[cocoabeans]

Both my husband and myself have bipolar. One of the things I notice we both do sometimes when maybe a bit manic, is go on non-stop rants but, think it is funny. It really is just angry, criticisms of the world but, to the one doing it, it is a long monologue of funny materials. Total lack of insight into how it is coming across.

One thing we find each other saying to the other is, "You're doing that thing again where you think you're being funny but, it isn't. You're just being angry and hey you're not sleeping? Are you getting a bit manicky?"

We're married ever so happily so, we obviously have some personality traits in common and sardonic sense of humor is definitely something we share but, this particular thing where it crosses from funny to rants of pure cynicism seems to be associated with bipolar symptoms.

Anyone else get that or something like it matching their own view point?

[roads]

Yeah, and more educated/involved/intelligent people have this tendency, it seems to me. I had a prof in university ... Looking back, I realize now this was going in. But at the time I just thought he was I bit mad & judgmental.

Sounds like you're food to & for each other. Take best care!

Roadie

[moremi]

My husband has pointed it out to me before, I really thought I was being funny.
Guess not. He points things out to me that I dont really see. He knows me so very well. I love him to pieces. Im glad there are others out there that share the closeness that my hubs and I have. He is like an extended part of myself.

[unaluna]

You probably ARE being funny. Partly why people laugh in comedy clubs is because OTHER people are laughing, they're drunk, it's dark, and they are crowded in close together. That's why, when I'm ranting, I sometimes throw in, "yeah, but you'd be laughing if you had paid 30 bucks to hear this in a comedy club." You have to let people know it's okay to laugh. Esp in the bipolar situation, right?

[xraydiva09]

Originally Posted by cocoabeans

Both my husband and myself have bipolar. One of the things I notice we both do sometimes when maybe a bit manic, is go on non-stop rants but, think it is funny. It really is just angry, criticisms of the world but, to the one doing it, it is a long monologue of funny materials. Total lack of insight into how it is coming across.

One thing we find each other saying to the other is, "You're doing that thing again where you think you're being funny but, it isn't. You're just being angry and hey you're not sleeping? Are you getting a bit manicky?"

We're married ever so happily so, we obviously have some personality traits in common and sardonic sense of humor is definitely something we share but, this particular thing where it crosses from funny to rants of pure cynicism seems to be associated with bipolar symptoms.

Anyone else get that or something like it matching their own view point?

LOL....My signif other and I have that sort of relationship, but Im the one who is nuts and he is, well, I guess that holy grail called normal....We make fun of each other and rant at each other all of the time, but really I think its what actually puts a smile on my face and makes me laugh instead of mushy stuff all day long.....he will lovingly tell me he cant get by because my butt is too big lol......or I'll tell him he has enough moose in his hair to start his own lodge.....or I will tell him he is getting on my f'n nerves and I would like him oh so much better if he quits talking right now....I think its whatever works for the relationship....I figure everything else is serious enough; why be serious all of the time at home too?

[Irreplaceable]

Originally Posted by cocoabeans

Both my husband and myself have bipolar. One of the things I notice we both do sometimes when maybe a bit manic, is go on non-stop rants but, think it is funny. It really is just angry, criticisms of the world but, to the one doing it, it is a long monologue of funny materials. Total lack of insight into how it is coming across.

One thing we find each other saying to the other is, "You're doing that thing again where you think you're being funny but, it isn't. You're just being angry and hey you're not sleeping? Are you getting a bit manicky?"

We're married ever so happily so, we obviously have some personality traits in common and sardonic sense of humor is definitely something we share but, this particular thing where it crosses from funny to rants of pure cynicism seems to be associated with bipolar symptoms.

Anyone else get that or something like it matching their own view point?

Yes...I believe I do this from time to time. Go into what I think is making a joke or being funny about something in particular, that I'm pissed about, trying to make light of the situation, but in actuality, I'm ranting and don't even realize it until my significant other says something to me Maybe it's the look on my face when I talk...I dunno After I realize what I'm doing after being called on it... I'm like d*mn...Let me go sit down and calm down ***sighs*** So glad I'm not alone with experiencing some of this stuff because I tell you, you begin to feel like a crazy person when you do things and don't notice it but everyone else around does...Then you feel like...I dunno Like I'm "alone" and no one else gets it....Now, when he gets quiet when I talk sometimes, that's my indication that I'm "going off"....God I love him...I would think I was a little off too..

[Irreplaceable]

Originally Posted by moremi

My husband has pointed it out to me before, I really thought I was being funny.
Guess not. He points things out to me that I dont really see. He knows me so very well. I love him to pieces. Im glad there are others out there that share the closeness that my hubs and I have. He is like an extended part of myself.

The same with me and my partner...I don't even realize some of the stuff I do (well, sometimes) until he says, "Bay, calm down"

[Irreplaceable]

Originally Posted by xraydiva09

LOL....My signif other and I have that sort of relationship, but Im the one who is nuts and he is, well, I guess that holy grail called normal....We make fun of each other and rant at each other all of the time, but really I think its what actually puts a smile on my face and makes me laugh instead of mushy stuff all day long.....he will lovingly tell me he cant get by because my butt is too big lol......or I'll tell him he has enough moose in his hair to start his own lodge.....or I will tell him he is getting on my f'n nerves and I would like him oh so much better if he quits talking right now....I think its whatever works for the relationship....I figure everything else is serious enough; why be serious all of the time at home too?

Yes yes yes. I do believe that this is one of the reasons he has been with me for 8 years despite my craziness. I realize this which is why I do squats daily...LOL.. He says that all pretty women are crazy Go figure...He could be right...

[BipolaRNurse]

I can't even imagine being married to another bipolar. One in the house is bad enough, LOL!!

[beauflow]

Cocoabeans thank you soo much for sharing this- I tend to do that whole, joke around but ranting angry-- I do it at work with co-workers that I tend to find the common thing in us is something I get a few chuckles for the most part some people have given this look like wtf is wrong with this one... but whatever...

I can get a point at times where I am the only one laughing, and I try to straighten up after I note it was a little far for some.... Try something lighter.

My brother and I- both dx with bp he 1 and i 2 but we used to do this a lot, we would get down right angry ranting about something we agreed on and some times a little sadistic-- it is a great stress relief some times... Our dad was the same way-- perhaps with us it is a personality thing? but idk...

My boyfriend these days at times does it with me, but he at times also goes "coocoocachoo lady" all in good humor though...

Be well all and thanks again for sharing this