I mean really

Do any of you have family members who suffer from mental health issues but just refuse to acknowledge it and/or get help? I've had about enough of my mother at this point. Seriously.

My husband and son and I live with her (and my brother and his girlfriend). We moved in last year so we could save for a house while helping her fix her own house up. We have not been able to save due to a **** ton of medical bills from me and my husband. Anyway. Point is my mother and I have always had a bit of a contentious relationship. She's been mentally ill for as long as I can remember. Completely isolated, depressed, anxious, anger problems, alcoholic, the whole shebang. It really damaged me growing up. She was absent to the point of neglect when I was young. When my father died she lost it and I became the mother, struggling to keep the house clean, get my brother up for school, get food on the table, etc. she improved after a few years but she goes through very distinct down periods. Now that I live with it again, and since the resurgence of my own symptoms, I can see it so clearly. If she does have bipolar she is a rapid cycler like I am. She goes through two week long depressions, flowed by normal periods where she starts cleaning sprees and spends money she doesn't have. She laughs and plays with my son, and then disappears upstairs for days. She's down today; I can tell she probably hasn't even come downstairs today, as her car is still in the same position and everything in the kitchen is untouched. Yesterday she randomly started crying over something that happened two weeks ago. And I HATE when she gets like this. It is such a trigger, flashes me right back to childhood when nothing I ever did made her happy. The only time she was happy was when she was drunk (which wasn't often thankfully as she had done most of her alcohol recovery at that point). I hate it. And I seriously ****ing HATE that my family does all they can to pretend it's not happening.

My great grandmother put her head in the proverbial oven - my grandfather found her when he was a child and saved her. My grandfather hasn't been happy a day in his life. He is plagued by anxiety and anger and lives to make everyone miserable by making nasty comments all the time. Also alcoholic. My grandmother suffers horrific anxiety and used to be quite angry and abusive. My uncle is a fifty five year old child living in a man's body - whiny, angry, selfish. And alcoholic. And all everyone does is stick their heads In The sand and pretend like it's alllll ok. Enable all of them to act terribly and never grow up. My grandmother pays my mom's bills for her and has since my dad died - not for lack of money, but because SHE JUST WON't. My grandmother hems and haws over my uncle and tuts and frets but lets him verbally abuse her and manipulate her. No one says STOP.

**** this, man. Seriously. I can't stand my mother. She will deny everything ti the day she dies. She fully admits to forgetting large chunks of my childhood but when I told her she was depressed she looked at me like I had eight heads. Heavens no! Christ.

I'm done with this dysfunction. I will hopefully get a substantial raise this yea and then we're out and everyone can keep pretending nothing is wrong. Meanwhile I will accept help for MY problems so my son doesn't have to deal with this nonsense when he's older. Try explaining to your three year old how often Grammy is "sick" and won't play with him. Figure that out.

Obviously none of this is helped by the fact that I have sunk into a depression after only a week of hypomania - I hate cycling so rapidly! I must take my medication again. I don't want to live like this for my son. He deserves better than what I got.

Thanks for letting me vent.

I hope you feel better now that you have vented. you are right. you can change the cycle for your son. get on your meds and stay on them. get out of that house and show your son a better life away from the dysfunction. im a rapid cycler but live a normal life on meds. I cant believe the success I have and stability meds have given me. you can do it too. good luck.

Holy crap! I would not be able to deal with any of that in my current state. I don't think I could deal with it if I didn't have bipolar.

Definitely break the cycle with your son. He's getting to an age where he's going to start remembering.

If you find meds that work - please try to take them to stabilize yourself for you and your family.

Biological. You must be frustrated with the situation and perhaps she is too. Move out when you have enough saved up. I do not care if I am trailer trash if is my own trailer. I have almost enough to buy myself a trailer.

Hugs to you. I am 99.9% sure my mom is BP also, in fact her worsening behavior as she gets older is part of what motivated me to seek treatment for my own mood swings. I don't even speak to her any more, she's just too big of a trigger for me and I can't trust her behavior around me or my family and I can't deal with her emotional issues anymore, I have enough of my own. My dad is an alcoholic and has other issues as well...it can be so frustrating to deal with family stuff like this, especially when you can see how it has or is affecting you. I agree you should try to move out ASAP and focus on taking care of yourself and your family - try not to let others' issues stop you from doing that. I know it's easier said than done.

I suspect that my mother had mental health issues and I am paying for it. You are a good mom and will keep your son safe. I really hope you can get out soon, this isn't good for you at all.

You need to get away from her asap. I know you have to wait because of the money issue and I get that part tho. Good for you for taking care of yr son and stopping the cycle. Yr mom sounds like mine and it can make anyone crazy. I can hardly stand to be around my mom she's so bad off. On top of it all she is a complete control freak. Hey emotional issues are too much to take. Is there a way for you to move out sooner than later? If no one in yr family wants to look at how much help yr mom needs then there's little hope. I'm sorry yr struggling right now. Just take good care of you and yr family

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My family is a mess too and I had to move out when I was a teenager because they triggered me terribly. My mother has depression and makes terrible decisions while my sibling has depression (and something else) and a personality disorder of some sort. I'm not exactly sure what she has since she will not admit she has a mental illness and will not seek treatment for it. I live in a much nicer home and I haven't been this healthy in years. I hope you can find a better home soon since having family members that impact you negatively is quite the burden. Sorry you have to go through this