Sometimes when I'm having a really bad day, whether with mania or depression) and I struggle really hard to control it I just wish other people in my life would acknowledge just how HARD I've worked just to get through the day. Usually I get an off-hand "very good" if I mention this.
What I want is someone to say something like "I've noticed you've been struggling today. I think you done really well........" Unfortunately nobody does but everybody notices when I go off the rails. Sometimes I wonder why I do it at all.

[Moose72]

Boy I wish someone would tell me that I've had a hard time but ivecdone really well!

People tell me I look a lot better sometimes and they tell me "it's not so bad, look how comfortable you are". I don't complain, but I don't appreciate those comments. They never ask me how bad it is. Maybe they think I stay in bed because I can.

[faerie_moon_x]

I think people are trained to ignore people when they are struggling. This is what I've observed, anyway.

It would be nice to have someone notice.

Another thing, is people tend to always tell you when you did something wrong, but fail to tell you when you're doing good. This is so true at work and everywhere. So I try to make a point to tell people if they did a good job and if I'm proud of them.

[Moose72]

Come to think of it, i do have a friend that every so often tells me how great i am. That warms my heart. He doesn't think worse of me for being bipolar.

It's natural. The negative attracts more than the positive momentarily. But it's the
positive in life that really lifts people up. Maybe we can encourage that in others by
trying to be positive with them about something each day you can notice and make
a pleasant comment about.

[Trippin2.0]

I used to crave acknowledgement. But meh, I got over it. I dont praise others for breathing, why should they me, just coz my feat is probably (unknown to them) harder to achieve at times?

That being said, I do empathize, but life's better now that I let go of that pipe dream.

"Accept the things I cannot change", and all that you know....

[Cocosurviving]

Originally Posted by dark_heart_x

I think people are trained to ignore people when they are struggling. This is what I've observed, anyway.

It would be nice to have someone notice.

Another thing, is people tend to always tell you when you did something wrong, but fail to tell you when you're doing good. This is so true at work and everywhere. So I try to make a point to tell people if they did a good job and if I'm proud of them.

I agree. Since I've been diagnosed I have friends I don't hear from anymore.
Before my onset we were tight. Now i font even get a "how are you" phone call.

[faerie_moon_x]

I've noticed this for a long time. When I was 10 years old I wrote a song about how people just want you to pretend you are happy and not show them how you really feel. I was just thinking about that last week, actually, and how messed up it was for me to realize that at 10 years old.