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Old Aug 28, 2013, 11:51 AM
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So I have been staying home from school because I'm going through a really major depression state. I can't deal with it when people are around so I usually shut myself off. When I am around people in this state I feel like an empty shell with no emotion. Because it's not enjoyable for me, I go off into another place in my mind where I feel more comfortable. I can't remember most of the things going on around me. I think I'm going to have to go back to school tomorrow. Are there any tips on how to stay in the moment so I can learn and not be so sad?
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Old Aug 28, 2013, 02:28 PM
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you can stay in the moment by taking in the things that are around you. using all of your senses. feel the pen in your hand, the pressure of the pen as you write on your paper. note the color of your notepad, take stock of the colors and textures of the things around you, the temperature of the room. listen to the voices around you. really pay attention to these things and notice the changes that take place. note as many details a possible to as many things and people in the room as you can and keep taking inventory and you will find you will stay present.
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Old Aug 28, 2013, 02:35 PM
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If it's other people and being near them that is causing you to sort of tune everything out... then try to JUST tune them out.

Focus on your teacher. Focus on the sound of their voice. And focus on background sounds, like the sound of the lights humming or any air conditioning. As kaliope said, focusing on all the senses helps. I fidget a lot; I tend to focus on bouncing my foot around or on playing with the pen. I also find that I doodle if I am having trouble WATCHING the person talking. So I will doodle when I listen if it isn't something I want to write down. Then I'm doing something so that I don't tune totally out and get lost in my own thoughts.
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Old Aug 28, 2013, 02:42 PM
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you can stay in the moment by taking in the things that are around you. using all of your senses. feel the pen in your hand, the pressure of the pen as you write on your paper. note the color of your notepad, take stock of the colors and textures of the things around you, the temperature of the room. listen to the voices around you. really pay attention to these things and notice the changes that take place. note as many details a possible to as many things and people in the room as you can and keep taking inventory and you will find you will stay present.
I have tried to be attentive to everything around me, but I am still unaware to the things happening.
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Old Aug 28, 2013, 02:48 PM
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If it's other people and being near them that is causing you to sort of tune everything out... then try to JUST tune them out.

Focus on your teacher. Focus on the sound of their voice. And focus on background sounds, like the sound of the lights humming or any air conditioning. As kaliope said, focusing on all the senses helps. I fidget a lot; I tend to focus on bouncing my foot around or on playing with the pen. I also find that I doodle if I am having trouble WATCHING the person talking. So I will doodle when I listen if it isn't something I want to write down. Then I'm doing something so that I don't tune totally out and get lost in my own thoughts.
It's not the people. I can't focus unless I'm sitting still hahaha
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Old Aug 28, 2013, 02:57 PM
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Oh, your post made it seem like being near other people is what is making you particularly uncomfortable.

So if you can only focus while sitting still... then sit still and focus completely on your lecturer. If you need to be still but can't seem to focus... bring yourself something to grip tightly in your non-writing hand. Focus on it's texture and the warmth or coldness of it. Same with sounds - focusing on sounds can work if you're staying really still.

Or even focus yourself on the way your muscles feel. Are you tense? Are you relaxed? Do you have any body parts that have just fallen asleep?

You might miss a minute of the teacher talking while you focus on those things, but it should help knock you out of your daydream and back into your lesson so that you can refocus on what you're learning.
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Old Aug 28, 2013, 03:03 PM
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Oh, your post made it seem like being near other people is what is making you particularly uncomfortable.

So if you can only focus while sitting still... then sit still and focus completely on your lecturer. If you need to be still but can't seem to focus... bring yourself something to grip tightly in your non-writing hand. Focus on it's texture and the warmth or coldness of it. Same with sounds - focusing on sounds can work if you're staying really still.

Or even focus yourself on the way your muscles feel. Are you tense? Are you relaxed? Do you have any body parts that have just fallen asleep?

You might miss a minute of the teacher talking while you focus on those things, but it should help knock you out of your daydream and back into your lesson so that you can refocus on what you're learning.
Sorry I guess it did seem like that. Thank you for your help. I think I'll try that
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Old Aug 28, 2013, 03:06 PM
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It's worth a shot anyway

Just cause I want to, here's a list of all the ways that I tend to refocus myself (or just relieve stress) when I'm somewhere and in the middle of things:
- I play with my hair
- Fiddle with pens
- Grip or play with coins
- stack things on the table (if there's a lot of things around, I'll stack and/or order things)
- doodle
- I grip onto and twist the end of my purse
- fold paper corners
- bounce my foot when my legs are crossed
- grip and ungrip my fist
- finding anomalies/patterns in floors, ceilings, walls.

As you can see... my refocuses are almost all tactile. Sounds and smells irritate me most of the time so I try to ignore them. And sight tends to distract me as opposed to help me focus - it really depends on what I'm trying to actually focus on.
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Old Aug 28, 2013, 03:13 PM
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It's worth a shot anyway

Just cause I want to, here's a list of all the ways that I tend to refocus myself (or just relieve stress) when I'm somewhere and in the middle of things:
- I play with my hair
- Fiddle with pens
- Grip or play with coins
- stack things on the table (if there's a lot of things around, I'll stack and/or order things)
- doodle
- I grip onto and twist the end of my purse
- fold paper corners
- bounce my foot when my legs are crossed
- grip and ungrip my fist
- finding anomalies/patterns in floors, ceilings, walls.

As you can see... my refocuses are almost all tactile. Sounds and smells irritate me most of the time so I try to ignore them. And sight tends to distract me as opposed to help me focus - it really depends on what I'm trying to actually focus on.
I completely understand what you mean about it being distracting. Any of my senses, it seems, distract me. I think it's because I over think whatever distracts me then I over think about what I should be focusing on.
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