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Old Dec 30, 2011, 11:43 AM
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"Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference"

Woooaaaaa...Whatta year...This year, there have been a lot of changes for me in my life...Some bad, but mostly good...The best thing by far is that for the first time in my life, at 33 years old, I love and accept myself completely for who I am...I love myself...It took me 33 years to get to this point...I was literally starting to get disgusted with myself...No more hiding from mirrors because I didn't even want to look at myself...I embrace who I am...Flaws and all...Although there have been relationships that have suffered throughout the years, I cannot go back and change what has been done...That is in the past...I cannot continue to beat myself up over things I cannot change...I can only accept myself, and hope that others will do the same...My relationship with my SO has suffered immensely because of my condition...But at the end of the day, when all is said and done, and the tears have came until they couldn't come any more, I find peace in knowing that I am now at peace with myself...Although I am not 100% where I want to be, this is a start...This is a good start...I know that everyday will be a constant struggle...And everyday will bring challenges..I accept it as it is, and can only take things day by day....***sighs*** I cannot allow more tears to fall as I write this...I can't...I cried on the way to work yesterday and pressed through the work day...Had a headache all day...

Ok...I thought it would be a good idea for everyone to list what their accomplishments have been in 2011 and what their goals are for next year...It can be anything...I will start:

Goals for this year, 2012 (in no order):

1) Continue to grow and work on me
2) Make time and effort to get myself involved in a fun activity..Always wanted to do the strip aerobics thing...Sign myself up for some classes...Don't judge me..I can't help it...
3) Strengthen my relationship with my daughter...Form a tighter bond
4) Go back to school to start classes in child psychology/related field
5) Work on my relationship with Mr.Irreplaceable. Either we stay together, or not...If we stay, I'll give the relationship 110%
6) Continue to be there for my father in any way possible
7) Stop trying to help people who don't want to be helped
8) Spend more time with my great nephew...
9) Work out more to keep myself fit...And healthy of course :-)
10) Start doing play dates...I need to find other mommies my age, with kids who are my age and mommies I can relate more to...Tired of befriending folks with teenage kids..No I cannot go out this weekend...My kid ain't grown yet...I had my baby in my 20's, not teen years...I didn't do things...No offense to anyone..

What about you?....
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Old Dec 30, 2011, 12:46 PM
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First off... Congrats on being content with you... it takes a lot to get there... We all know that!

Now, I have to say for 2012... I would like to learn how not to have my manic attacks. Also, learn to be content wirh playing cars all day with my son... But also learn to cope with his temper tantrums without wanting to pull my hair out. (yes im 22 with a 2 year old, no mistakes, still with his daddy) and, to continue my great relationship with most of my family; and maybe work on the one with my mom?if its worth it... But, the biggest is trying to boost me and my confidence. Lets see where these go...
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Old Dec 30, 2011, 12:48 PM
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Well, I think the only 2 things I have accomplished for 2011 is quit my meds luckily without any repercussions (besides a week of withdrawls) and Realising how detrimental my behaviour is to my personal relations when deluded.
2012: find gainful employment, and work on my mothering skills
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Old Dec 30, 2011, 01:35 PM
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Great thread!

2011: Got dx'd for both BP and ADHD, started treatment. 2 articles accepted to "A" journals, best poster award, dissertation progress, secured a postdoc for next year, invited speaker gig in the UK. Completed end-to-end hike of a 120-mile trail. (why yes, I am an overachiever...)

2012: Get stable! Get sober, which I know I need to do despite resisting and resenting it. Improve my physical health, since 7 years of grad school sitting behind a computer has taken quite a toll. Hike the CL50, a 50-mile loop around Cranberry Lake in the Adirondacks. Most important of all: finish and defend dissertation (Dr. Maniac!), start new job, ????, PROFIT!
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Old Dec 30, 2011, 01:56 PM
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Happy new year everyone!

2011: quit smoking; quit drinking; got re-diagnosed with BP and started treatment; moved to a job I love (even if the workload is massively unhealthy).

2012: stay stable/reduce meds to just mood-stabiliser; eat better; get exercise; get used to not being so depressed and a) get out more, b) meet new people, c) go on a holiday.
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Old Dec 30, 2011, 02:43 PM
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First off... Congrats on being content with you... it takes a lot to get there... We all know that!

Now, I have to say for 2012... I would like to learn how not to have my manic attacks. Also, learn to be content wirh playing cars all day with my son... But also learn to cope with his temper tantrums without wanting to pull my hair out. (yes im 22 with a 2 year old, no mistakes, still with his daddy) and, to continue my great relationship with most of my family; and maybe work on the one with my mom?if its worth it... But, the biggest is trying to boost me and my confidence. Lets see where these go...
No judgements here I know how it feels to be unfairly judged...Please don't take what I said the wrong way..I sometimes try to keep it "too real" and say too much on message boards...There are plenty of women out there, your age, with babies and don't take care of them...Let alone even try playing with them...I can count on one hand right now people I know like that...I applaud you...Being a mom is a difficult yet rewarding job...

Thanks for the responses everyone!...I'm surprised no one made this threat yet....HAPPY NEW YEAR to you all...Let's plan to have a good 2012...

Anyone else want to add anything?
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Old Dec 30, 2011, 05:32 PM
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Thanks for clearing that up. I take very good care of my son! Get frusteated... But who doesnt? Just felt attacked... But... Im looking forward to the new year and hopefully good things arise!
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Old Dec 30, 2011, 08:25 PM
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2011: Survived a very hard and trying year. Can't think of anything else. That took up most of my time(!)

2012: Not resolutions per se, because I don't do them, but...

Do more art.
Get a job.

That'd be nice.
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Old Dec 30, 2011, 08:34 PM
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One major, important accomplishment I had in 2011 was to kick a prescription drug addiction. This addiction stunted me in my growth. As I kicked this addiction, I grew tremondously.

I don't make NY's Resolutions except to keep on keeping on track.
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Old Dec 31, 2011, 10:24 PM
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2011 graduated with a PhD. got a job and persisted despite it being terrible.
2012 to have a child.
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Old Dec 31, 2011, 11:47 PM
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2011-took risks-travel nursing, great gains in physical health (consistant weight training, cardio and loosing 62 pounds and keeping it off) trying to be more true to myself instead of status quo, moshed at a metal concert
2012-No resolutions-I will continue my lifestyle of healthy eating, regular excersize and maintaining weight loss, leave my relationship, get back to living from the deepest core of myself, playing and doing that one thing I have been waiting/wanting for now for 7 years........This will take the courage to be myself despite most people not understanding or approving.....so be it
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Old Jan 01, 2012, 12:29 AM
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2011: Finished my master's, had a baby and landed my first "real" job as a librarian

2012: To stay out of the psych hospital, improve my spiritual life and lose weight. That's the best I can do right now and I think that's enough.
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Old Jan 02, 2012, 12:30 PM
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2011: did quite good at school.
Got up my guts to lead a project where group of international volunteers taught kids english. I did well. Managed to deal with impossible people. All foreigners survived.... eh, I mean had a great time.
Travelled down to Albania on my own for another project. Saw places, met people. Seen Kosova (see, I am raising my bar for godawful places.... I mean preparing for career in post-conflict assistance and nation-building).
Started writting my diploma thesis.
Survived

Goals for 2012
get that ******* MA diploma
find a job
figure out this life
survive
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Old Jan 03, 2012, 12:51 PM
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Thanks for clearing that up. I take very good care of my son! Get frusteated... But who doesnt? Just felt attacked... But... Im looking forward to the new year and hopefully good things arise!
No problem...I come in peace
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Old Jan 03, 2012, 12:52 PM
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2011 graduated with a PhD. got a job and persisted despite it being terrible.
2012 to have a child.
Congrats on your PHD!
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Old Jan 03, 2012, 12:54 PM
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2011-took risks-travel nursing, great gains in physical health (consistant weight training, cardio and loosing 62 pounds and keeping it off) trying to be more true to myself instead of status quo, moshed at a metal concert
2012-No resolutions-I will continue my lifestyle of healthy eating, regular excersize and maintaining weight loss, leave my relationship, get back to living from the deepest core of myself, playing and doing that one thing I have been waiting/wanting for now for 7 years........This will take the courage to be myself despite most people not understanding or approving.....so be it
You never want to live life and have regrets...Live your life for YOU despite what others think...It's a rewarding experience to take chances and succeeed...
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Old Jan 03, 2012, 05:27 PM
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2011: Find out I have Bipolar II (an accomplishment because it led to the next one), go on Lamictal, get stable, get a new job, get a girlfriend
2012: stay stable, recover financially, move in with girlfriend
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Old Jan 03, 2012, 10:45 PM
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2011 - Stayed alive
2012 - Dammit! Just kill myself and get it over with already.
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Accomplishments for 2011, Goals for 2012....

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
---Robert Frost
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