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May 13, 2013, 04:59 PM
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So I learned last night my husband basically thinks once Im on the right meds I'll be cured. He thinks all this is just a matter of self control. Three and a half months and he knows nothing about my Dx. I bet he couldn't even tell you what my Dx's are. He won't even read short online articles that I text links to for him. Not to defend myself but to open the door for understanding and God forbid conversation. 90% of marriages with a bipolar spouse end in divorce...now I know why. He doesn't get that there are triggers, there could be relapses, etc. I hate him right now. Anytime we talk about it he gets all weird and detached and tough love like attitude about it all. I just want to run away.
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Dx: BP1, ADD, OCD, PTSD, GAD Current: Topamax 200mg, Ativan 1mg PRN, Lamictal 200mg, Ritalin 20mgx2, Klonopin 1mg PRN, Omega 3 Abilify 10mg Past & failed: Seroquel, Saphris, Lithium, Neurontin, Wellbutrin, Prozac, Effexor, Zoloft, Celexa, Paxil, Remeron, Vistaril, Haldol, Ambien, Restoril Xanax and now most likely Abilify |
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#2
May 13, 2013, 05:45 PM
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Unfortunately believing it is all about self-control and not wanting to educate yourself about the Dx of your loved one is very common. I know of only one person who is educated about my Dx other than myself.
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May 13, 2013, 06:16 PM
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My situation is almost opposite of yours. I was in complete denial about my Dx for almost 10 years. My husband educated himself and sought therapy in order to better understand me and my needs. I feel lucky and blessed that he hasn't left me. He says that this is God's plan for him and he will love me forever. I am sorry that your husband isn't on the same page as you. Have you thought about having him go with you to see a therapist? Maybe hearing about it from a third party could help? I wish you luck!!
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May 13, 2013, 06:32 PM
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My husband tries in his own way but he does not understand.. Alot of time when it is brought up somehow he always changes it to something about him.
 Its actually really weird how he does it. So I just don't talk to him about it. Really the only time I talk to anyone about it is on here.I am really sorry hes not trying to understand or help.
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May 13, 2013, 06:49 PM
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I don't know what to say except poopoo on men right now
a cruise to Greece with girlfriends sounds real good right now, I'm way into running away. On the bright side, I'd say there's hope because he realizes you have something going on and he sounds hopeful that you will be able to feel better. Remember the "I feel" statement starters when trying to talk to him about it. Or perhaps ask the question if he could please read what you wrote because its very important for you. 
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May 13, 2013, 08:09 PM
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Mine was like that until I got on meds that helped and he was like...wow...and suddenly he realized that it wasn't about self control. I hope he can begin to understand. Remember that men tend to want to solve our problems when all we want is an ear to listen.
Best of luck to you my friend.
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diagnosed 2/12/13 General Anxiety Disorder, Bipolar II 400mg Tegretol 40mg Celexa 125mcg Tirosint 25mg Cytomel |
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