[Miss Laura]

Hey guys,

Today I found out that my parents whom I live with have no money after January. My Mum can't get a job at all and my Dad got a Christmas job in a shop but is not getting kept on- tomorrow is his last day working there. We came home from an outing and my Dad said we got the bills in. I dread that word. My Mum says after my Dad's pay which he will get next month we can't afford anything. I am stressing like mad. Its all my fault. I should be out working. I am nearly 27 and I am not working. I should be. I spoke with my Support Worker today and we spoke about what job I would g into. I said I still wanted to worked in care. She said maybe I need to re-think it as it might be a stressful job for me. I worked previously in care. Its my job, I have known it for 10 years. I am on a benefit called ESA. I had to go for an interview at the Jobcentre and they deemed me unfit to work back in September. My 3 months are up now and I have heard nothing from them. I can apparently volunteer myself to look for work via a worker from the Jobcentre.

What am I to do? Do I go looking for a job or don't I?

Then I am worrying about my reference from my old job who sacked me in May. I am worried about what they are gonna write about me. I have the Volunteer Co-ordinator from my other job but I still need my most recent employment. I never hurt anyone. I went off sick when I knew I was ill so not to put anyone in my charge in danger.

Why is life so frigging complicate and frustrating?

[di meliora]

Hello, Miss Laura. I am not going to be of much help, unfortunately. Perhaps you might ask your support worker what you options are and if you are entitled to any other assistance because of your parents' situation.

Also, have your parents checked to see if they are entitled to any assistance?

[Miss Laura]

Hey Elan Vital,

Ye my parents have all the support they can have. I think I have all the support too! I get money from the government. But its not much even though I am on the highest rate there. It just worries me as I use to live on my own but had to move back home. I'm in debt to them too! They know I will pay them back but due to not working I contribute about £50 a month to the household which isn't much. Its so frustrating. I wish I had a lottery ticket

[lad007]

You don't have the mention the job you got fired from. I know it's not honest, but I have done it, and if you have to buy groceries, and stay warm you do what you have to do. If you enjoy doing care work, go for that.

[tutitaylor]

Miss Laura- Although it is not much help, I can understand your situation. As a parent myself I always worry about my children. I am sure that your parents are not feeling bad about you living there. They will work things out and you can try to get a little job to help. I know it is scary, but I would do what the other friend suggested and not mention the last job. Go for what you love to do! I wish you many blessings in the new year. Keep me posted if you feel like it as I care about you and your outcome!

[BlackPup]

Having a job helps me stay stable, maybe it can help you too. What do your support workers say about getting a job. If they think you are not ready then give yourself the time you need to recover but otherwise I think a job can be a really healthy thing. ( stressful but healthy !!!)