[faerie_moon_x]

I am really in a place. I am full of manic rage and at the same time sad.

I always knew that my father didn't have my back. I've always known it. But the fact that I stupidly kept believe that maybe, just maybe this time he will... No, no, no, over and over the answer needs to be "does my father have my back?" The answer is NO.

So for the second time right before Christmas, my father and his wife have informed us that we're to get out of the house where we live (he is the landlord.) And we're no longer welcome in their home, which is fine with me. And I don't know why I don't learn from my entire lifetime of knowing that 1) he didn't want me, he wanted a boy, 2) I was never good enough, 3) he always talks crap about me behind my back, wanting everyone to agree with him that I'm the scum of the earth, 4) when he is "generous" enough to help, he constantly crams that fact that down your throat, 5) he will let his wife throw his grandchildren into the street without batting an eye, even as she sits there threatening to throw him into a home.

Can you disown your parents? How would I do that? Not just never to see them again, but like keep them away from us for real? At this point he can die alone, which is true, his heart is very bad. I am done with him. He's already dead to me.

[Trippin2.0]

Oh sis ((((((((DHX)))))))) such a callous callous man, I dont blame you for disowning him, I dont blame you one bit. That's just not how you treat family, and if you cant act like family, then I dont see the point in concidering you as such... Are you safe tho in your present state? And do you guys have a place to go?

sorry this is happening to you.. i feel the same way too if that happened to me!

[Broken Angel]

It's really sad to know about this. But Don't ever say that you are not good enough no matter what happens. Hope that you have got some place to stay at for meanwhile..

[Clinte89]

That's a tough situation to be in, it sucks really bad when your family won't be there for you. I can't imagine what your going through but I can sympathize wih you. I would say just get as far away as you feel comfortable that's how I would disown them.

[faerie_moon_x]

We just paid the rent so they would have to at least give us 30 days. We will have enough money for a new place by February 15th, but I am scared it will be before that, so we might have to be ready to pick up and go at a moments notice, which is hard because it's hard to get into an apartment that fast when you have no money. That's my concern. I'd have to get us a hotel room or something until then, but we could lose all of our furniture, etc. if that happens.

[BlueInanna]

Omg how horrible and unfair. I have some family I've cut ties with for my own sanity. But this is just so horribly sad that he treats you and his own grandchildren this way. and right in the middle of the holidays, it's disgusting really and so wrong. I'm so sorry you're going through this.

[faerie_moon_x]

It is moments like this that I wish I was powerful enough to just get my family to safety and leave all this toxic crap behind forever. We could go somewhere safe where the judgemental, cruel hearted assholes can't follow us.

[Victoria'smom]

Take tenants rights At this point. He has to give you a formal 30 day notice and then after start the eviction process which takes about a month or two. Look into cheap storage for all your things. He does not get the right to quietly kick his family to the street.

[faerie_moon_x]

Originally Posted by Miguel'smom

Take tenants rights At this point. He has to give you a formal 30 day notice and then after start the eviction process which takes about a month or two. Look into cheap storage for all your things. He does not get the right to quietly kick his family to the street.

If he did start the eviction process and we moved out before he was able to do that, about how long does that take??? We can be out by February no problem. There is always someone at the house so it would be hard for them to secretly change the locks.

[~Christina]

When I lived in Florida .. My mother has 3 rental homes. It took at least 4 months to legally remove/evict a renter.

I'm so sorry you are going through this.. Good thoughts your way to find a new home that will be a safe haven for you and your family.

[faerie_moon_x]

I am just in this state of turmoil now....

I want to get out. I want to wave a magic wand and be free. My credit score is crap, like around the 300-400 range, so I feel we're screwed. I'm terrified we won't be able to find a place that will be okay with my crap credit. My rental payment history is perfect, but my dad never reported it to anyone. I am terrified that they will sabotage our efforts and try to make us homeless. I know she wants to see us freeze to death in our van, kids and all.

We have appointments to see 2 apartments this week. I have re-worked the budget to try to get us out ASAP. I am angry and also very hurt. I just feel the rage in there and I know that it's good I'm not seeing or speaking to them. We want to hold off as long as possible to give our notice, because they haven't given us written notice just verbal.

But I'm really happy I have my husband in all this and I'm not alone and his logic and clear headed thinking will help me stop from being totally explosive and panicked.

[twiddle]

DHX I'm feel awful that your family is being put through this. Your father is a real heartless bas-ard. I feel terrible there's nothing I can do other than to keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.

[Flooded]

I disowned my father a few years ago and don't regret it one bit. My life is much better for it.

[faerie_moon_x]

Well, it's his choice to behave this way. He's on his last legs and my step-mother knows it. They have a pre-nuptual agreement that says if he dies, I get everything he owned before the marriage. That was two houses and life insurance. However, she has forced him into selling one house and used all the money to pay off bills. Now she is threatening to sell the house. Hmmmm, sounds like she found a loop hole to the pre-nup to me.

The other threat is to stick him in a home so that they take the house. She won't, she wants the money. Once she has the money, then she might. And he's blind enough to go along with this. Oh well. Not my problem.

I am sorry to hear of your problems....I can associate. I disowned my mom and siblings, moved 2,600 miles from "home" without telling them. Haven't gone through exactly what you have, but you're not alone in your anger and frustration, at all.