[Moodmuse]

Little sis almost OD'd the other day. She's been addicted to everything you can possibly think of.We took her to the ER and let them know she was also suicidal, hoping to get her into psyche ward long enough for services to find her a bed at an inpatient rehab center. We also told them about the needles broken off in her. First of all they do not X-ray her, second, by the time the caseworker showed up 6 hrs later she was pretty sober. After even telling the doc herself she was suicidal, she managed to get them to believe she was ok and they released her. I was so livid that she completely made my cousin and I look like fools, I left her *** there to get her own way home. She calls dad and he runs outta gas on freeway so I go get him. He almost collapses to the ground when he got out of the car due to the stress she's put him under. I told her if he dies of a heart attack or stroke its her fault because this has been going on for 7yrs now. He has literally spent over $250,000 on her during this time. Now he's barely surviving. On a good note, my husband is being considered for two different jobs at Bowing in Everett Washington. We were fine when in the AF away from family but since we got out 6-7 yrs ago I've almost had several breakdowns and john and i argue a lot. I'm hoping he'll get the job and we can get away from all the drama.

Thanks for reading. I just needed to vent!

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[PiperLeigh]

You were a good sister to try to help her; it must be so frustrating to see her be destructive and refuse help over and over. I'm sorry for the hurt it causes you and your family.

I live in Texas now, but when I was a little girl, I grew up in Everett. Lived on Silver Lake and my Grandpa worked his entire career at Boeing. It's a great company. Good luck to your husband!

[BlackPup]

Sorry to hear about your sister. It must be hard to see her in this situation and even harder to see what she puts your father through.
Best of luck with your husbands job.

[Clinte89]

Sorry about your sister addictions a tough thing, I know, it's hard to beat and even when you think you got it beat it'll come get you again. I know it must be frustrating helping her and I'm surprised the docs let her go. I wish you the best of luck on everything. Sometimes tough love is needed so maybe tell her go to rehab or kick her out I bet she would choose rehab over that.

I can't believe you made me read that...?...it's not your fault anyway

I'm so sad for her...poor thing I relate to her so much i cried for her...!

some of us fumble struggle trip over get up fall down forever.

and your poor dad...!...sounds like you are the one coping the best and such a responsibility...omg!

but little sis....so damaged...I'm so sorry

[faerie_moon_x]

Sometimes it comes to a point where you have to realize that nothing you can do will turn things around or save the person you love. Only they can save themselves. And unfortunately a lot of people never figure that out.

I really hope your sister can figure it out.

[twiddle]

I used to bartend and my manager there had a small rectangle of paper stapled to a beam next to the register. On it it read:

Before trying to change someone; first consider how difficult it is to change yourself.

I lived with an abusive alcoholic/cokehead for 9 years. I tried. Again and again and finally I realized he wasn't going to quit until he wanted to. I left him.

I'm so sorry about your sister, it must be so hard wanting to help, wanting to fix and being rebuffed. All you can do is either keep trying or give up. Enabling her helps keep her an addict. Only you can decide how you want to handle this.

Hang in there.

[bluemountains]

Hi Moodmuse,
I am sorry that you and your h have your family troubles coming between you. I can understand this, I've been there. My brother stole approximately $50,000 from us when he contracted to build us a house that never happened.
As for your sis, I know you are frustrated with her. She's a user of family, too. I do feel sorry for her, though. I could so easily be her if I let myself go there, because I crave anything that helps me find a mellow mood. I fight the urges all of the time to drink to much, take too many benzos, seek out painkillers, etc.
Distance will be a good thing to put between you and your family. It has been great for us.
Bluemountains

[hamster-bamster]

I, too, hope that you will get away from all the drama! Stay cool.

[Moodmuse]

Thanks guys! I've pretty much told her that if she didn't go into inpatient rehab for at least 90 days I want nothing to do with her. The bad thing is one of her daughters who is 17 has been living with me for 5 years and the only way she's allowed to see her ten yr old is here at my house. The ONLY reason I have anything to do with her has to do with her kids. When her 10yr old comes down she don't even come see her. I cry for these kids. Thanks for all of your support!

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[bluemountains]

This makes my heart hurt, Moodmuse. Truthfully, it makes me not like your sister, even though I don't know her. As I said before I could be an addict of some sort, but I would never consider hurting my children in any way, so weakness is not an option.
I guess it is a touchy subject for me because I grew up in a family of alcoholics and spent much of my life disappointed or confused. Accolades to you for taking care of her children!
Bluemountains

[Moodmuse]

I don't have that addictive "gean" I guess u could call it. But yes right now I despise her right now. Her daughter vows never to speak to her again and that hurts me because my sister will blame me for turning her against her. All I've ever tried to do is encourage her to have some sort of relationship with her mom. Being 17 and all she can remember of of her mom is falling asleep in her food and promise after promise, I kinda don't blame her. I've already told her when dad passes away from a stroke or heart attack that it would be her fault. She also has the audacity to be upset after she has cost him so much to be upset for what she's getting when he passes. My god he hasn't even passed and she's still being selfish! Literally makes me sick to my stomach. If she would have stayed sober she would have her own business by now but she is pretty much homeless. On that note, my therapist asked me how in the hell did I make it out of that family somewhat normal despite being BP? My whole family on my moms side self medicates illegally in some way or another.

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