[Morigan]

Are you guys comfortable being around people.

I used to be the live of the party - now I can't have a conversation without clenching my jaw.

I am ok with people i am in contact with daily - it is just social gatherings 4 or more people...

Everyone is constantly asking me if I am ok because they can see I am not myself

Has the meds changed me? Have you guys seen Side Effect ( with mara rooney )

[Blue_Bird]

I actually recently noticed I start getting very nervous more often around a room fulls of people since starting the medicines I'm on. I've always and GAD, but never social anxiety to this extent at least. I've always been a bit nervous in social situations but now I nearly panic during them.

[Morigan]

Originally Posted by Blue_Bird

I actually recently noticed I start getting very nervous more often around a room fulls of people since starting the medicines I'm on. I've always and GAD, but never social anxiety to this extent at least. I've always been a bit nervous in social situations but now I nearly panic during them.

Good Luck - Thank you for the reply
I have spoken to my psychiatrist about that she increased the rivotril and epilim - because depression was not improving she increased the serdep. I find people demanding and very boring - i couldn't be bothered to care about their ramblings. In the past i would sit through a conversation and pretend to be interested in their story.
I wish i never have to socialize.

[AnxietyGirl916]

Originally Posted by Blue_Bird

I actually recently noticed I start getting very nervous more often around a room fulls of people since starting the medicines I'm on. I've always and GAD, but never social anxiety to this extent at least. I've always been a bit nervous in social situations but now I nearly panic during them.

Me too. I've always had anxiety about weird stuff, but it's anxiety bordering on paranoia. I'm always wondering and stressing over what people think of me. It seems to be worse when I'm on meds but I'm on an anti anxiety, so I dunno. I'm tracking everything in a journal and will present at next podcast visit.

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It could be the meds making you anxious. Depending on what I was on made my anxiety levels different. Now they are at a level where I can control the anxiety *most* of the time.

CBT especially helped my anxiety, I noticed it when I did it for the first time 10 years ago and it worked for a few years, then I forgot about it I think, the anxiety got bad again and all the cbt went out the window. Now I am doing CBT again I have been able to keep a hold on it. It is definitely beneficial for my anxiety. Sure there are times when I am just anxious with no thoughts fueling it, those are the times I use mindfulness or meditation, or even just some deep breathing to ground me. I use positive self talk to get through stressful situations and when I need to I will use some tension tamer tea (it drugs me more than ativan!) I very rarely use PRN for anxiety no days.

I still dont really enjoy socialising but its much easier to do it now when I am not fighting an inner battle, worrying that I was about to throw up on them or what they might be thinking of me.

My interest in conversation depends on my mood state. If I am lower I find it hard to be an active participant because, yeah I dont really care about the trivial things they are talking about. But I fake it til I start to actually get interested again. I need to remember to smile, make eye contact and have open body language, usually after a while of doing this I do find that I become engaged.

[Morigan]

Originally Posted by AnxietyGirl916

Me too. I've always had anxiety about weird stuff, but it's anxiety bordering on paranoia. I'm always wondering and stressing over what people think of me. It seems to be worse when I'm on meds but I'm on an anti anxiety, so I dunno. I'm tracking everything in a journal and will present at next podcast visit.

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good luck - regarding what people might think of you - they probably are not. I had a similar situation, it has gotten better with time. People who judge do it just so they can feel better about themselves anyways. You too, will meet people that you don't like. Every body is not going to like everybody all the time.

[Morigan]

Originally Posted by Supanova

It could be the meds making you anxious. Depending on what I was on made my anxiety levels different. Now they are at a level where I can control the anxiety *most* of the time.

CBT especially helped my anxiety, I noticed it when I did it for the first time 10 years ago and it worked for a few years, then I forgot about it I think, the anxiety got bad again and all the cbt went out the window. Now I am doing CBT again I have been able to keep a hold on it. It is definitely beneficial for my anxiety. Sure there are times when I am just anxious with no thoughts fueling it, those are the times I use mindfulness or meditation, or even just some deep breathing to ground me. I use positive self talk to get through stressful situations and when I need to I will use some tension tamer tea (it drugs me more than ativan!) I very rarely use PRN for anxiety no days.

I still dont really enjoy socialising but its much easier to do it now when I am not fighting an inner battle, worrying that I was about to throw up on them or what they might be thinking of me.

My interest in conversation depends on my mood state. If I am lower I find it hard to be an active participant because, yeah I dont really care about the trivial things they are talking about. But I fake it til I start to actually get interested again. I need to remember to smile, make eye contact and have open body language, usually after a while of doing this I do find that I become engaged.

Hi Supernova

I just googled CBT - ( I know I know I am such a noob) and can't wait to start. I would also like to know more about this tension tamer tea - that too, sounds very promising.

It is so true that my state of mind does have a HUGE influence on my behavior in these situations. I should avoid socializing when I am down.

Thanks for the insight - take care

Glad I could be of help CBT is great, and although some seems silly at time, it does work. If you take one thing away from a therapy like that, then it has been worth it.

The tension tamer tea is just some tea I get from the local health food shop. My boyfriends mum put me on to it (she suffers PTSD and the tea helps her when she is panicy). I was shocked it had an effect on me because usually things like that have little to no effect. I think because I am more stable now I react better. The website was down so I couldnt link you to that but tension tamer is available on amazon. Celestial Seasonings Herb Tea, Tension Tamer, 20-Count Tea Bags (Pack of 6): Amazon.com: Grocery & Gourmet Food

I try to only use it when I need it but I do love the taste too. Even the smell relaxes me now. I am so thankful to have found something so simple to help me, I really hate taking extra meds.

[AnxietyGirl916]

Oooh, I'm going to try the tea.

[January]

I, too, don't like to be in crowds of people, especially when I have to interact with them on a one-to-one basis. A friend of mine recently told me I've become anti-social. Perhaps I have, but my past experiences of not knowing how to deal with people without getting emotionally hurt have led me to lead a more solitary life. I'm still polite and speak to folks. I just sort of keep on walking.

I hope this helps a bit,

Jan

[Morigan]

Originally Posted by Supanova

Glad I could be of help CBT is great, and although some seems silly at time, it does work. If you take one thing away from a therapy like that, then it has been worth it.

The tension tamer tea is just some tea I get from the local health food shop. My boyfriends mum put me on to it (she suffers PTSD and the tea helps her when she is panicy). I was shocked it had an effect on me because usually things like that have little to no effect. I think because I am more stable now I react better. The website was down so I couldnt link you to that but tension tamer is available on amazon. Celestial Seasonings Herb Tea, Tension Tamer, 20-Count Tea Bags (Pack of 6): Amazon.com: Grocery & Gourmet Food

I try to only use it when I need it but I do love the taste too. Even the smell relaxes me now. I am so thankful to have found something so simple to help me, I really hate taking extra meds.

Thank you so much for taking the time to send the link. Guess what I am going to do today! Take Care Supernova!