[bipolar gemini]

my husband has never given me a reason to mistrust him or ever think that he is cheating...but sometimes i can't help but ask those insecure thoughts like "who's that on your facebook?", "did you ever like so-n-so?" and so forth. He hates when i ask those questions, but they just go around and around in my head until they come outta my mouth, even though I've asked them before.
It's usually when i'm in my depressed but irritable/angry state that i ask these questions and thus gives me a reason to unnecessarily start a fight. i just can't seem to stop myself.
anyone else extremely jealous for no reason? and how do you handle it?

[kaliope]

perhaps positive self talk, knowing these feelings only come on when you are depressed or irritable would be helpful. when you are feeling that way, remind yourself that you are in a bad place and that is the only reason you are experiencing those jealous feelings therefore there is no reason to act on them knowing that when you are in a better place those feelings will go away. take care.

[Victoria'smom]

I do. I ask him, its a new and recent thing after a brief paranoia episode. For a long time anytime he messaged people on Facebook I'd get both his message and there's. That's until he found out. I was scrolling through his messages about 2 wks ago. He caught me reading his texts and asked if the conversation was to my approval . later that night came the: you use to believe in privacy, why can't you trust me you know I wouldn't do anything conversation. It doesn't start a fight he down right refuses to fight with me when I'm irrational.

[Alone & confused]

I have extreme jealousy issues! And I can't convince myself that I'm wrong about my suspicions despite a lack of evidence. I don't know how to get past it either. Trust is very hard for me! I hope we both can find answers.

[bipolar gemini]

thank you to everyone that commented. it just helps to know that im not alone. jealousy is a horrible feeling.
@Alone & Confused.. I remember a quote similar to what you wrote at your ending. "if you look for the bad in people, you will surely find it." I guess we just have to try and remember to do the opposite...

[Flummixed]

I have a thought pattern about my relationships that helps me not be jealous and be trusting of my partner. Not only am I not jealous anymore my wife feels better about our relationship because of my no longer having insecure feelings. I was finally able to change my mindset to where I just don't think about it anymore. I know my wife loves me and if for some reason she does seek the affections of another that is something I cannot control.