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Dec 04, 2013, 09:06 AM
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The day has already gone to hell. I'm a Nurse and I perform Hemodialysis at the bedside in hospitals all over Chicago. I get to my first patient and she is literally acting like a petulant 5yo!!!! She refused to talk to me. She refused to acknowledge my existence. I tried to cancel her "call light" and ask what she needed, she just hit the button and ignored me!!!! I moved her bed about 2ft to make room for my equipment and she started HITTING ME!!!!
OMG, my eyesight actually went blurry!!! I think my BP must have been more than 200 SBP!!!! (Really, really high for those not in the business). I quit. I called my scheduler and told her I was moving onto my second patient, get someone else to deal with this twit!!! I'm a professional. I perform life saving treatments. I don't want thanks or adulations, just a little respect and common courtesy!!!!! I'm trying to save your life, how about you help me, help you!!!!! Sonofamother****ingpieceofshitcocksuckingasshole!!!!!!! Oh, and my second patient is from a foreign country and treats us like servants! She literally give us the "you're dismissed" hand wave!!! ARGH!!!!!! It's a good thing I'm bald, or is pull my F'ing hair out!!!!! Ok.... Better.... I think.....
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#2
Dec 04, 2013, 09:56 AM
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Sounds like dealing with snotty pilots……...
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#3
Dec 04, 2013, 09:57 AM
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I can only imagine.....
This is why I prefer my patients in the ICU and sedated.... :-/
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#4
Dec 04, 2013, 10:14 AM
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Sick people don't usually make for nice and friendly even if you are trying help them. Thank goodnes for the few good ones that keep you going and preforming such a service. Hope you day gets better.
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Dec 04, 2013, 10:16 AM
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You know what.... This lady is just a PITA. Her illness has nothing to do with it. She is just "Ornery".
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#6
Dec 04, 2013, 10:21 AM
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Seriously though, after my uncle separated for the military he became a nurse in a mental hospital. He used to come home crying and with broken ribs and nose. He really wanted to help people, MI is very common in my family, it would really tear him up when he saw people suffering. Sometimes it is hard to be a patient. The psychology of being a patient is poorly understood. Just know you intend to and want to help your patients, you cannot do much more than that.
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#7
Dec 04, 2013, 10:22 AM
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You have a very difficult and stressful profession, and I really admire you and others who can do it. I am so sorry you began your day with people like that. It sounds like you handled the situation in an extremely professional manner. Be proud of yourself for that. I know my mouth in difficult situations, and how hard it is for me to keep it shut under much less difficult circumstances. You help people and save lives daily. You are the better person. 
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Bi Polar 2 (mixed), CPTSD, GAD, PD (with agoraphobia), ADHD. Lamotrigine, Zoloft, Vistaril "I hated labels. People didn’t fit into slots—prostitute, housewife, saint—like sorting the mail. We were so mutable, fluid with fear and desire, ideals and angles, changeable as water." "The blues are because you're getting fat and maybe it's been raining too long, you're just sad that's all. The mean reds are horrible. Suddenly you're afraid and you don't know what you're afraid of." |
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Dec 04, 2013, 11:03 AM
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You know, I may be being too hard on this patient, but with my BP giving me a bent towards aggression and anger, I just can't handle her....... Ugh. So far it's getting better. My 2nd patient actually apologized!!! We both started to apologize about being grumpy.... Ahhh better
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#9
Dec 04, 2013, 11:50 AM
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Well, the day has totally gone to pot. Evidently the facility didn't like how I felt with the patient who was being a PITA and they called my boss. He came by and I now have to go to the office tomorrow for a formal *****ingout. I'm fully expecting to get fired.
I can't do this anymore. I can't keep being a failure. I have been fired from EVERY SINGLE JOB I've had since I left the Marines. I'm pretty sure the Marines would have fired me if they could have...... I can't support my children anymore if I get fired....... What I wouldn't give to figure out how to commit suicide without it affecting them. I'd do it in a heartbeat if I could figure out a way..... I can't even give them back to their mother and just disappear.....She already abandoned them. I couldn't do it to them too..... But having such a failure as a father..... Holy hell....
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Dec 04, 2013, 11:59 AM
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I am so sorry to hear how you are feeling right now. Do not go to the worst case scenario. Most likely, they will just discuss with you what happened, and ask for your side of the story. Nurses are too valuable to terminate based on one patient complaint. The patient hit you! Therefore you had every right to remove yourself from a situation likely to escalate in which you could be further attacked and quite possibly seriously injured.
I am sure they just need to talk to you to get your side of the story. (I know I said that before, but it warrants repeating). There was an incident where you were physically attacked. They need to follow up with you to make sure that you are okay. They could face liability depending on your injuries, physically or emotionally. They need to know that you are okay to safeguard themselves from liability. You will be okay in all of this. You handled the situation correctly!
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Bi Polar 2 (mixed), CPTSD, GAD, PD (with agoraphobia), ADHD. Lamotrigine, Zoloft, Vistaril "I hated labels. People didn’t fit into slots—prostitute, housewife, saint—like sorting the mail. We were so mutable, fluid with fear and desire, ideals and angles, changeable as water." "The blues are because you're getting fat and maybe it's been raining too long, you're just sad that's all. The mean reds are horrible. Suddenly you're afraid and you don't know what you're afraid of." |
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Dec 04, 2013, 12:02 PM
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I've already been fired once before for basically this same thing. I'm an Alpha male. I'm big and aggressive. I'm in the wrong profession. I never should have become a nurse. This is not the first time I've had to get an *** chewing for this....
I can't work with other people. I just can't. And yet I have no idea what I could possibly do.
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#12
Dec 04, 2013, 12:13 PM
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I have been in your shoes many times. I still really think that you handled the situation correctly. It is very hard when someone is hitting you to not be upset. You are a human being after all. I know it is a very difficult day right now. I am rooting for you over here, and I pretty sure you will not be fired.
I have mouthed off big time to attorneys and only after quite a few of my scathing outbursts was I fired. I have a pretty mean mouth on me sometimes when hypomanic. Far less so now, but it takes time. You have served your country, you are serving humankind as a nurse. You have and continue to contribute to your fellow human beings. Try to remind yourself of that throughout today, and the fact that your kids love you and need you, and how much you love them.
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Bi Polar 2 (mixed), CPTSD, GAD, PD (with agoraphobia), ADHD. Lamotrigine, Zoloft, Vistaril "I hated labels. People didn’t fit into slots—prostitute, housewife, saint—like sorting the mail. We were so mutable, fluid with fear and desire, ideals and angles, changeable as water." "The blues are because you're getting fat and maybe it's been raining too long, you're just sad that's all. The mean reds are horrible. Suddenly you're afraid and you don't know what you're afraid of." |
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Dec 04, 2013, 12:32 PM
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I may have been a Marine, but honestly, I didn't do anything. I've never been overseas. I've never seen combat. I've never actually done my job as a Maintenance Marine (Roll my Track's to combat and bring them home). I was a horrible Marine. I was passed over for what should have been an automatic promotion. The only other guy from my basic maintenance class who stayed in and didn't make Staff Sargent has an IQ just above tap water....
I'm a great technical nurse. But when someone rubs me the wrong way, my hackles come up and I get MEAN. I can't turn it off. Hell, my PDoc looked at me and said "you need to learn to control yourself!!!" I couldn't keep my marriage together. I can't keep a job (each one seems to last less and less time). I'm not a good father. Hell, honestly, I'm not even a very good person. I can't control my emotions. I can't control my mouth. The meds make me somewhat bearable, but that's no way to live. That's no way to be.
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Dec 04, 2013, 01:42 PM
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You absolutely did defend our country. A team is required and members of the team are essential to the functioning of the team.
My meds don't make me perfect. Far from it. They make me more tolerable as well, but at this point any improvement comes as a welcomed relief. I have been fired many times as well. It is really irritating when less intelligent people advance, I often think that it is because simpletons are less intimidating and over all just not too complicated. I would rather have my brain, with all of its complications than be a simple simpleton. You have accomplished a lot in your life and you have done it while dealing with BP. This is no easy task. It is not easy to be a Marine. It is not easy to get through Nursing School and be a nurse. These are pretty major accomplishments, yet when you are feeling down it is easy to overlook the good in ourselves. I know, I am the same way. Just get through this day. I know you are worried, but I really believe that it will not result in the worst case scenario. Your actions seem to have been very reasonable under the circumstances.
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Bi Polar 2 (mixed), CPTSD, GAD, PD (with agoraphobia), ADHD. Lamotrigine, Zoloft, Vistaril "I hated labels. People didn’t fit into slots—prostitute, housewife, saint—like sorting the mail. We were so mutable, fluid with fear and desire, ideals and angles, changeable as water." "The blues are because you're getting fat and maybe it's been raining too long, you're just sad that's all. The mean reds are horrible. Suddenly you're afraid and you don't know what you're afraid of." |
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Dec 04, 2013, 06:04 PM
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So..... I had to go into the office this afternoon to see my bosses.....
I got called in, not for what happened with the PITA, patient, but for how I went to pharmacy to try and get A medication. I didn't know they don't open until 0800, so I went down, knocked on the door and then kicked the door (to be heard). Evidently a new manager saw me, decided I was "scary" and I've now been banned from The facility..... I was "amped" from my encounter with the PITA patient and was just.... "Grumpy"...... Why is it, when I'm in that moment, I can't see what the hell is going on? Why can't I just walk away? Why can I see it in everyone else's actions, but not my own (until it's all done and overwith).
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Dec 08, 2013, 02:20 AM
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Your kids are your reason to stay alive. I don't have real kids but my pets are my reason for staying alive. I too have a stressful job, where I get chewed out for the pettiest of reasons, but i just smile and say yes. Sometimes I am asserive if they are being ridiculous. Stand up for yourself, and explain exactly what happened, and try to be calm and patient. You will be fine. Just keep on deep breathing. Think of the good stuff you have to be thankful for. there might not be much, but I'm sure you can think of something. Keep on fighting, it's worth it.
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Dec 08, 2013, 02:24 AM
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I used to be a medical assistant so I can relate to a lot of what you are saying. It greatly angers me when people blatantly disrespect me while on the job. I am only trying to help and do my job. But then I tell myself that those people don't matter and I cannot do anything to change their attitude. Ignoring their rude behavior helps me just grind down and do my work.
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