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Old Aug 29, 2012, 07:49 PM
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Many people stay alive for "others" Like there "kids" , or" spouses" , "friends" "pets"etc.. WHATEVER keeps a person alive is an acceptable reason.
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Old Aug 29, 2012, 08:10 PM
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Many people stay alive for "others" Like there "kids" , or" spouses" , "friends" "pets"etc.. WHATEVER keeps a person alive is an acceptable reason.
Agreed. Vwhatever is using depressed logic.
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Old Aug 29, 2012, 08:25 PM
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So you are saying that one with a mental health issue is obliged to suffer so their friends and family do not (and selfishly I must ad)have too? I am sorry, I think not. Personally I am not going to stay alive for anybody's sake. That is the most illogical thing I have heard. Grief is a selfish emotion and I am not going to live a life of torment so someone else is spared a tear.

Selfish, on my part, yes, but I have to live with the disorder and they don't. Addressing my health as I see fit is my responsibility. I can't make decisions based on how it affects others. They are not fighting it, I am.
Why is this turning into Vigo's right to die? Are you seriously planning this and need our support or just liking the argument or are you interested in upsetting those of us in grief over our sui attempts or our children's sui attempts and what about the successful sui attempts of our loved ones?

I don't consider grief a selfish emotion at all. You just lost your daughter, of course you're in grief. I'd even guess you'd want to die after losing a child. A sui leaves a horrible trail of pain for the family and friends, even if you're estranged from your family, you leave them with an enormous burden of grief and pain if you take that route. I think that's why people here try to help people and avoid that gorey outcome.

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Old Aug 29, 2012, 08:34 PM
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Everyday all day we make decisions on how we interact with people thus affect others. Why would this be any different?
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Old Aug 29, 2012, 09:26 PM
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Everyday all day we make decisions on how we interact with people thus affect others. Why would this be any different?
I don't. Others are secondary to my interest. Since I was diagnosed, I have watched all those who were dear to me leave. The most recent was my daughter. My daughter did not intend to hurt me, she was looking to relieve the suffering of a migraine. She made an unfortunate choice. But she was looking after her own interest. Wanting to relieve pain trumped all other considerations.

I found out late, that everyone eventually acts in their own self interest. My family all took care of themselves. In fact they were directed to, regarding me, by mental health professionals. So, for being saddled with an illness I was exiled.

You name the social entity, they all are concerned with their own survival and well being. Why should I be different? I will not hurt anyone if I can help it, but no one influences my actions unless I choose. No one can feel my pain nor play the hand I was dealt for me

I gladly extend my had to anyone in need. If it comes down to you or me, well, it sucks to be you.
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Old Aug 29, 2012, 09:36 PM
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Many people stay alive for "others" Like there "kids" , or" spouses" , "friends" "pets"etc.. WHATEVER keeps a person alive is an acceptable reason.
Life is highly overrated. In fact probably the greatest act of abuse a person could bring upon a child is that of forcing its entry into this horrid world. That my son hates me is just compensation. My daughter died before her time. That is a well deserved act of vengeance upon me for the injustice I served her.

How could I not feel this way? Every day for 42 years I have had a lousy, sometimes hellish existence punctuated only by the briefest moments of happiness. Moments that only served to show me how bad my life was.

Then my reward for this suffering was to be exiled. Sorry if the pain becomes too great, I will do what i must.
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Old Aug 29, 2012, 09:39 PM
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I guess I am confused .. are you looking for support ? or arguing the right to suicide ?
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Old Aug 29, 2012, 09:40 PM
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As I understand it, our lowered life expectancy is due to several factors, as mentioned in previous posts. We're more likely than the average person to commit suicide; we are prone to stress and thus more likely to suffer cardiogenic illnesses such as congestive heart failure and heart attacks; and we are more likely to have metabolic syndrome, which predisposes us to diabetes.....and we all know what diabetes can do to a person.

Our meds also can be toxic to our livers and kidneys AND contribute to the development of metabolic syndrome/diabetes. There is a shortage of qualified psychiatrists---in my area alone, we have 4 for a population of well over 100,000 people. That means unless you're acutely ill, you can't get in to see one of them for an average of six months. On top of all that is the fact that many go untreated because they are without jobs and health insurance, and yet not sick enough to be eligible for disability and Medicare/Medicaid. Add all these factors together and it's no wonder we're statistically at higher risk of premature death than the general population.

I have read similar articles about the increased risk of heart conditions and metabolic syndromes. I believe some of the risk may be the result of weight gain due to meds or the sedentary lifestyle that often goes along with depression. I did watch a very interesting documentary about stress and its impact on longevity. There was a strong correlation between stress and heart/metabolic issues. Not sure about you all, but I have always been anxious, which I thought was a personal weakness. Now I see that the anxiety has been part of the bipolar disorder. Based on the fact that I have been a stress case for years, I think my ticker is at risk.
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Old Aug 29, 2012, 09:55 PM
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I guess I am confused .. are you looking for support ? or arguing the right to suicide ?
I started this thread looking for some insight and information on life expectancy. I was promptly given a lecture on suicide. I would hate to see what I'd get if I asked for support.
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Old Aug 29, 2012, 09:56 PM
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I have three children. I dont consider myself a child abuser simply for creating life. I dont see it as a horrid world either tho. And if it came down to someone else or me, then it might be sad for me.

But do you think for a moment that your perspective might play a big role. Im not arruging your right to end your life early. Im not even gonna touch that arrgument. But from reading your posts it strikes me that your perspective might be a real culprit in the lousy hellish 42 years. Im saying it in the nicest way possible, from good intentions.
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Old Aug 29, 2012, 10:04 PM
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Maybe I am understanding your responses "incorrectly"

Many people struggle daily whether they have MI or not.. Even at my worst I can say I have never thought "lousy, sometimes hellish existence" in regards to my own life. Maybe Im one of the lucky ones.

I hope the Mods add a " trigger" to this as I feel it indeed needs .

Good luck with whatever you are looking for ~
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Old Aug 29, 2012, 10:11 PM
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Vigodits, many people did chime in with info related to the question you posed, I'm not quite understanding why you seem stuck on one response. Darkheart appologized quickly and explained that she wasnt trying to lecture. I think that's suffice to get back to your original question?

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Old Aug 29, 2012, 10:25 PM
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Also Lithium can have long term side effects on your kidneys and thyroid.
Lithium is discontinued after 70.
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Old Aug 29, 2012, 10:25 PM
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Vigo - you are reminding me of my teenage son when he's pissed off giving the middle finger to the world. maybe you should smoke a giant fatty and chill, water the garden, seems to work for him...
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Old Aug 29, 2012, 10:31 PM
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Vigo... dark_heart is being kind and innocent in answering your post. Any thread started is an invitation for discussion, yes no?

I would assume the reason for shortened lifespan to be suicide... I have no studies to sight. but what if it's toxicity from all the meds... or the stress levels we experience... or the higher instances we're in hospitals exposed to germs... or hypersexuality leading to too many orgasms and heart attack. I would like to know too.
Beverage warning.

BlueInanna, I think that this is outdated. Sexual abstinence used to be recommended to heart attack survivors but I do not think that it is the case any more. The case of death from all-of-sudden sex in a very old male is a rare possibility, but in general, especially from routine sex, it does not happen. In my younger years I had a series of lovers older than my parents so I actually looked into this because I did not want a corpse in the bedroom.

So enjoy your orgasms without anxiety!
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Old Aug 29, 2012, 10:32 PM
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Vigo - you are reminding me of my teenage son when he's pissed off giving the middle finger to the world. maybe you should smoke a giant fatty and chill, water the garden, seems to work for him...
If this is a place for comfort I don't want to see the alternative. I ask for info and I get this. Even though, I am not angry, just frustrated that my original post was answered mostly with irrelevancies.

And you I will promptly block
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Old Aug 29, 2012, 10:43 PM
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So all the answers about heart conditions , medical care, ect were irrelevent? Im extremly confused.
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Old Aug 29, 2012, 11:00 PM
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I've been welcoming, reaching out to you and offering support since your first post here. But ok, I will block you as well, if I can figure out how. Good bye.
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Old Aug 29, 2012, 11:07 PM
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I've been welcoming, reaching out to you and offering support since your first post here. But ok, I will block you as well, if I can figure out how. Good bye.
There is a thing called "ignore list". You will want to add the OP's username to that list. Let me know if it works for you, or else I will help you more step-by-step.
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Old Aug 29, 2012, 11:16 PM
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If this is a place for comfort I don't want to see the alternative. I ask for info and I get this. Even though, I am not angry, just frustrated that my original post was answered mostly with irrelevancies.

And you I will promptly block
If I were you, I would promptly apologize.
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Old Aug 30, 2012, 12:56 AM
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Instead of blocking left right and centre, I would log out until my claws have retracted... No, I'm not being a biatch, I just dont see the point of posting when your goal is to alienate and antagonize members who are being supportive, and I know, I know you dont recognize the support, but nobody is obligated to respond, yet many did, regardless of your insulting manner. Orrrr just carry on as is and eventually you'll have blocked the entire bp board... Just saying# Goodluck
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Old Aug 30, 2012, 06:23 AM
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Instead of blocking left right and centre, I would log out until my claws have retracted... No, I'm not being a biatch, I just dont see the point of posting when your goal is to alienate and antagonize members who are being supportive, and I know, I know you dont recognize the support, but nobody is obligated to respond, yet many did, regardless of your insulting manner. Orrrr just carry on as is and eventually you'll have blocked the entire bp board... Just saying# Goodluck
You do that I chart my own course.
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Old Aug 30, 2012, 08:05 AM
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I don't want to be judgemental but I think someone is experiencing sentimientos de grandiosidad... We are not good enough for your elevated consciusness and smartypantyness WE ARE.. again in my case I don't feel a drive to find out our mortality rate. :-D But good luck with that.
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Old Aug 30, 2012, 08:14 AM
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wow this topic sure spiraled up....

Life expectancy- for bipolar. Study show that we are 3 times liklely to become diabetics and suffer from heartdease... thatīs just 2 examples. I blame that on the Meds. What about the immence stressors on people with bipolar and anxiety, your bloddpresure up the wall, heart racing all the time etc. I asked my pdoc about what is the most common death of a person with bipolar and the answer was not suicide. He said- lifstyle-related deseacse, overweight, diabieties and heartattack.

The Meds put a lot of extra work on our liver and kidneys but I havenīt heard of anyone dying from organ failures... Back in the days Lithium could make you kidneys fail.

There is so much that is not known as a cause of death....
I want to learn more about it.

Take care.
You are much more liklely to die from lifestyle-deseace then bipolar/suicide.
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Old Aug 30, 2012, 08:39 AM
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I can see why vig has a lonely life without friends or family. Maybe we should all block the troll?
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