Things have been going pretty well lately. However, BF's landlady called tonight. Asked if I'd heard from him the last couple of days. As it happens, no. I'd texted yesterday. Didn't receive a response, but didn't think too much of it as his school workload is very heavy. They have tried contacting him twice today, as well as stopped by the apartment, but no response.This is NOT typical for him. They are very concerned. A bit of backstory. He'd taken in some guy who had a big sob story about getting kicked out of school housing and having nowhere to go. BF, being kind-hearted said, ok, you can stay here very short term, but you need to be very quiet and look diligently for something else. You guessed it-- this was far from the case and he caused nothing but trouble. Meanwhile, other major negative facts came to light. BF explained situation to landlord, and had his full backing. This guy had to get out. And if he caused trouble, the landlord said the police would be called to enforce the eviction. Guy was out of town (doing God-knows-what given what's come to light), was informed of the situation and told to pick his stuff up. Apparently eventually did so. Later that night was the last text I received. Landlady told me that the downstairs tenant had heard this guy threaten BF. I do not know the nature of the threat, nor at what point in the course of events it happened.

But I have not heard from him since the night of the 7th.

I keep telling myself there must be some series of technological glitches. Maybe the phone fell in the toilet. Maybe the power went out and the computer ran out of battery. Just to keep my mind from running totally amok in horror.

If I had not heard from him tonight (it's been hours, and, no...having tried all available forms of communication), my plan was to call the school, and if he'd not been there, the police. Also trying to follow up with an appointment that likely would have had scheduled this week to see if there was one, if he showed up. Got answering machines. Then realized it's a holiday weekend. Feeling very helpless at 3,000 miles. So, guess I'll have to call the landlords, tell them to go into the apartment and call the police if necessary. I'm scared as s***. And mad as hell at this stupiddumbf**ofasonofagdb****%(*#(*%$(*#!!!!!!!!!!!!! I swear to God, if he laid so much as one hand on him...

And not one hour before receiving this call, I was at the post office mailing BF a care package. And Sunday is our 3 year anniversary. And I can't stop thinking of our sweet little guinea pig...

It's the unknown and helplessness of distance that's got me tied in knots. Kind of afraid to go to sleep. Last night was filled with nightmares as it was. But I will try. Elixirs have been employed. I cannot handle this.

[Trippin2.0]

(((((((IZ))))))) ask the landlord to check the apartment, and if he's not there, contact the police. The not knowing and hands being tied is going to drive you nuts, dont wait for tonight tomorrow,or whenever, some kind of action on your part, will help calm you a bit, even just a subconscious calming is beneficial. I know there's nothing I can say to fix this, or make you feel better, but please know that I'm listening and I care, keep me updated...

[LostMom3]

I agree with Trippen. The quicker you get them into action the quicker you can do some positive action and know what has happened. There is nothing I could say or do to alleviate your pain and concern. My very best wishes for you and your BF.
{{{{BIG HUGS}}}}}

[Anika.]

Wow Iz, oh my gosh. I am right behind Trippin with that. Please call someone, it's been a few days and from anything you have ever said about him, it seems unfitting. I really hope and pray there is some explanation and that he is safe and sound.

But even if he is safe and sound, you will not have sound mind until you know either. Really my heart breaks for you to be any where near a situation such as this, even having to contemplate such ideas.

Can you call the landlord now, and do the check up. I am sure they would not mind and also be concerned. I would go myself, for you in a heartbeat... If I could do that. Don't worry about inconveniencing anyone at all right now! Just do what you need too

Yes please keep us posted IZ. Love you heaps...

Is any of your family near you?

[Trippin2.0]

IZ, I suck at timezones, so dont know if its night, day or somewhere inbetween where you are, but please check in as soon as you can, I'm worried about you, and bf

Update: BF IS OK!!! :-))))))

Finally got a text from him a few minutes ago. He has been sick as a dog with walking pneumonia and did not comprehend the level of worry.
I called him as soon as he texted, just to be sure it was really him. It was! God, I am sooo unbelievably relieved.

Thank you so much everyone for your support!

[venusss]

oh, thanks deities.

[Yoda]

So glad he is okay.

[Anika.]

Oh what a RELIEF!!!!! I am so happy he is ok, and you are ok. How terrifying.

Thanks for letting us know IZ, I was pretty worried. Hope you can relax now. And hope he gets well soon!

[~Christina]

Oh great news !!!! I am so relieved for you and hope your BF makes a speedy recovery !

[MommaR]

Sorry he is sick but so glad he is safe

[Trippin2.0]

Very glad and RELIEVED he's safe thanks for letting us know. Hope he gets well soon!

[dillpickle1983]

very happy he is safe and sound!! I would of been a complete mess worrying about this!

Originally Posted by chandlerT660

very happy he is safe and sound!! I would of been a complete mess worrying about this!

Thanks, and wow, was I ever. Weird thing was he seemed perplexed that there was such concern over it(!!!) Can you imagine?!
Completely unrelated, I drove 6,000 miles (2 trips of 3,000 each) in a couple of months and thought of you (one does see a lot of trucks! ), wondering if you decided to pursue your interest in cooking. ?

[hamster-bamster]

What a relief!

Just a bit of helpful information, IZ:

If this ever happens to you again, please don't involve yourself any deeper than giving total responsibility to the police. If, for some unusual reason, your boyfriend had been abducted by a psychopath, you could easily have been his next target had you invited yourself into a situation that was dangerous.

Only the police should know about what is happening. That way you insure your own safety (which is in dire straights if an abduction has occurred and you're the closest person to the one who has been harmed).

You are fortunate that this incident didn't turn out to be one of an antisocial or
psychopathic personality's aberrant behavior.

Take care of yourself, please.

[sugahorse1]

I missed this thread, but I am so glad to hear it all worked out. You must have been sooooooooo stressed

Originally Posted by genetic

Just a bit of helpful information, IZ:

If this ever happens to you again, please don't involve yourself any deeper than giving total responsibility to the police. If, for some unusual reason, your boyfriend had been abducted by a psychopath, you could easily have been his next target had you invited yourself into a situation that was dangerous.

Only the police should know about what is happening. That way you insure your own safety (which is in dire straights if an abduction has occurred and you're the closest person to the one who has been harmed).

You are fortunate that this incident didn't turn out to be one of an antisocial or
psychopathic personality's aberrant behavior.

Take care of yourself, please.

Thanks, genetic. We are 3,000 miles apart. I limited myself to contact with the landlords (who had first called me) and checking with the school to see if he had been there the days we had not heard from him. My text/email/voicemail to him were very short and made no mention of the guy or the threat. In the event the guy had his phone (or computer), he would not have been tipped off that I had any idea of his involvement. BF actually does not even have my address in his phone or computer, so it would have been quite difficult to find me anyway. My statement of "if he so much as laid a hand" was just expressing my frustration to you guys. I do run on the paranoid side of things, which keeps me from a lot of trouble.

IZ, you have been reared in a very safe environment for most of your life--protected by a good boy friend--even though he's thousands of miles away--but there was literally no information known by you or by your boyfriend about the real personality of the man who virtually invited himself into your boyfriend's life.

In this day and age, one has to be careful about strangers who come into the home, frankly. With no knowledge of the man' background, it isn't wise to broadcast on the internet what's happening in very personal situations. You know what I mean.

I don't think you need to feel paranoid; you just need to be aware to think carefully about how to manage a crisis when one occurs. It could never happen again, but it
could also not be the end of it all if that man is not out of your boyfriend's life.

Take care of yourself. It's good that you try to keep most of your life personal and private. I've never seen anything untoward on the internet because of criminal behavior; but there's plenty of it out there, including attacks on peoples' computers, for instance.

Just remain alert and careful, but enjoy life, too, please.

[BlueInanna]

Thank Igawds he is ok!!!