[purpledaisy]

Has this ever happened to you?

Someone saw me in a store and instead of saying hello, she turned and went the other way QUICKLY to avoid me.

I'm sure she saw me. She turned her cart around, her son looked confused, and when she turned to talk to him I could see that her face was all tense and she was making a weird face when she talked to him. I could see half of her face. I've made that face before when I'm telling someone to hurry up, or don't look now but there is so-and-so.

We were best friends in elementary school, but lost touch when we went to different high schools.

I ran into her a couple of months ago at a cafe, thought it might be here, but went on my way. But before I left, I told myself, "You need to go back and say hello. You're only on this earth once. You should see if it's her. You'll regret it if you don't. You may never see her again."

So we talked for a few minutes that day and agreed that we would have coffee or lunch sometime soon with two other girls who were part of our group back then. And we friended each other on Facebook to stay in touch.

It just really bugged me that she so was so obvious about getting away from me.

I was already in my agitated/irritated/furious mood since I was going to about 6 stores last night looking for a certain item (there is another thread about that).

By the time I saw her do this, I thought, "Oh, f*** it. Not only am I failure in everything in life, now someone who knew me better than anyone else in the word at one point wants nothing to do with me." So I turned around and walked out of the store.

She got super-religious, so maybe she is offended by my posts on Facebook. I post whatever pops into my head. Usually friends are entertained and tell me I'm funny, which is odd since I'm just *****ing. They think my rotten life is funny.

[newtus]

i used to play the "just say hi once - you may never see them again" game in my head with people. after getting turned down or looked at funny - even been spewed verbal hatred once by people i used to know - i figured idc if i ever see them again. they were in my life at one point and that one point is gone. i figure theres billions of people in this world so ill always see new people.

i have trouble with leaving people i once knew alone and stuff like that. i shred their numbers now.

aww i'm sorry.

you must have felt so hurt by it

[nannywoofwoof]

Just a thought, but she may have not wanted to talk because she was just not in the mood for conversation. It's easy to think it was because it was YOU, but she may have turned away from anyone she knew. She may have been upset about something, unwell, in a hurry, depressed etc.
Try not to let it get to you. We have all been in situations like that, and it's not worth getting yourself worked up about. She may be feeling bad about avoiding you now anyway.

[Clinte89]

That sucks but I know how you feel I have people avoiding me on a constant basis.

[~Christina]

I would bet she is a person that doesn't even need to be in your life anyway.
Go ahead be annoyed about it. I'm sorry someone hurt you like this. It's not fair, not fair at all.

Post whatever you want on Facebook.. hell do a " Oh isn't it great when you see someone you know and they turn the other way, WOW they are so Mature"

I'm a 8itch like that You are not failure in any aspect of your life. Childhood friend ahhh thats a funny topic. Your childhood friends knew YOU back then, they apparently don't know YOU now.. People change.. marriages, children. divorces etc.. I have 1 person from my childhood I keep in touch with.. all the others ? Pfft most I have nothing in common with, the others? somewhere along there life they became slaves to money and status... Certainly no one I want to have a friendship with.
Be upset be hurt be mad ... but don't let someone like her make you feel like you have a horrible life.

I've done that before to people that I didn't want to deal with. But if that person was my friend, I would have greeted him/her.

people can be such jerks sometimes.

[purpledaisy]

Originally Posted by morethingswrong

Post whatever you want on Facebook.. hell do a " Oh isn't it great when you see someone you know and they turn the other way, WOW they are so Mature"

I'm a 8itch like that

I'm the queen of posting inappropriate things on Facebook. I use the setting to let all friends see the post except for certain ones, and then add their names to that little box.

So, yeah, I ranted about her on Facebook without saying who she was, and I also blocked the one person still know her and is a mutual FB friend.

i'm having trouble posting a new thread. i can't find the button. can you guys show me where it is?

[Yoda]

Originally Posted by nannywoofwoof

Just a thought, but she may have not wanted to talk because she was just not in the mood for conversation. It's easy to think it was because it was YOU, but she may have turned away from anyone she knew. She may have been upset about something, unwell, in a hurry, depressed etc.

There have been plenty of times when I went to the grocery store in need of a shower/in my pajamas with a coat thrown over hoping I wouldn't see anyone I knew. I don't want to talk to anyone who will think, wow, Yoda's letting herself go and she looks (and smells) a mess.

[Hydrophobic1212]

I had that happen once. My ex-best friend. Long story short, she flipped her s**t and accused me of acting like this girl who totally made her suicidal. She's just an insecure b**** ( I dot NOT mean this in an offensive way. This is just how she acts to people) and she is a total drama addict.

I had been really close to her, and she saw me at a store, I know she did, but instead of saying hi, she just left and ignored me.

Then, of course, when we started to drift apart, she would start asking my best friend to go do things with her (because I had been friends with both of them) and they would exclude me.

So, this is the advice I offer, in the nicest terms possible: F*** her. I apologize for the brash language, but seriously, if she's going to act like that, she is NOT worth your time anyways. I learned this recently and I am just now working on weeding out those from my life who are nothing but negative energy.

Yes, she might have been busy, but... You never know. Just cut your losses, is what I would do.

However, I do apologize that this happened to you. D: It is a pretty bad feeling.. D:

[purpledaisy]

Originally Posted by heyitsme7

i'm having trouble posting a new thread. i can't find the button. can you guys show me where it is?

Go back here: http://forums.psychcentral.com/forumdisplay.php?f=11

And then you will see a "New Thread" button on the left side of the screen, above the box with the threads.

I wouldn't necessarily read too much into this, pd. It could well be as nannywoofwoof and Yoda suggested. I've been the person they suggested. I'm a shy and (generally ) a pretty nice person, but would usually only make a little wave or something if I saw someone across a store. Actual talking would be rare. It has absolutely nothing to do with them, I just suck at chitchat.(And growing up being told that talking to people = bothering them probably didn't help.) Sometimes it's everything I could do just to get out to the store and am already psychologically maxed out. Even a short conversation would be too much. Going forward would make it inevitable to deal with. Only other option is to go the other way. I would especially panic if they didn't know of my problems. A) It's pretty obvious at such a time that I have them and B) it's sure as hell not the way I'd want the subject to come up(!)

Also, I'd be especially mortified if it were someone I knew from way back and had only recently reunited with. Might not be first impressions, but it's still best-face-forward time.

Now, if the situation had been her walking by you and pointedly sticking her nose up in the air, that'd be a pretty clear cut snub. This one? Not so much. Too many potential reasons why it could have happened that would have nothing to do with you.

(And you say she's gone uber-religious -- maybe there's trouble in paradise, doesn't want to admit it and is afraid she can't hide it.)

[usbusi]

Sometimes you just can't figure people out. I have a good friend from college who avoids getting together. He talked on email or facebook message about going all the way to Florida to see his other college friend, but we are about 30 to 45 minutes away and he just seemed to dodge getting together. Strange. We had an argument after college, when we got together once, which was about 23 years ago, but you'd think he'd have released any bad feelings from one argument and from that long ago.

[BlueInanna]

It's up top somewhere. New Thread button in small writing you'll get the hang of it

Purple I want to be ur friend on FB. I like posts that are more interesting and real than the usual "look at my child winning the trumpeter of the year award at band camp at our private school in Hawaii !"

What if u just cancel her as a friend on there? That feels empowering sometimes. But what do I know, maybe she's got issues too. Who knows what was going on in her head at the time. For all we know she could've been going through some nervous breakdown just dealing with being with her kid in the store and feeling antisocial.

[Victoria'smom]

I run like **** when someone I know is in the store. I avoid people at all costs there. She may just have serious issues. I would message her and ask what happened.

[cocoabeans]

I've had it happen where someone asked me why I ignored them before and I didn't even know they were waving or saying hi! Sometime I'm so caught up in whatever I'm doing or thinking about that I can look right at someone and not know they are there. I wouldn't worry about it.