[Moose72]

My mother and her jerk husband were being sarcastic ad swearing over nothing today. They are just back from a short camping trip and have renewed energies to attack and abuse me and my kids. They have no remorse and just keep on with mental and verbal abuse. I can't figure out how to move out on my own and thus my suicidal history. Every step I take, I get criticized- "why are you doing that? Where are you going?" etcetc. Every step!!

[Irreplaceable]

What types of things do they say? You said they are abusive

[Moose72]

They say things all the time like "Jesus Christ...." they mutter under ther breath at us. They criticize constantly. Follow us around and comment on very move we make. Yell. Shout. Scream. Give evil looks. Look PLEASED with themselves for the evil looks and gallant off pleased that theyve hurt us. I think they are alcoholics. Charge at us threatening violence. Throw our belongings away without asking. Eat our food stamp food without asking and without remorse. Then turn around and put on a nice face for anybody else. They try to control every move we made. Step by step. Strong-arming., threatening- whatever they deem necessary. I can't figure out how to move our and I can't stand it anymore.

[Aslan]

well do your best to appease them, stay out of there way.
maybe they will cool off.

[Moose72]

This has gone on for 8 years. !!!!!!!!! I can't appease the evil gods any longer.

[Aslan]

I presume your living in their house?
cant ask them to move out that would
be unreasonable, so for now try and
keep the peace, hopefully things will
improve and go back to normality.

[grandmaof3]

Can you go to social services to see if they can help you move out ? My town has a place called Safehomes for people in abusive situations. They let you stay there for awhile to help you on your feet and they help find resources like low income housing and help with security deposits and things like that. Maybe there is something like that in your town. No one should put up with abuse from anyone and its not good for your mental state either . It sounds like you really have to get out of that situation. Hugs your way !

[Moose72]

There is no normal.

I've tried social workers and I'm only given lists of housing that are all full. Nobody can help me!! I am utterly stuck to live in abuse. Only way out is for them or me to die. In fact, they routinely bait me so that i might get arrested.!!!!!!It's only my kids that keep me from going there.

[Moose72]

And all I get told is that since its their house they are allowed to do anything to me in it even abuse.!!!!!

[Aslan]

do your kids get on with them?
maybe they are feeling your emotions sometimes
and you are not aware of this, just a guess.

[grandmaof3]

Have you no other family you could stay with ? or friends ?

[Confusedinomicon]

Can you get on the waiting list for something like Section 8 housing and not tell them? Then you could move out and they couldn't stop you? It might take a while for the paperwork and stuff to get processed but I'm sure it is possible to move out some way.

[BuggsBunny]

Yes, take those lists and start signing up for the housing. Waiting lists are long, but they do open up in time. It will give you something to look forward to. Next, call the county health department and ask for a list of domestic abuse shelters. Call around and see if one of them will take you, then pack up and GO.

[~Christina]

I agree with the abuse shelter option... once your there they tend to find low income housing faster than you would just filling outt he paperwork and waiting ,, NOONE should have to live this way Im so sorry you are having to suffer thru this ... Call for help with shelters they are there for people in your situation!!!

Dont allow them to beat you down .. you have enough on your plate as is .

((((HUGS)))))

[Moose72]

I'd love to sue them -at least.

[Moose72]

Not caked today but they were gone. This topic overwhelmed me.

[Moose72]

Originally Posted by morethingswrong

I agree with the abuse shelter option... once your there they tend to find low income housing faster than you would just filling outt he paperwork and waiting ,, NOONE should have to live this way Im so sorry you are having to suffer thru this ... Call for help with shelters they are there for people in your situation!!!

Dont allow them to beat you down .. you have enough on your plate as is .

((((HUGS)))))

What do I do with my 3 kids??

Moose. I would go to a women's shelter. Seriously I would. Their behavior is going to have an impact on your children as well. I have been in women's shelters, three different ones in three different cities until I got to the city I needed to be in after I left my ex. They are not that bad, honestly the ones I stayed at were pretty nice. They helped me get the resources I needed to get on my feet. We had to leave with nothing but a suitcase, so they also helped me with furniture and kitchen items ect that I needed.

I live in low income housing. I was on a wait list for 6 years. Seriously. What you need to do is get on the lists. Then keep calling them to inquire and let them know you need housing ASAP. I didn't do that. I didn't know I was supposed to. But the squeaky wheel gets the grease. So true. Most of my neighbors in low income housing only waited a few months because they kept on the housing agencies everyday.

You take your kids with you. The shelters I was in have special rooms for moms with children, they had play rooms, play equipment in the outdoor space and they even offered counseling for the children if they needed it.

I went from living in the worst neighborhood in my city, paying my whole disability cheque to rent for a two bedroom dive that was infested with mice and drugs, no bedroom of my own, to getting a four bedroom town house in a nice area, good for children, clean, quite, and now I only pay 545 for rent. Which is dirt cheap here. My place would normally rent for about 1500 a month. No way I could afford that. It's soo worth it for me and my kids. Just don't give up!!!!!!