[Just a girl..]

Is it wrong for me to be upset about my friends hanging out?
-Okay, so I've been friends with this girl my whole life. We still hangout all the time. , I recently met a new girl & we've been hanging out alot too. We've hungout the three of us, like twice now. And now today they're hanging out without me.. I mean, I was at my other friends house last night, catching up on stuff. and I have plans to go shopping with my mom today. , but idk.. I just don't like it because idk. It's like she's my friend , and she's my other friend. I don't feel like they should be hanging out and leaving me outta it, because it's only because of me, that they've even hungout before.. or even that they know eachother..... I know I'm probably being selfish, but gahhhhh. it's bothering me. :/

[loudpipes]

Hi sorry your feelings are hurt right now. But did your friends know you had plans to go shopping with your mom? If not I can understand why you would feel a little bit jealous. If it bothers you so much I would tell your friends that you felt left out. And you need to know that in the end of things you cannot control who your friends do and dont hang with. And if you dont mind me asking what makes you think you're bipolar?

[manicminer]

I have the same problem. I don't know why it is, but whenever I'm left out of anything, for any reason, I feel extremely upset, personally hurt, and begin to have suspicions that they don't like me anymore and make fun of me behind my back.

For example, I learned after the fact that my cousins had a party. I never got a call and had no idea it was going on. To say I was upset was an understatement. I was ready to cut all of them out of my life. Turns out they had invited me on fb, but I had no computer access at the time, so I never got the invite...

[~Christina]

Girls of your age and friendships can be an odd situation.. 3 girls have a hard time "playing" together ( my mother told me and I agree 100%).. Of course that goes away once everyone grows up some.

You can of course ask them what ? where ? and why?

Maybe you should ask them both about you all getting together next time..

Sorry this happened to you.

[THE16THDOCTOR]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

Girls of your age and friendships can be an odd situation.. 3 girls have a hard time "playing" together ( my mother told me and I agree 100%).. Of course that goes away once everyone grows up some.

You can of course ask them what ? where ? and why?

Maybe you should ask them both about you all getting together next time..

Sorry this happened to you.

I've heard that too from mother, talking to my sisters. Strange.

Nobody likes being left out. Do you feel ignored when you're all together?

Try not up let it consume you. It'll make you nuts thinking abt every possible scenario. Jus talk to them.

[Just a girl..]

I guess we're all friends. and friends can hangout with whatever friends they want to. Idk. it just upsets me because she was my friend first. I introduced them. that's why it's hard being left outta things.. I get these spells where I'm EXTREMELY insecure about myself and this triggered it. I guess I feel like if this continues then eventually I'll just be forgotten..
It's not that I'm mad/upset that they're friends, I'm not. If I was, then I wouldn't have introduced them. I want them to be friends. I guess I just never pictured them hanging out without me.. until it happened anyway..

[faerie_moon_x]

I get triggered by feeling left out, too. It's a big problem for me actually.

It's true, that it's okay for them to hang out and be friends. And sometimes you might not be there. But the thing is, like, if they start purposefully leaving you out vs. you just weren't there because you had other plans. So, like you're going with your mom, so it's okay that they hang out without you, because you have plans. But, if they start always leaving you out and never inviting you, that's when it's a problem.

An example is that my ex-friends, one weekend they all disappeared. I had no idea where they were I called all of their houses and finally found out they went camping. They were my only friends and my dad was always off with my my step-mom, so I was home alone all weekend. Well, when they got back I confronted them why wasn't I invited? Their response was "you wouldn't have had fun anyway." That's not reason to not invite someone. How do they know I wouldn't have had fun? So, that was beign left out on purprose, and now I know it's because they weren't my real friends.