[purpledaisy]

OK this might be totally silly to even think about.

I've reconnected with a bunch of high school friends via Facebook, and we all try to get together once a month.

Every few days, one of the girls will post on the walls of many of the other girls. Of course, these appear in the feed for all to see.

She'll post stuff like:

• Hey, girl. Hope all is well in your world.
• Hope things are great with you - catch up with you soon
• Looking forward to seeing you again soon.

Am I just paranoid for wondering why I don't rank high enough in her world to get these messages, too?

[hamster-bamster]

Try writing on her wall once and see what happens in response. Do it just once.

It's a two-way street. Why not post to her and start a conversation?

[purpledaisy]

I've done that a few times, when I've seen her posting to the walls of others but I don't get a post.

I'll post and ask how she's doing or something similar.

Usually she just says "Fine" and that's that.

But then she never adds me to the list of the people she posts to when she is in one of these moods.

When we have our events, she and I are always chatty. She always says that the two of us have to get one of our traditional photos together, so we do. I take tons of photos of these events and post them, as does she.

I always thought we got along just fine.

I've gone where she works a couple of times to use that company's services just because she works there and I know her.

I don't get it.

[anneo59]

Originally Posted by purpledaisy

OK this might be totally silly to even think about.

I've reconnected with a bunch of high school friends via Facebook, and we all try to get together once a month.

Every few days, one of the girls will post on the walls of many of the other girls. Of course, these appear in the feed for all to see.

She'll post stuff like:

• Hey, girl. Hope all is well in your world.
• Hope things are great with you - catch up with you soon
• Looking forward to seeing you again soon.

Am I just paranoid for wondering why I don't rank high enough in her world to get these messages, too?

I feel for you, Purple Daisy! Although I like Facebook for many reasons, it's easy to get hurt on it. And I've had some similar experiences. However, I try to focus on the good experiences and let the others go, or disregard them. Not always an easy thing to do, but worthwhile. I usually move on to something else to distract myself, whether on FB or off! The best to you!

Sounds like there really isn't a problem except that you are feeling slighted because she doesn't post to you. If you get along well in person, isn't that the most important thing? Try not to read too much into it; that sounds like your own insecurities coming through from somewhere else.

[anneo59]

Originally Posted by purpledaisy

OK this might be totally silly to even think about.

I've reconnected with a bunch of high school friends via Facebook, and we all try to get together once a month.

Every few days, one of the girls will post on the walls of many of the other girls. Of course, these appear in the feed for all to see.

She'll post stuff like:

• Hey, girl. Hope all is well in your world.
• Hope things are great with you - catch up with you soon
• Looking forward to seeing you again soon.

Am I just paranoid for wondering why I don't rank high enough in her world to get these messages, too?

so sorry, Purple Daisy, I feel your pain. As great as Facebook can be for a variety of reasons, so too, can it cause us real distress and concern, as in your case. Something similar happened to me recently, and I worried and got pretty upset for a while. Then, I finally moved on, and reread something nice someone else had said to me, and also made a phone call to pass on a good word to another person. An effective distraction, really! Honestly can't say I don't still think about it though, but actions like I mentioned do help, and then it's easier to put it out of mind. The best to you!!!!

[hamster-bamster]

Well, I understand - I would have felt slighted as well because this lady does write on others' walls. She somehow singles out Purple Daisy in not posting.

Maybe she has her reasons, you never really know what someone else might feel about you. And I bet you'd be surprised .

Once in group therapy, at the end of my time there I got a big shock. They have a tradition of the other members each saying a message to you at the end of your therapy. Well, there was this one lady, she seemed pretty extroverted, outgoing, tough etc. I always felt a bit of tension between us. She told me she always felt intimadated by me! And that she wished she had gotten to know me better while I was there.

I was shocked, because in real life I am a bit quiet, a bit introverted, polite, never tough, and awkward. I've never in my wildest dreams thought someone might feel intimidated by me. It was interesting.

But see you never really know, and might not be for reasons you think at all.

Try to not let it bother you too much, and keep enjoying this group of ladies, it sounds pretty fun, aside from this one thing. But I can understand how you feel, felt it many times too.

[anneo59]

Originally Posted by Anonymous32507

Maybe she has her reasons, you never really know what someone else might feel about you. And I bet you'd be surprised .

Once in group therapy, at the end of my time there I got a big shock. They have a tradition of the other members each saying a message to you at the end of your therapy. Well, there was this one lady, she seemed pretty extroverted, outgoing, tough etc. I always felt a bit of tension between us. She told me she always felt intimadated by me! And that she wished she had gotten to know me better while I was there.

I was shocked, because in real life I am a bit quiet, a bit introverted, polite, never tough, and awkward. I've never in my wildest dreams thought someone might feel intimidated by me. It was interesting.

But see you never really know, and might not be for reasons you think at all.

Try to not let it bother you too much, and keep enjoying this group of ladies, it sounds pretty fun, aside from this one thing. But I can understand how you feel, felt it many times too.

hey awesome answer, guest!

[faerie_moon_x]

This is one of the reasons I don't really like Facebook...

It's probably nothing and maybe she just doesn't realize it. Since you get along well in the real world, that's probably better than the whole posting on your wall thing. Or maybe she sees you more than the others, so she posts to them but not you. There's a ton of reasons.

I understand about it making you paranoid. I use facebook only a little because it does the same thing to me. I hate seeing everyone giving likes and comments and then my stuff goes ignored.... so I avoid most of the time.

[Clinte89]

I can see where you would feel left out but there as others have stated are many reasons this is happening. Who knows, I suppose you could ask her but that may come off a bit odd. I would say try to ignore it as I do. I don't get invited to my close fiends house or to go out ever only if my brother is going he rarely invites me so I feel ya but at least you get along in person at least you got that.