[tnlibrarian]

That's what DH told me about my bipolar and depression that has hit me hard. It also pretty much sums up his attitude about my bipolar--when it gets bad I'm to pull myself up by my boot straps and do something about it. Make it go away and stop. To that my response is usually, "I'll do something about my bipolar when you do something about your diabetes."

That always ends the conversation but it still irks me. Since when is mental illness like a stomach ache--you take something for it, the stomach ache goes away, you don't deal with it again. It seriously makes me want to slap people upside the head. You can't make mental illness disappear anymore than you can make diabetes, autism or cancer suddenly disappear.

[noneedtoknow]

True, but with diabetes, you can
modify your diet, get excersize, take your oral diabetes med or if you need to take insulin.....
With MI you can, do therapy, take meds, excersize, meditate, write, whatever tools help.....
Might now tmake things go away, but can certainly optimize your health-physical or mental
Just sayin

[venusss]

Also... spirit is important. You may not be able to change how you feel, but you may change your actions.

And learn what is good for you, prioritize your needs...

You may learn to live with it or despite it, or be miserable for it (many people with terminal illnesses have great lifes. Many peopel who been through rought sht have great lifes).

[Nixi]

I understand what you're saying though if you're doing as much as you can and people still give these throw away comments. They just don't understand it's not as easy as 'pull your socks up'!!! Sorry I have no constructive advice but I empathize greatly!

[venusss]

But be honest with ourselves.... what do we want when we complain to others, especially our loved ones? Understanding? Is it ever enough for us or will we still think that if they hadn't been there they just cain't understand? Or we want extra time, maybe time away from them? Or we secretly expect they may provide us a miracle?

And what would we say to a person who is talking time and time again about problem we don't understand?

[CastlesInTheAir]

DH?.....

[BuggsBunny]

I'm sorry DH is giving you an attitude about it. I understand the urge to slap upside the head. Sometimes my sister just wants to blame everything on my meds, or my pc game, or now this website, instead of just accepting that I am bipolar. I am prone to highs and lows. Things I do can help/harm, but sometimes, it's just the dang disease. I want to smack her upside the head, too!
Hang in there!

[tnlibrarian]

Sorry--my husband. I post on a parenting board and we use "DH" for husband. :0) Really--I do understand what you guys are saying and you are right. I think this irritated me so much because it comes on the heels of him seriously informing me I'm "old" (I'm 35--far from old IMO) and basically keeping a little laundry list of things I need to change about myself. Usually I ignore comments like that but I guess it got to me more than usual.

[BlueInanna]

He is your husband, supposed to be there for you. Tell him , that hurts me when you non-chalantly say to do something about my depression, I want it to go away, but it doesnt. Tell him you love him and just need some extra tenderness right now. I really hope it gets a little better for you and have had similar expressions from people in the past and it does not feel good. He can be educated on the subject, maybe that would help.