[venusss]

well, be prepared for world ending. Venus is talking about babieeeeeeeeeeeezzzzz

I recently re-united with my friend from childhood. She has a baby. And it set my biological clock ticking.

That and other events. My grandmother studied (as a woman of 1940s) on some homemaker high school (don't laugh), She has this handwritten cookbook... and I recently added some proven recipies there, as it's "family recipes". And I was thinking "who is gonna use this if I don't have family".

I always though I am gonna be single and fun do gooder and die rather young either cause of I went on some Africa trip and **** went down.... or cause of my erractic lifestyle.

But maybe I really wanna continue the geneline.

But isn't it selfish? I am messed up. Why passed on those genes?

How would I even have a kids? I am mostly into chicks. Thanks to our lawmakers I can't adopt even though i can get married. Yes, my gay friend offered we can have kids together, but he's bipolar gay bohemian... and I really don't wanna have suicidal bohemian babies (note: I am a bohemian philosopher too).

But maybe, since I know about troubled.... I could be there for my kids if they are so.... maybe everybody is bit a messed. I have good genes too. My intelligence, drivenness.... maybe they'd be okay.

And that "do I wanna bring kids into this world?" thing I always say? But maybe there's better times ahead. Babies were born in airraids.

I don't know... right now I am not gonna go out and get preggers.... but I wonder if I am being rational about it. Maybe ending up as single mother with some gay friend as potential father, my troubledness that may or may not be genetical, my erractic lifestyle (cause I can't see myself as being the typical soccer mom)...

*sigh*

Doesn't at all surprise me that you are thinking about this.

Personally, having children was probably the single-most selfless thing I have ever done in my life. Trust me, having children is ALL about them. Children always come first once they arrive. That's not a bad thing, but it surely has a way of changing your perspective on the world . . . in a very positive way.

[Jesster77]

I agree. Having my kids was the most challenging, wonderful thing I've ever done or ever will do. Getting the chance to see everything through a new life's eyes is truly a blessing.

[Tiger_Lily]

The, "What if I give bipolar to them?" question looms in my mind as well. I decided most of my genes are pretty good and there is treatment for bipolar and depression. I've felt the biological clock ticking too. I am attracted to men, but there isn't one in my life. I'm still a "mature" student so I will wait until after I have graduated, and hope I've found a father for them by then.

[Anika.]

Why would you have to be a soccer mom ?!?!?!

[Trippin2.0]

Suicidal Bohemian babies
Awww shyt you always crack me up V!

It gives me fuzzy feelings inside to hear you are less against bringing babies into this world

I say you are intelligent so will figure out the right choice in no time.

Don't worry about being selfish like Chris mentioned, being a mother is the most selfless act. When you do it right anyway, and I'm sure you won't let the tv raise your children or expect to give birth to tiny adults.

You'll make a great mommy, you have much to offer a pretty little clump of clay that is waiting to be moulded by you.

I know you're not a fan of these, but since your post is out of character, I think we may as well follow that trend, and am sending you cyber hugs

[middlepath]

Motherhood has brought so much dimension to my life and my children made me learn that there is a love that is so deep it is indescribable. I would not have experienced this without them. The only downside is the difficulty of mood changes while preggo or post-partum. I wish I had known what that experience was going to be like so I would have been more prepared. Nothing that cant be managed through knowledge and support... (post-partum bipolar depression sucks so it is nice if you have a girlfriend or other type of support in place to help you through those days if you experience it).

Ps. the world really needs more bohemian types...we are seriously out-numbered : )

[Victoria'smom]

All these questions plagued my mind before deciding to have a child also. So I can give you my logic.

As far as a do gooder live in safer areas where it's a short distaices to places in need. We have had lived in our current area for a record 3 yrs. but usually move ever year. A lot of parents are single parents or just separate parenthood from relationship.

But maybe I really wanna continue the geneline. Okay, then think about it.

But isn't it selfish? Well a bit but so is everyone else that has kids

Why passed on those genes? Because you have awesome genes also, your caring compassionate and want to help the world. How is raising another to be caring and compassionate a bad thing even if they have some bad genes.

How would I even have a kids? I know your in a different area but a lot of people have trouble adopting for different reasons. Maybe look into a sperm bank?

I feel my child will be more prepared for his own crap in life then most because we've been able to catch and teach him how to cope with his difficulties. Now sometimes one of our therapists have to 'slap' sense into us that we're not doing irreputably damage to him.

"do I wanna bring kids into this world?" There's never the perfect time for kids

I wonder if I am being rational about it. Start saving 30% of everything you make for at least a year by the end of it you'll either decide to have a child or an awesome trip.
I can't see myself as being the typical soccer mom I tried that for a season and the parents told their kids to stay away from mine Karate was a much better fit for us. My kid has grown up on college campuses, coffee shops, working at animal shelters, co-ops and so on. He always finds kids to play with. Kids have this innate ability to enjoy helping out others.

By the way I'm not pushing you to have kids just giving my thoughts when I went from "kids...ME?!.... ha, your funny." to "kids...me?... maybe."