[Hydrophobic1212]

I rarely ever develop crushes on anyone or find myself really liking someone... But I met this guy, and the problem is he's married and has a child. I KNOW that nothing will happen and I definitely don't expect anything to happen. It's the fact that I rarely ever like someone and really enjoy this person's company. It's just hard to sort through the feelings of how I feel around him and how I feel somewhat jealous when he talks about his wife or his child. Not because he's with them, but because I want someone to want me in the way he wants them. It's something I've always struggled with, because I WANT someone to want me, due to my family not acting like it or my close friends.

I'm going to be going to therapy again finally, so I'm hoping to work through this, but in the mean time, does anyone have suggestions?

Thank you!

[feferock]

I'm married with kids so my situation is not completely the same. But if I find myself attracted to someone I explain I am putting my family first and have to cut all ties. It's hard and sometimes it takes longer than others but I do it because it's off limits. Why put myself and them in that situation? Now this won't necessarily work for you but it has for me. And I wanted to at least respond

Fefe(28) -bipolar II
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Son(8)-aspergers and possibly ADHD and odd
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[gris212]

I know easier said than done, but don't put yourself in harms way. What will come of it? You will get hurt. Go to therapy to work through this but you deserve better for yourself.

I haven't been in a relationship for a long time. I sometimes worry that I'll end up alone. For some reason I keep thinking I'll be an old lady with 10 cats even though I don't like cats. I recently started seeing someone who knows if it will go anywhere, but it gives me hope that someone is out there for me.

Do what's best for you.

[avlady]

I hope you don't persue a relationship with this person, besides being friends. Getting involved with a married person is not a good idea, you'll just be putting more pressure on the other person and yourself, and maybe ruin a good marriage. I would just try to be friends if possible, don't get into something you can't get out of either. I understand you want someone to want you, but this person seems to be off limits, you'll just end up hurt in the end if you are already jealous of his wife and kid.

[Hydrophobic1212]

As I said, I don't want anything to happen nor do I expect anything to happen. I wouldn't try anything, because that's wrong. I don't want him for me, I just like him. As I said in the first post, I'm expecting nothing nor do I want something. It's just unfortunate to like him when he's taken, is all I'm saying. Ha, ha.

Thank you all for the support, though.