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My son is 25. He was diagnosed with BPD and ADHD at age 23. When his illness became worse, he regressed. He actually acts like he is 15 again. He has difficulty learnig from his mistakes. Has anyone experienced this?

Thank you so much!

I've experienced this first hand, even before I entered therapy for the first time. At the time I thought that was my way of making people think I didn't know as much as I do. Trust me, that can be helpful in certain situations. It's just the way you go about it that matters.

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LOL, I never know what he will say next. But he is too honest at times and he lies at times. You cannot predict anything about him.

Is his behavior completely different now? Or are you just noticing this? Also, it can be difficult being repeatedly drilled about something that was done wrong. If anything it's really important he know he's accepted as he is, even when he makes mistakes.

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His behavior is totally different. He had very severe trauma before diagnosis. It was many different things, it was very bad. He had several auto accidents before we realized he had ADHD. After that something changed, he could not work, he had to move home and he has been in treatment and trying hard to get better. I am not exaggerating, he acts like he is 15. He does have support from his family, we have educated ourselves. It is very sad. He has lost everything except for us.

Thank you for your reply. I am just trying to understand.

I totally see where you're coming from. You really love him and don't wish for him to be in pain.

It's good you're trying to see things from his perspective. Understand that what he's doing is trying to recreate a time in his life when things were less painful for him. He's aware things at that time weren't perfect, but what's important to him is that life was much better than it is now.

If you don't mind me asking, is your son in therapy? It sounds like he's going through a lot and professional support may help him navigate better.

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Originally Posted by herpoorsoul

I totally see where you're coming from. You really love him and don't wish for him to be in pain.

It's good you're trying to see things from his perspective. Understand that what he's doing is trying to recreate a time in his life when things were less painful for him. He's aware things at that time weren't perfect, but what's important to him is that life was much better than it is now.

If you don't mind me asking, is your son in therapy? It sounds like he's going through a lot and professional support may help him navigate better.

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Thank you so much for responding. I son is in thearpy now. Too much to burden you with, but his lawyer wants him to see a theapist in our county. He hates her. It makes him worse, he says she tells him maybe he needs different meds and many times people think they have Bipolar and ADHD becuase they see it on TV. Have you ever heard of anything so crazy? He has a good Dr., but you now if you don't trust your therapist, it is useless.

Thank you!

No problem ^.^ It's really important that he feels comfortable with whatever therapist he ends up with because that will affect his progress. Since he's saying that it's possible that he's not. Maybe he is telling things for what they are & she is one of those therapists who thinks every case is typical. Meeting different therapists to find one he is ok with may help if he's ok with the idea of even being in therapy. If that's not the case though it's really important he continue. But I don't know everything; I don't fully know the situation, your son or his therapist so I really can't say. Just some thoughts...