[TRNRMOM]

i have been diagnosed bp2 for over 30 years and have been very stable taking lithium and klonopin for years. i know my triggers and know how to stablize. however, we just sold our 3000 sq. ft. and are downsizing to a bank-owned 1800 sq. ft. condo, which means no actual move-in date into condo but must move out of sold house next tues. i've done the majority of the purging and packing and the stress of this move, the uncertainty of move-in, obsessing and feeling i need to pack every single minute i'm in the house while hubby works 12 hr. days, has left me anxious, obsessive, and losing sleep. shrink had to increase the sleep meds. as well as the anti-anx. meds which made me a zombie and i just can't seem to enjoy anything out of this move while i'm in the house, in spite of having sold it in less than 2 days and making good $$ off the sale. i see and feel no joy and i'm leaning on hubby so much i can tell he's fed up. he's in charge of the garage and his home office and he's helpful but i can't get myself out of what i feel is a deep hole.

[Tosspot]

I can't relate to what you're going through (i'm on my first apt financially independent from the rents)
BUT
I can say we are here for you, whatever you need. Just ask us. What are you looking to accomplish exactly? We might be able to give a clearer answer for you

[sunflowercowgirl]

I know it's hard to feel like you are doing everything yourself and be stressed with too many things at once and I understand how easy it is to get rapped up in everything, but what you need to keep in mind is that in the end everything will be absolutely fine and you will probably never have to make a move like that again.

[SunAngel]

An author posted a thing she has put into her book.

It says something like, When you are going through renovations in your home, everything is a mess and you can only see this mess, but the outcome is going to be awesome.

If you are going through changes in your life, there are going to be inconveniences and messes, but the outcome is a better life. You have to go through the mess and just hold onto the outcome because you will find it is a better life for yourself.

It always works this way. You have to look at the big picture and the time when you are over the mess your find yourself in.

((((HUGS))))

[TRNRMOM]

Originally Posted by SunAngel

An author posted a thing she has put into her book.

It says something like, When you are going through renovations in your home, everything is a mess and you can only see this mess, but the outcome is going to be awesome.

If you are going through changes in your life, there are going to be inconveniences and messes, but the outcome is a better life. You have to go through the mess and just hold onto the outcome because you will find it is a better life for yourself.

It always works this way. You have to look at the big picture and the time when you are over the mess your find yourself in.

((((HUGS))))

everything that all of you have written are identical to what i've been hearing from my hubby and close friends and family. i know it will be great moving into a downsized condo w/lesser expenses (we're in our 60's) but it seems the stress of packing,purging and not knowing definitely that we do in fact have the condo, keep me thinking only in the negative, which is so self-destructive to me and my hubby. i feel that this is the worst `episode' i've ever had and it just feels never ending til we get the move-in date for the condo. i just don't know how to deal w/all the `overwhelm' and am doing what i can to take care of myself. i know it will pass, i will have time to stabilize, but my life has been very good and calm for about 20 yrs. but this move has really done me in. just typing is therapy and reading your replies has helped. thank you.

We bought a house 6 months ago that was in short sale so we had no idea when we'd be able to close but we had to worry about giving our landlord at the time enough notice that we were moving out. Moving by itself is a stressful event much less having to worry about move dates! Hang in there and try to remember that at one point soon it will be over.

[TRNRMOM]

Originally Posted by joannasouras

We bought a house 6 months ago that was in short sale so we had no idea when we'd be able to close but we had to worry about giving our landlord at the time enough notice that we were moving out. Moving by itself is a stressful event much less having to worry about move dates! Hang in there and try to remember that at one point soon it will be over.

i think the unknown of when we close on the new condo is creating much of the angst. buyer was here yesterdy and asked if we could get the movers to come a day earlier..which is not possible, but again, it stressed me no end.
i hear we sign papers on mon. to get short sale condo, but yesterday 1/2 of what was needed to be repaired per the inspection to make the sale of the house go thru, needed more repair which will continue today...we did sign the papers to close on house yesterday afternoon, yet i can't see the positive from that.
it seems the stress never ends and i'm tired of taking extra meds of anti-anx. and sleep meds to cope. how does one stabilize after what i consider to be the most stressful situation i've ever experienced...and hubby's patience has worn thin.

[lad007]

Change is hard, and having unknowns can make it unbearable, I can relate.
I think for us BP's having control makes us feel safe, and you have a situation you have little control over.
You mentioned you have learned how to stabilize, why is it not working now? Are you working hard on the things that you know traditionally have made you feel better? I know when I get stressed some of my coping strategies go out the window, when it is specifically then that I need them the most.
Best of luck with things.