[Melmo]

So my mom has undiagnosed and unmedicated mental issues. She likes to play the victim and manipulate people to feeling sorry for her. Here's what's goin on right now:
On Friday my grandmother called me because she can't get into her Facebook account, it keeps telling her that her email address cannot be found, but I can sign ino her account from my computer. She can't from hers. Saturday, she asked my mom to put a message on Facebook for her that her Facebook was hakes and that's why she wasn't responding to any messages. I commented to my mom that her Facebook was not hacked because the password had not been changed (I was still able to sign into it) and no messages had been sent from her account. She went off on me about how I made her look like an idiot on Facebook and now her friends and family can see how stupid she is. umm...what? She also said on facebook that im just like m y father (who she hates) So we haven't spoken since but my daughters birthday party is on Saturday so we have to make up by then.
My grandmother told me that she had complained to her over the phone about me, and she *****ed to my sister about me today, saying that I'm a know it all and I'm disrespectful. All my life I've bitten my tongue and resisted arguing with my mom about various things she says. I don't like arguing. I'd say that's pretty damn respectful. Apparently opening my mouth and saying something against her is disrespectful. I feel like calling her and telling her exactly how I feel, but I know that will probably make things worse. BUT if I keep my mouth shut...it'll just make me even more frustrated for bottling it up inside.
What should I do?!

[Clinte89]

I know this is probably bad advice but it's what I do... Let her have it! You deserve to stand up for yourself.

[Melmo]

That's probably what ill do! But I can jut see it now, she's gonna cry and make herself look like a victim. She's been doing it with my sister for years. My sister told me that awhile back my mom had told her tht I make more money then them because I get free money from the govt. I was on welfare for a year and in total was making about 1500 a month and a single mother, paying half that in rent. Her and my step dad both have an income, and def make more than me. She just wanted to make people feel sorry for them because they are so poor. This still pisses me off that she said that, she doesn't know my sister told me that.

[Clinte89]

Wow sounds alot like how my mom was to me not all the time but once.

[Melmo]

Normally we have a good relationship, because i keep my mouth shut and never argue. But now I know she's talking about me behind my back.

[AeonDM]

Unable to log in could be due to facebook software bugs.

She probably feel "internet-ly" embarrassed. My opinion is to let it pass. Not worth escalating the situation for the sake of the relationship.

[faerie_moon_x]

I agree you have to stand up for yourself. My dad always badmouthed me to everyone. And then his wife starts badmouthing me and my husband. So I let her have it and told her what everyone thinks but is too polite to say: that she's a gold digger and a B*** my dad demanded I apologize to her. I didn't, and didn't speak to them for almost 2 months. Then my dad calls not wanting to fight because he's on his last legs. No one apologized to anyone, but it's more like a truce until he dies....

[Melmo]

My mom now apparently wants nothin to do with us anymore, and just posts stuff on FB about how great her husband is and how they only have each other. I feel like crawling in bed and crying.

[Melmo]

I am determined to never let my daughter grow up with a mom like her. I will never so this to her.

[Speed3]

I agree with everyone else. Your mental state comes first, tell her like it is.

Maybe, just maybe in time it will sink in. Not telling her the truth has not seemed to work and it is bad for you.

Thinking about you

[~Christina]

Block and delete her on facebook .. Remove some of the drama she is bringing into YOUR life.

[Victoria'smom]

I am determined to never let my daughter grow up with a mom like her. I will never so this to her. Sometimes this also means not letting your daughter have a grandma like your mom. Step away for awhile and focus on your family.