[creativelight]

Here I am raising hell because my husband told me he said to the ppl at daycare: "let's not give a reason for my wife to get upset".

My reasoning is that he makes me sound like a witch! I compared it to this; let's say at the daycare they ask what is my husband job. If I reply saying oh! He doesn't have a job! They can assume he lives off of me or that he is a bum etc. However if I respond with love and care I perhaps say, he is in school to advance in his career and he gets a pension from the va. Their perception will surely not be the same, only by how one phrases what one says.

You get me? Or am I just insane?

[~Christina]

Did you ask him why he even said something like this?

I get you. But plz remember that not everything that is said is meant in the way that it sounds. I would tend to say something dumb like this, and really not mean it badly. Maybe he just meant that he wants everything to go smoothly for you down there? I feel bad cuz I tend to say things that sound bad but that are meant with a descent, good heart.

[creativelight]

We had decided to change daycare because the lead teacher told me she was not certified and was trying to get her cdl; also because I want a structured learning environment from an accredited daycare. They just watch tv and play, they told me they do have a curriculum but I never seen it nor seen them doing anything but play. When I ask my son what he did at school he always says "a mess". Lol
So, we talked and decided to take him elsewhere. For reasons I don't understand my husband was under the impression that the decision was not yet final. When they kept asking him today why were we taking our kid from there he explained that we might leave him there and he followed with that expression.

He says he didn't mean it to sound bad, and that he can't recall if he even said it like that anymore.

However, I was puzzled by his expression! What does he mean? Of course just today a kid scratched David's face really badly and when I picked him up, they said they called his dad and left a message, which they didn't! And why the F%#^^ didn't they call me!

Anyways our baby will no longer assist that place after the end of this week. My husband understood my complaint but he felt like I was just picking a fight.

I honestly feel like is a legit argument... Not an I'm nuts, let's fight for the sake of it.
Again, I do understand he might not have meant to sound off like that. We all sometimes may blurt out stuff that we don't exactly mean. I'm just taken off by that one.. I felt like a plot against me or as if I was an evil witch!

I understand the way that you feel. I bet anything that in his mind it is not a big deal and that's why he is acting in such a way about it. He prolly has no idea that it is a big deal. I do this, then I'm surprised when I find out it is a big deal. drives my wife nuts. but if it makes you feel any better.... it's more of a guy thing than anything else. I'm sorry that it hurt you.

[creativelight]

Thanks! It probably is a guy thing, just to say something and keep on going. I'm on my period, maybe I did over react. I did apologized to him for being so upset about it. I just have a thing for respect.

respect. that's something I have recently learned a lot about. it is a touchy issue...respect....

[creativelight]

Yeah.. I don't know exactly why but I have high standards and expectations when it comes to respect.

[Victoria'smom]

It could be your husband's non-confrontational way of saying "Stop that sh it. Your aggravating our family and next time It be my wife that deals with this and she WILL be confrontational." Not that your a witch but better at protecting your kids from BS.

[creativelight]

Well it might be, because here I am, totally upset because the daycare said that they called my husband and left a MSG to notify that our baby was fighting over a toy and he got scratched up by another kid. They did not call him, and why didn't they call me!? I'm so annoyed with them! My poor little boy! Can't wait for this week to be over, he is out of that place.