! Trying, thanks!

[mgran]

I'm so sorry, that sounds awful. I can't imagine such terrible news.

One thing I do know though is that people with HIV have a much better prognosis than they did when the illness first arose. I personally know people who've been living with HIV for over twenty years, with a good quality of life. They take their meds, drink plenty of water, and eat healthy. I understand that this could be a problem for your daughter, at least as things currently stand, but never give up hope. Things truly can turn around. One of my friends actually told me that the best thing that ever happened to him was getting HIV, because "it made me realise how precious my life was, and I started living it, instead of pissing it away." Despite some early scares he's lived with HIV for seventeen years.

I don't know whether you believe in prayer or not, but with your permission, I'll pray for your daughter... and you. Don't blame yourself. You pulled your life together. That's an example your daughter can still aspire to.

Is she your only child?

[BNLsMOM]

I am so sorry to hear this awful news. I'll be thinking of you and your daughter.

I am really sorry for you and your daughter, really I don't know what else can be said. I will be keeping you both in my thoughts. (((((((kj44 and daughter)))))))

[kj44]

Originally Posted by mgran

I'm so sorry, that sounds awful. I can't imagine such terrible news.

One thing I do know though is that people with HIV have a much better prognosis than they did when the illness first arose. I personally know people who've been living with HIV for over twenty years, with a good quality of life. They take their meds, drink plenty of water, and eat healthy. I understand that this could be a problem for your daughter, at least as things currently stand, but never give up hope. Things truly can turn around. One of my friends actually told me that the best thing that ever happened to him was getting HIV, because "it made me realise how precious my life was, and I started living it, instead of pissing it away." Despite some early scares he's lived with HIV for seventeen years.

I don't know whether you believe in prayer or not, but with your permission, I'll pray for your daughter... and you. Don't blame yourself. You pulled your life together. That's an example your daughter can still aspire to.

Is she your only child?

Thank-you, prayer is always appreciated! She is my first born, my husband and I have a combined family of 7 children. Mine all have small issues, she is the only one with major issues right now.(Mental health wise)

[lynn P.]

(((kj44 and daughter))) - so sorry to hear this. I hope she can into treatment because they've come a long way in treating HIV and AIDS. I lost my brother to AIDS who also had bipolar 8 yrs ago.

[kj44]

Originally Posted by lynn P.

(((kj44 and daughter))) - so sorry to hear this. I hope she can into treatment because they've come a long way in treating HIV and AIDS. I lost my brother to AIDS who also had bipolar 8 yrs ago.

Sooo sorry, I'm very worried about her having a physical, and mental illness. Really I'm terrified, and crying again!!!! Good thing I see Tdoc tues.

((((((Kj44)))))) I am soo soo sorry this has happened, remember you have us to lean on for support and that you are not alone. I know it's not the same as in real life, and I wish I could be there to help somehow. I'll be praying for your daughter and for health, for you both.

[lynn P.]

((kj44)) - losing a brother is hard but losing a child must be even harder. I'm very sorry and I pray she'll get the latest treatment. Take care of yourself and try not to worry about things you can't control ATM.

[kj44]

I get a lot of support here, thank goodness for you all! I hope I can help at some point,
seems as if all I'm doing right now is begging for help, I hate that!

Don't you ever feel like that

Originally Posted by kj44

Hi all, I found out yesterday my daughter has HIV. I was on my way to work, 4pm, I worked until 6am. Now I'm up and on my way to work again. I really haven't had time to think about this, but, the little moments I do, I know its going to be bad. We have been estranged for about a year when she started drugs again. Last summer, I got her in rehab, she did well for about 4months. She is bipolar, diagnosed last summer, she is a heroin addict. She gets all this from me, so, I'm thinking I have destroyed my daughters life, its not fair. I have been drug free for almost 13yrs.. I'm pretty destroyed right now, but, I'm going to keep as busy as I can until Tdoc appt. Tues.. By the way. I was in the ER with a patient last night, U of M, and I saw the way they treated MI patients, please don't go to U of M. Thanks for listening!!!

I am SO sorry that this is happening. I agree that if she takes the right medicine and is good to herself that she can live many years with HIV. I'm sending hugs to you and your daughter. You shouldn't blame yourself for her drug use, it is her choice. You have been a good example by getting clean and that's all you can do. Hang in there..

[lynn P.]

Originally Posted by kj44

I get a lot of support here, thank goodness for you all! I hope I can help at some point,
seems as if all I'm doing right now is begging for help, I hate that!

I'm kind of a proud person and sometimes have a hard time asking for help too. I've realized we all need help sometimes and other times we help others. No one is counting who asks for more help and you deserve help at this difficult time.