[creativelight]

Sometimes I feel like I know what ppl are thinking, they give out clues with their behavior... I'm usually right. Now I'm not sure about this one... Last week we put our toddler in daycare. I been feeling like one of the teachers (a fair looking young lady) thinks my husband is attractive and she ponders why he is with me. I'm totally fat since I just gave birth 7 weeks ago. Plus I haven't felt like dressing up etc since nothing but pregnancy clothes fit me. So my self esteem ain't at the right place. I'm wondering if my insecurities are acting up or if she really thinks like that.
But it's just the way she looks at me, so estranged .. I don't know.
My husband is very good looking, even the mail lady has a crush on him. More than once she has come back to deliver packages she forgot to give. Usually they would bring it the next day. Not only that, but one of those days she came back, my husband wasn't in the house and I was feeding my newborn. I took a moment and when I opened the door I saw her truck was running so she hit the brakes as I opened the door, but when she saw me she took off. Lol I was like oook... That's when I knew for sire she had a crush..

Maybe I'm wrong judging like that but that's the way I think they come off... Or maybe I'm nuts lol

[cocoabeans]

But why does it matter if these women think your husband is hot? He is married to you and you trust him right? Even if she is thinking she wants to jump his bones and wondering why he is with you, so what? That isn't any of your business is it? Certainly you have your own private thoughts about others even those you like!

Be thankful for what you have. What others think about you is not any of your business even if they're not so great at hiding it.

I've also got this rather strange ability to read people.

[creativelight]

I like respect, so I respect ppl in order to be respected... I feel disrespected by em.. Not that they're not allowed to think whatever they want but I rather not be made aware of it, because I do feel disrespected.. You know?

[BlueInanna]

It really could be the low self esteem talking to you. Hopefully that's all it is. You want to be able to trust your child care people. Does hubby say anything about it? Is your love life good now that baby's born?

[creativelight]

I haven't told him about the daycare ppl, because I'm not 100% sure. Nothing has changed. Not any action since August. I don't feel sexually comfortable in my body now, so I'm not worried about it. Hopefully soon enough I will feel better and he will want to get stuff done.

Yes, behavior is really the only true judgment of what a person is and even that will change. So it's best not to judge at all, in the long run. What you've experienced is funny, though. Being married to a good-looking man can be risky! (lol)

I hope your little one is just as good looking and has your intelligence.

[creativelight]

Thanks genetic, I believe he is! He is also very sweet, we are Blessed!
You're right, I shouldn't be making judgements like that. No truth is absolute and indeed everything is subject to change. Is a good thing too.

[BlueInanna]

Your hubby may be hot, but you're a beautiful woman. Even with some extra baby weight so what... you got awesome smile and flirty ways, cute gap front teeth - adorable. It's gotta be your self esteem. Cuz if you remember you know you got what he wants, that type of confidence is a turn on. Or you can try to make an appointment for sex with him, that worked with my bf lol.

[creativelight]

Lol I like the idea of making an appointment lol no kids, music and candles. Gosh I need it lol

[creativelight]

Oh and thank you! <3

[faerie_moon_x]

I don't know... my husband is rathe good looking as well, and I'm rather not at all. Like... there is a mis-match with us appearance wise (but not personality wise.) We met and fell in love online with no pictures at all, until much later. So, I always say he fell in love with me as a person and not my appearance. But, he disagrees.

But, I get that same feeling. But he really is attractive and it is very likely girls like him. And that's fine. They can like him but they can't have him! As long as he is not reciprocating, then let them fume and wonder why he's with me, because "haha," (best Nelson voice from the Simpsons).

[creativelight]

Lol (haha!) Luv it! :-)