bipolars attract other bipolars

does it ever occur to anyone that is bipoloar that we seem to connect with others of our own kind.

I am not a therapist and I don't claim to be one. But seriously a good portion of people that I hang out with and that I am friends with seem to me to be prime cases for being bipolar or even boarder line personality like me.

Cause one day they will be very sweet caring wanting to talk about an issue I am having (and for the record I now hate talking about anything that might be bugging me to anyone but my therapist cause other people just are wayy to un stable for most of their own good with these things)

they will turn around some times less then a day later and be verbally attacking me on the same subject that they had an entirely different view point on before.

they even have said things to me that a day later they will not remember and I try to call them on it and they deny it.

I guess the whole birds of a feather flock together state is fairly true. I love and care for them very much so.....but it has made me into a nervous wreck that they go off the wall so incredibly easily.

My husband and I are both bipolar. We met when manic. All of our close friends have similar issues but are un Dx'd.

I've only ever hung out with one other person who I knew had bipolar but we did get along very well. We never really fought since each of us was diagnosed and knew about each other that whenever we said or did anything rude, we knew not to take it personally. She however was taking medication and seemed far more stable than I was. One time she told me that I was scaring one of the new employees one and made me go home and it became a running joke between us. Since we were both bipolar, we had a unique relationship that wasn't harmed by the diagnoses. There was no blaming bp or being wary of how the other might react. It was one of the easiest friendships I've had.

I had 1 girlfriend who was BP and had 1 date with a girl who was. Neither went well for me.

The 1 date could have also been borderline in addition to BP. Either that or in a mixed episode.

I knew things would be interesting when they come right out and tell you they are bipolar from the get go.

I totally find that too be true! Great point, and thank you for posting!

How did it go exactly?

No. Most of my friends are calm and cool, the opposite of me. I find them calming and soothing.

In my line of work there are a great deal of "personalities." Notably I know of a bipolar guy, he reached out to me after he caught me on this forum. I like him, but in general we don't get on all that well. The 2 guys I primarily work with are perfect co-workers for me, funny and even keeled. My husband is also like that.

I am very sensitive to other people's general affect. Another co-worker of mine is ALWAYS wound up. I never know where he is going with things and I have to mentally prepare myself to interact with him, his nervous behavior makes me very nervous.

As far as other women go I think a good borderline personality or bipolar lady can be ok because we can support each other, but this is not always successful. I generally stick with my quite guy friends.

I picked my AA sponsor out of a large home group and she also has bipolar I

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One of my best friends is also bipolar; I just saw him today! And I think that my boss and good friend probably is bipolar too, but he is undiagnosed (I started a thread on this very topic a few days ago).

I think that all of my close friends have been through MI, most of them have major depression. It's interesting because some of these friendships started before either of us were diagnosed. I guess we just sensed a kindred troubled spirit within each other...

Interesting topic.

I do have a history of dating people who would undoubtedly be diagnosed if they would see a doc about it! My daughter's father is probably the most obvious example.

Secretum, I think you're right about that (your last sentence). Birds of a feather and all that..

my girlfriend lasted about 4-6 months, it's a blur for me know. I just got out of the hospital and met her in a bar. She seemed a bit talkative but a lot of girls are so I did not think any thing of it. She was a little cutie and we hit it off so well that from that nite on we were inseparable and spent all of our time together. She told me she just got out of the hospital too but didn't say for one, and I did not ask. I must be really dumb because I did not notice we would both stay up all nite and sleep during the day. Then I noticed she was talking klonopin, so was I! But she was on 2mg 3x a day!! I was only on 1mg 3x but rarely took it that much. Still I was stupid. We were still having fun! I drove her to see her parents at the Thousand Islands and that's when things got strange. Her parents were verrry strange. At dinner they all started acting like maniacs with each other yelling and swearing at each other and then turn to me all polite and kind with smiles. Really freaked me out. Later her father comes out of the blue and says, did you know my daughter was bipolar? I said no and did not dare tell him I was too. On the drive home I asked her if it was true, and this little angel petite little thing cute as can be suddenly turned in to Lucifer in drag! She got in my face and yelled as loud as she could NO I AM NOT BIPOLAR THAT'S A LIE YOU TOLD YOU THAT ****?! I calmly pulled the car over put it in park and got in her face and yelled as loud as I could, I DON'T REALLY GIVE D IF YOU ARE OR NOT BUT I AM AND YOU BETTER NEVER DO THAT AGAIN! Then she turned back to her angel self for the rest of the ride. This is the only stuff I can share, other then it got bad soon afterwards.

The one date I had was a gorgeous blond, dream come true! So sweet, so nice. Our first day in the first hour she tells me, btw I'm bipolar. I learned my lesson the first time around and decided I better take my first exit and did. We finished our date and she got on the dance floor and started dancing with her self. Nothing wrong with that but there was no music except in her head. I prolly should have seen her again at least one more time. But didn't.

I think it would help to have some other bp people in my real life, but I don't. No one understands me.

I feel you BlueInanna. It was nice having a boss who was also bp and I could just let her I was having a **** time and she would help me out or send me home. She was a pretty damn good drinking buddy too. It is tough to explain bp to people who have never experienced it.

Yep, second hospitalization there was another bipolar patient who approached me saying I had deep eyes, then later started talking about space and string theory. Instant non-romantic connection.

A year later when I was having delusions I remembered her name, and I kid you not it was pronounced like "ur-it-see", which to me sounded like "you're it, see?"

lol, my second hospitalization I attracted a schizo girl, very sweet nice looking girl. She thought I was Charles Manson. Damn girl had me believing it for a while. Yup we figured out how to "do it" in the hospital. Who knows, some where there may be a bipolar/schizo kid running around who thinks his dad is Charles Manson

lol (I think?)

First hospitalization I shared a room with a schizo man who thought I was Dracula. I figured out later that he most likely noticed my short vampire fangs--I have two upper teeth that grew in shaped and angled almost like a vampire's.

I find it true that you tend to attract like-people. I have a friend who is also bipolar, two friends who are Asperger's Syndrome and a friend who is schizophrenic. Aside from them, most of my friends share a lot of the same feelings or issues that I do.

I think we're subconsciously drawn to people who reflect what we see in ourselves.

I dont have any "real life" bipolar friends. I've only met a handful in "real life" that actually have it. I have quite a few depressed friends, one who was misdiagnosed as bipolar, we had the best times together, but she fed off my mania hence she got the diagnosis. Once we were away from each other her hypo/mania symptoms disappeared, unfortunately mine continued. Shes now completely stable with a child and only mild depression on occasion, no bipolar symptoms.

I think some people need to be really careful who they hang out with in each mood state. It could end up worse for both parties.

Nope. Not true for me, not in the least.
The birds of a feather thing rings true in the sense that we have similar values, complimentary personalities, and so forth.

I'm the only sick puppy I know

My husband is like, the polar opposite of me. Very cool and collected, and rational. ALTHOUGH! He grew up in a house with a bipolar mother, brother, sister and step brother. He and his father know exactly how to deal with people like us lol. I think if he ever lost that cool cat attitude I would be doomed lol

In a word. Yes. I find myself drawn to other very free spirited individuals who are very fun and energetic. They also understand my need to isolate when having a mixed episode or am in a deep depression. They can truly empathize, and when two people are in the thralls of a happy hypomanic state, they can have a great time, get into a lot of trouble, or both.