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#26
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Most people have never heard of cyclothymia, either. I have gotten blank stares from doctors, even. Still, I think "bipolar" gets a bad wrap in the media.
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I, too, have struggled with whether or who to tell about my being bipolar. So far, the only others who know are my GP who made the diagnosis, and I have told just one friend. But I live alone, and it would be helpful to have someone else. This Bipolar Forum is a gift! But it is not with me in my everyday life... I have also struggled with accepting the diagnosis of being bipolar and beating myself up about it. What I have found helpful is to read literature about how to tell family or friends about being bipolar and applying the same things to telling myself, really telling myself I am bipolar and how to cope with it. Helpful pages I found about how to tell family and friends include: Telling Family Members | Bipolar Parenting Helping a Loved One with Bipolar Disorder: Children, Teens, and Family NAMI | "The First 48 Hours with Bipolar Disorder" Bipolar Disorder and Family Support: How to Tell Others About Your Bipolar While on one hand fear of telling others may seem the safest thing to do to not get hurt, it also can isolate us more. Building a support system that is not dependent on just 1-2 people other than our medical providers can help. When I told one friend, I did so after reading the guides, and I also tried to not be overly sensitive and jump to conclusions about her reaction because she isn't bipolar or has any mental health condition that I know of, so she probably doesn't know anything about bipolar and accordingly not know how to respond to it, especially in a comforting way that I would want. So sometimes we may need to give our friends some slack, too--they may be trying to be helpful but they really need some literature or guidance on how to be helpful... ![]() Good luck!
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I guess I can say the opposite. I am actually looking for advice about my best friend. He has bipolar and anxiety. I have been there through his ups and downs, mostly downs and now he has changed. He told a friend of mine that he feels angry everytime I was around him. He told me many times that he was in love with me and now he is flipping the lines saying that I wanted more in our friendship. I knew there could not be more because of his mood swings. Its like he is blaming me for everything. I never discriminated him because of his mental illness, on the contrary I would try to get him to go out more so he doesnt have to stay home. I was hurt but I cannot force him to be my friend if he doesnt want to. He told me he is still my best friend even though we don't talk or hangout anymore. What type of friendship is that? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Yea from what I'm reading, I have to agree with the group. Don't tell people should be your objective. Something I like to do is bait a bit. Since it's such a taboo subject apparently, even in 2014, I find it much better to describe the symptoms as opposed to actually coming out with it. Or use the word spectrum. I tend to be more on the bipolar spectrum of things. Finding interesting ways to say politically correct things about your mental health can be a very fun and interesting challenge. I also think that when someone is able to piece it together what you are saying, you've probably made a friend!
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Letting my friends know I was bipolar didn't stop them from leaving when something went wrong. You really learn who your friends are, and if they're just going to walk out on you they have done you a favor by leaving your life.
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I'm lucky as far as friends go, but family is a pain in the ***. I don't just randomly tell people, but at times it's been obvious that I wasn't myself. I have lost friends, and I have lost jobs but I can only assume that I didn't need them. Suprisingly a lot have stuck around.
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