[faerie_moon_x]

One thing I have trouble with is making plans.

For example. Yesterday we had my middle son's birthday party. We always go to the same place, Chuck E Cheese. So that part is easy. Next comes inviting people. I have trouble with this. Part of me thinks "they already know they are invited." But the other part of me thinks "I need to tell them when and what times." We always invite the same people.

Okay, so it comes to telling the people what day and what time. I have trouble with this. I have low to moderate anxiety about telling them. I have trouble deciding the day. I procrastinate. This year I don't remember how we decided the day, except it was 2 days after pay day which was part of it. Then to decide the time. waited all the way up until Saturday to decide. Finally my mother-in-law helped me by suggestion I call to ask when it is less busy on Sunday. So she said around 4 p.m it is less busy, but then my husband said wait until 6 p.m. so that when we leave the weather is cool. With help, that is good for me to have that help.

Now... we needed to get the cupcakes for the party. I had a great deal of anxiety about this. Finally at 4 p.m. we went. (Me and my middle son.) He picked them out. But I procrastinated until then...

Why does making plans make me so nervous? Does any one else have that problem. I always have this problem. When my husband helps or makes suggestions I do better. But left on my own I struggle internally to get it done, to the point that often I don't do them.

[BlueInanna]

I think I have the same thing My 10 yr old has never had a bday party cuz I can't get it together (or this year it was cuz his brother was in the bhu). But I am a chronic procrastinator and I hate that. I can be so indecisive. I get anxiety about planning things with people cuz so many times i have flaked due to "not feeling well".

With my older kids, we did do some bday parties and it was usually me calling the families sortof last minute. But I see other moms do that too, they just say, "I know this is a bit last minute but we'd like to invite you to "Tim's" bday party."

Can hubby take care of this one for you? It's gotta be a bit more overwhelming with the new baby. Give him a good pat on his chest so he can feel extra manly for taking care of you

I don't know if any of that helps, here I am procrastinating work I should be doing! But I know you'll pull it off and it will be a happy day for your son

[BNLsMOM]

I don't have trouble planning. I can have everything all mapped out in my head. What I have trouble with is follow through. I can't tell you how many plans I have for myself and my family and the future, but I never follow through. My husband is a huge procrastinator and tends to get angry when I ask him to do things. He wants to do things on his own schedule and when someone asks him to do things, he puts it off. Makes life stressful when I am unable to follow through.

[faerie_moon_x]

I feel fortunate that my husband always suggests things and that seems to get me moving, and most times it doesn't bother him but sometimes I think it annoys him. Or like this time my mother-in-law suggesting I call and ask a good time instead of guessing.

I know I'm manic when I have lots of plans but don't follow through. I think a lot of it is I lose confidance and I get confused about what I'm doing sometimes. The only plan I ever seem to make is to sit down and relax but I don't get to follow through on that much either.

The birthday party went fine. It was on the 1st. Even the baby had fun.

[RobertDark]

Glad your party went well!

I sometimes have issues with planning as well. Things like I'll get nervous to call a restaurant to make reservations because... I am not even sure what the because is. I think I have some sort of social issue but my attitude is to try and push through and have a 'just do it' attitude because it's been so very rare that my idea of how a social situation is going to go comes true.

Not saying that's easy, but that kind of sounds like what you did. Even if you need some help to make plans, that's okay, you got it done and sounds like it was a good time. All you can do is try and remember this time, next time.

[BNLsMOM]

I am glad the party went well.

[faerie_moon_x]

Originally Posted by RobertDark

Glad your party went well!

I sometimes have issues with planning as well. Things like I'll get nervous to call a restaurant to make reservations because... I am not even sure what the because is. I think I have some sort of social issue but my attitude is to try and push through and have a 'just do it' attitude because it's been so very rare that my idea of how a social situation is going to go comes true.

Not saying that's easy, but that kind of sounds like what you did. Even if you need some help to make plans, that's okay, you got it done and sounds like it was a good time. All you can do is try and remember this time, next time.

That's my issue right there, I think. I don't understand. I want to have the party. I want to invite the people. I want to go buy the cupcakes. But... I am nervous to do all that. It's odd. It isn't like I don't go to the store every day (although I hate that too,) I am the primary "do-er" of everything in the family. So, I dont' know why all that practice hasn't eased my anxiety about getting things done. It's weird.