[simoneadams91]

So, I know I haven't posted anything in awhile. To give you all a brief update.. I found out I was pregnant in march, got kicked out of school, and is currently homeless living with my sister. Needless to say, I'm losing my mind.
I stopped taking my meds for the safety of the baby, but I'm really starting to think that maybe I should start taking them again.
I'm worried about being in the right mind set as far as taking care of this kid.
I never wanted kids, and this pregnancy was far from planned. I'm just really struggling on what to do and how to handle my fear and anxiety of raising a child or giving it up. Plus everything thing else I'm dealing with on top of being bipolar. I'm really at my breaking point and I feel like no one really understands where I'm coming from.

Simoneadams91,
I do not have kids but I understand that the maternal side of you comes out when you do have them. I would not worry about being an able mother. If anything consider it a reason for getting healthy. I would check with the Doc about taking your meds while you are pregnant, maybe you can which would be good. I am true believer that things will work out one way or another...
lots of hugs!
Nena

[Trippin2.0]

That's a pretty full plate you got there. I had an unplanned pregnancy, after I got over the initial shock and panic. I realized I wanted my baby more than anything, regardless. If not wanting children isn't changing, I suggest you start looking at agencies/organisations, about adoption. I can't imagine many worse things than growing up unwanted. Even if you never verbalise it, your child will eventually know...
Can you see a pdoc about pregnancy - safe meds? I hope the tide changes soon

[Trippin2.0]

Also, I want to touch on the maternal instinct topic. I've NEVER had any maternal or domestic inclination EVER. My daughter is teaching me how to play with dolls, THAT'S how far back I've been unmaternal. Being a female does N0T automatically make you mother material. Maternal knowledge does not flood you once you give birth, that's pure BS to those of us without that instinct... What did flood me tho, was an abundance of unconditional love and fierce protection, the knowledge that I would gladly give my life to protect her. I kid you not. It has been an 8yr long learning curve, HARD hard work, 2nd guessing myself, questioning the quality of my nurturing skills, meltdowns,BUT, it has been WORTH IT!

Originally Posted by Trippin2.0

Also, I want to touch on the maternal instinct topic. I've NEVER had any maternal or domestic inclination EVER. My daughter is teaching me how to play with dolls, THAT'S how far back I've been unmaternal. Being a female does N0T automatically make you mother material. Maternal knowledge does not flood you once you give birth, that's pure BS to those of us without that instinct... What did flood me tho, was an abundance of unconditional love and fierce protection, the knowledge that I would gladly give my life to protect her. I kid you not. It has been an 8yr long learning curve, HARD hard work, 2nd guessing myself, questioning the quality of my nurturing skills, meltdowns,BUT, it has been WORTH IT!

I guess they are wrong about that one. As I said I have no children. i guess it is just wishful thinking on my part :-)

[Trippin2.0]

Yeah, I was completely blindsided Nena, coz I expected it too... I think they made that up to either reassure a future mom she'll get it (back when careers were a no-no) and coz according to most societies, women who don't want children or have the need for children and domestication are seen as 'unnatural'... Idk, just my thoughts on it.

Originally Posted by Trippin2.0

Yeah, I was completely blindsided Nena, coz I expected it too... I think they made that up to either reassure a future mom she'll get it (back when careers were a no-no) and coz according to most societies, women who don't want children or have the need for children and domestication are seen as 'unnatural'... Idk, just my thoughts on it.

I think you are right about the sociological changes and the why we view motherhood.

[hamster-bamster]

My understanding is that as pregnancy progresses beyond the first trimester, some doctors, weighing pros and cons with the pregnant patients, will prescribe. But then after you give birth, if you decide to keep the baby, comes another decision - it is either breastfeeding which is best for the baby in the perfect circumstances, or meds. Meds get passed through to breast milk right away. I imagine that this is a horrible choice to face.