[knowswatcher]

I said that you all have helped me. That is the truth. But today, I'm feeling lost. My husband has not been talking to me. He sits in the other room. He's watching tv shows or playing games on the computer.

some times he does this, he'll get over it soon.

[knowswatcher]

I'm not asking for you to tell me that everything will be ok. I know that it will be. I just needed to say that and have it out in the open. This is a safe place for me to say it and not worry about pay back.

we all have these types of days

if we didon't... then i think something is majorly wrong. lol!

but seriously... hugs from me

[faerie_moon_x]

Do you and your husband ever have ways to connect? Like do you watch shows with him ever? Or play games with him? Or other hobbies together?

I know that disconnected feeling. I hate it, too.

[knowswatcher]

We do have things we do together. We should do them more. Really, I needed to just say that and know that I'm not the only one.

Originally Posted by knowswatcher

We do have things we do together. We should do them more. Really, I needed to just say that and know that I'm not the only one.

that's perfictly okay.

it's natural to want support

[wildchild r]

Sometimes I think they just dont know what to say, and feel helpless when they cant find a way to help you..Im sure he's frusterated..maybe it would help to explaine to him not to take it personal,this is a disorder, not the flu..be patient,got to counsiling with you..If my Big Bad Biker Man goes with me to theropy, because he wants to undertsand and help me,I cant imagine any man not having the love and courage enough to do it for u.

[Doxie mom]

I know when my husband senses that I am in a mood he tends to get real quiet. Sometimes I wish he would reach out but I know how intimidating I can be especially to someone as non confrontational as my husband. That makes me lonely but I understand.

[knowswatcher]

Originally Posted by Doxie mom

I know when my husband senses that I am in a mood he tends to get real quiet. Sometimes I wish he would reach out but I know how intimidating I can be especially to someone as non confrontational as my husband. That makes me lonely but I understand.

Thank you for saying this about reaching out. That's what I miss. Being held.

[~Christina]

Often times spouse or the people around us do not know what to do. The only way to solve this is to have a real conversation about what you both need from each other in general and also when/if Bipolar rears its ugly head.

I think many people are afraid to really talk about specific needs.

Good Luck

[ArthurDent]

At the risk of stating the obvious, have you tried to tell him "Honey, I really need you to hold me for a little while"?

Sometimes us guys don't know what it is that you need, unless you say it simply and clearly.

[knowswatcher]

hmm. the obvious answer would be the answer. huh.
thanks morethings and arthurdent for pointing that out.

[ParchworkQuilt]

You just described my day. We have two kids and I am (I feel) single parenting them as my husband is at his computer all day. He works at home. We don't do anything together anymore except when I work with him on the business when the kids are at school 1-2 hours per week. I recently started long term disability for bipolar after being diagnosed about 12 years ago. Things are calmer but on days like today I feel so empty. The kids are also addicted to TV and computers. It is up to me to clean up from the holidays. Alone.