[Torri_oli]

I've been reading alot about BP & came across this site, hoping to get some input. Its not my place to diagnose anyone but I'm 90% sure my ex is bipolar. He is 22 and I met him 3 years ago, we were first friends then started dating. He is usually the most calm, logical, kind hearted person I know.We dated 6 months, he had to transfer to an out of state college so we broke up, we agreed to cut contact for a month but when we got back in touch he was a different person. He always wanted to be a doctor but now he was telling me he changed majors, he wants to be a model,actor, and rapper. He had all these business ideas that made no sense,he said he was sleeping 3 hours at night,he's usually very careful with his money but blew 1600 on a suitcase, and he was cocky. He was like this for 4 months until ended up being stupid and got arrested, so his parents had him move back home. When he got back he was the same person I know & love, he said he had no idea what had gotten into him, and changed his major back to biology.

We got back together for 7 months and everything was good. He was pretty depressed a lot but it wasn't to a point where it interfered with his daily life, So I figured it had to do with his arrest. This time, the week before we broke up he was making plans with me for summer and telling me he would be lost without me, and thanking me for always lifting his mood. The next time I saw him he was acting weird and irritable. He said he slept 4 hours the past few days and didn't feel tired. We got into a small argument and he broke up with me, didn't give me a reason and continued to yell that I pushed him to it. This was probably one of the only times since I met him he's raised his voice at me. He ignored my texts and deleted me off facebook. He called a few days ago, told me he doesn't sleep but feels sharper then ever and said he dropped all his classes to work and save money to move to NY & work on wallstreet. He Re-adds me on facebook then texts me and says "I know youre in love with me so if my facebook is making you cry i'll delete you again"

This is not him. I care about him a lot and my question is Do I tell him what I'm thinking? I know now is not a good time, but maybe when he calms down a bit? He lives with his parents but I don't think they think anything of it. My friends say to take advantage of the break up and run from him, but knowing how good he is when he's stable, I don't have the heart too. Also, If he is hypomanic, Do I just disregard everything he says? One day he tells me he needs me and I'm the only one who understands him, then another he is a jerk and tells me he will help me find a new boyfriend. Does this end abruptly or is he going to gradually come back down? Sorry for the length, Don't know who else I can talk too.

[A Red Panda]

It really depends on him and what you're willing and able to handle. I might ask him when he's stable if he's ever thought about talking to a psych. I probably wouldn't say "bipolar" at all, because it can set people on the defensive pretty quickly. I'd just point out that it doesn't seem like he's himself at all when he's gone on these breaks.