[Hydrophobic1212]

This week continues to prove to be a terrible week. I hate drama and of course, it loves to find me. This time it's ridiculous high school drama revolving around my ex. He's going around and spreading lies about our break up. He's not taking responsibility for breaking up with me, he's basically pinning the blame onto me. I know this is trivial crap but that doesn't mean it still doesn't bother me.

I don't know how to regard the situation. What do I do if he talks to me? I eat lunch in a different classroom because I can't handle being in large groups of people and he used to come in there to eat with me, now he's there still even though we're not together anymore. So not only is he spreading lies but he's invading the areas that are supposed to be my calming safe zones. Him being in there really, really causes my anxiety level to spike.

I feel terribly hurt, especially because he was a total... Well, I'm not going to let myself swear on here but you get the picture. He really hurt me and now he's hurting me more.

Like I said, I don't know what to do. How do I manage the anxiety that comes with this? How do I handle the situation at school if people ask me questions? Or worse, if he tries talking to me? He said he wanted to stay friends, which isn't going to happen, especially not now. He's a total jerk and I don't need this kind of stress on top of going through a medication change and heightened symptoms.

*sigh* Okay, rant done with. I really hope one of these days coming up I'll catch a break. Dx

In other news, I might be getting an IEP again rather than a 504. I think it'll be a good thing, because then I'll have a case manager I can go to during times like these, rather than bother my school's guidance counselor all the time.

Anyways, some help and advice would be lovely. Thanks in advance.

[Secretum]

Is there any way you can arrange to eat in another room, somewhere where your ex can't find you? I'd be very anxious in a situation like that as well. I'm sorry that he's being such a jerk, though the fact that he still eats in the same room may suggest that he has mixed feelings. Part of him wants to hurt you by spreading rumors, but another part was serious about maintaining a post-breakup friendship. Is he nice to you during lunchtime?

If it's any consolation, drama can keep life interesting. I never had any drama in high school (due to anxiety keeping me from getting really involved with other people), and sometimes I feel like I've missed out on a major life event.

I hope that the med change helps you. How are you doing with the paranoid thoughts and hallucinations?

[Hydrophobic1212]

Originally Posted by Secretum

Is there any way you can arrange to eat in another room, somewhere where your ex can't find you? I'd be very anxious in a situation like that as well. I'm sorry that he's being such a jerk, though the fact that he still eats in the same room may suggest that he has mixed feelings. Part of him wants to hurt you by spreading rumors, but another part was serious about maintaining a post-breakup friendship. Is he nice to you during lunchtime?

If it's any consolation, drama can keep life interesting. I never had any drama in high school (due to anxiety keeping me from getting really involved with other people), and sometimes I feel like I've missed out on a major life event.

I hope that the med change helps you. How are you doing with the paranoid thoughts and hallucinations?

I'm going to see if I can eat somewhere else. He doesn't talk to me at lunch, he just came in and sat on the opposite side of the room. It's just his presence there spikes my anxiety too much.

I do like some drama, I will admit, but not when it's directly affecting me.

My hallucinations and paranoia have been pretty good on this new medication. I'm being cautiously optimistic. Thanks for asking.

[manicminer]

Hydro, I'm 23 and recently graduated college. So highschool is still very fresh in my mind. I get the thread topic question. Sorry to burst your bubble, but the answer is no, it doesn't stop.

I too was under the impression that the highschool drama ******** stops in highschool. Then it carried into college and I thought maybe that's where it ends. Wrong again.

Its even worse in the "real world". But at least they are "adult" problems. But most people, some of those that even went to college and have sucessful careers, are still stuck in highschool. They treat Friday nights at the bar the same way the boys treat a Friday night football game now.

People have a natural urge to be the alpha male/female in whatever they do. All women are biatches and all men are a-holes. Just some of us control it better than others. That's my personal take on things anyway.

This wasn't meant to scare you or upset you, but to prepare you. If you begin to understand now that the problems you are facing now you are goin to have to face the rest of your life, the more you can do to ready yourself when they come up.

Some words of advice: don't let the little things get to you, listen to your doctors, and find a group of people that you trust and that will support you, no matter how bad things get. I found my group in college, my fraternity, and I credit them with saving my life and getting me the help I needed. (wasn't dx'd til junior year of college but struggling all my life).

Good luck and best wishes