[flipper34]

So, it's been a few days since I've posted. I'm starting to get to know a few people around here through chat, but still don't know many people. I don't want to feel like I'm bothering people when I post, I just thought this was a good way to get things out. This may be a lengthy post as there's been some developments within my family.

Our youngest son who agreed to pay part of the rent and is on the lease approached us on Monday to let us know that he's moving out on Friday. And will not be keeping his word. He's 19 (soon to be 20) and is engaged to a girl he's known three months. We won't allow her to live with us which is what spawned this decision. I'm both frustrated and worried currently. He's the youngest and thinks that he can rule the world. A friend of the family put it best about him living in a fantasy world and believes that the world is completely trustworthy. My wife has been able to let go of it, but I haven't. I want so badly to shake him to find out what's going on in that brain of his, but he thinks he knows it all. I know that we have to let our children make mistakes. We believe that he is bipolar, but has no insurance to be able to see a doc. His fiance also has mental health problems, but is not being treated currently. I don't know what or how to say. I was able to hold my tongue the evening he brought this up (had I opened my mouth it would have been nothing but UGLY).

New topic:
I'm currently out on Short Term as I am receiving treatment for another manic episode and med adjustment. My wife came to pick me up from group today and came in and got me out of group as there was a problem with our car. It was stuck in reverse and would not go in to park or anything. We called the mechanic and received news that it may be our steering column. The reason I bring this up is that I haven't gotten paid at all since I've been off and we're behind on a couple of bills. The good news is I get paid this week, but I'm concerned there won't be enough to go around. I'm FREAKING OUT! We've depleted our little amount of savings and rent is due in two weeks. This is an issue as our son was paying half the rent every month...AAARRRRGGGGGGHHHHHH

Okay, I'm done ranting. I can't seem to find that positive thinking that I had up to Monday.

Ahhh, don't worry about bothering people by posting. It's kinda what we do here(!)

My son's ever so slightly older, and it can be part of the age too, that charge out into the world with some unrecognized naivité. Sometimes too much maybe, but there is something to be said for seeing the world in that way. I'd sure hope they'd not not be as cynical (and kind of paranoid) as me(!) Because as much as that has protected me in ways, it's also kept me from a lot of what might have been good things.

Sorry about the financial stress. When it rains it pours, doesn't it? The last time I didn't think I'd have rent, freak out would be putting it mildly(!) Rather involved story, but long/short -- I sooo get that. It's good to have that paycheck coming. Even if it doesn't cover, it will make a good dent in it, right? So that's something. One way to look at it anyway.
Short term leave or short term disability? Something there? Yeah, it's never enough, but some is better than none.

Deep breath. (Not to be bossy, lol.) Sometimes we just don't have as much control over things as we'd like. (Well, all the time really, but sometimes we really notice(!)) It's alright. No one really does. Sometimes we've just got to let go and trust it'll be ok.

(On a completely silly side note. Though I'm guessing your username flipper is about BP flipping, it made me think of Flip Wilson -- a comic back in the day, and guessing by the age of your son, you might remember him. Took a visit to YouTube memory lane. )

[Victoria'smom]

You may want to let your sons GF move in. Maybe make his room, the basement, or the master bedroom into a studio. So that you don't have to really deal with their relationship. You'll be able to keep a watchful eye on them while you find him & her help. He'll also be paying the rent amount of a utilities included studio. Look into community health centers.


My Husband & I were engaged 2 wks. after meeting, had a planned pregnancy after 5 months, then took 3 years to get married. We've been together 11 1/2 years. Looking back we were both manic at the time we met but I would and still am a lot like him. My family has not accepted my husband or son to this day. My family and I were close before I made my choice in mates.