[Speed3]

Over the last 2 weeks my husband has become increasingly nasty to me.
Today I would say he is abusive. I have been very Sui and the advice I get is but your husband needs you.

Ya? He threatened to punch me today just for talking. He is the only person left in my life. Therefore in my condition, I see no reason to go on. I think I would much rather be with my loving son. I prayed today for an answer. Soon after was when he said he was going to punch me.

My guardian angels solved my dilemma. I have to look some things up.

Thanks for your friendship

Oh, you've got our friendship, Speed.

Your husband's anger is partly grief; it's also frustration at not having things move along just as he would like. It takes time; he has to realize that. Next time he
threatens you ask him politely to see a psychiatrist for help, too.

Keep your guardian angels close by and keep posting as you need.

You're getting stronger; believe that; we can see it in your threads. You may
come out of this as the strongest you've ever been in your life. The fact that
you have faith and rely on that is very, very encouraging that you will grow
spiritually, and nothing can defeat that, in my view.

Take care of yourself, please.

[Victoria'smom]

Please go to a P-er. You need a safe place to care for yourself.

[faerie_moon_x]

I agree that he's grieving and I know to you he looks like he moved on. But really what's happening is he is pushing his grief down into a box inside his mind. He's trying to lock it in and ignore it. He's doing this because he's a man and somewhere along the lines someone told him that he's the big strong one who needs to protect everyone else.

But remember, anger is a huge part of grief. And he sees you are grieving reminding him of what he's trying to ignore. So... anger gets mis-directed at you. It's not right. This is my guess, by the way.

I agree with MM, you have to get yourself into a safe place. I know there are issues going on with your health insurance and trying to find a hospitla. But, you can't be around a man threatening to punch you. No matter what he's going through, that's not right. You deserve to be safe.

[purpledaisy]

Originally Posted by dark_heart_x

I agree with MM, you have to get yourself into a safe place. I know there are issues going on with your health insurance and trying to find a hospitla. But, you can't be around a man threatening to punch you. No matter what he's going through, that's not right. You deserve to be safe.

YES!

Speed3, are you out there? Have you checked this thread since your original post?

Let us know you're OK. Please?

Don't let the way your husband feels drive you toward something terrible.

I can't begin to imagine what you're going through after having lost your son. My heart breaks for you.

I've lost someone I'm very close to several years ago, and I have not recovered. I don't think you EVER recover. I think you learn to deal with a different reality. A reality where that person is not physically here.

It may sound like it could never happen, but there will come a day when you think of your son and your heart is filled with happy thoughts instead of grief.

[faerie_moon_x]

Originally Posted by purpledaisy

YES!

Speed3, are you out there? Have you checked this thread since your original post?

Let us know you're OK. Please?

Don't let the way your husband feels drive you toward something terrible.

I can't begin to imagine what you're going through after having lost your son. My heart breaks for you.

I've lost someone I'm very close to several years ago, and I have not recovered. I don't think you EVER recover. I think you learn to deal with a different reality. A reality where that person is not physically here.

It may sound like it could never happen, but there will come a day when you think of your son and your heart is filled with happy thoughts instead of grief.

I agree with all of this.