[BNLsMOM]

What gives people the ability to stay at a job long term? I heard someone just now say he has been with the company 7 years and my boss has been here for 20. I can hardly get through today. On the verge of tears here at lunch. I can't imagine doing this for. 20 more days, let alone 20 years. How am I going to get through this?

[gloamingone]

I understand, for what it's worth. For years I could only handle part-time work, and only for a few months at a time. For over a year now I haven't been able to work at all. Waiting for a disability hearing, which takes forever.

When I'd have bad days at work, I'd take extra breaks and try to distract myself. Or work on an enjoyable project for a bit.

I hope you get through your day ok!

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[Crazy Hitch]

You're going to get through it one day at a time and not think about how long others have been there for because they're not in the same boat as you and each individual on this planet is unique.

I get what you are saying. The other day my aunt posted on facebook "Today is 30 years that I've been at the same company" and I thought what the hell! Probably the longest I've stuck around is two and a half years but I have to realise that she is different to me and she doesn't have any kind of diagnosis. Still working on getting the monkey off my back.

Be well.

[BNLsMOM]

I have disability and ma are the mistake of going full time when I got divorced. I have a few months left until I lose my benefits for good and I figured out that I would make pretty much the same on disability as this job. The killer is the future that this job could hold.

However I feel my symptoms returning, fantasizing about the safety of the hospital, assuming my co workers ' whispers are about me, driving past police and EMTs trying to project to them that I want their help and kindness. This is how it starts. I see my T tomorrow but I don't know how long I have till the crash comes and it scares the crap out of me because I could lose my kids if I get sick again. My ex would fight for custody.

[Crazy Hitch]

Hang in there!

I'm glad you're seeing someone tomorrow. One step at a time.

[newtothis31]

I'm really sorry to hear about how your day is going.

When I'm having my really bad days at work- I'll just stick with making a list and use it as a reminder to focus on what's important. Seeing myself cross off an item can be very satisfying.

[BNLsMOM]

It's weird because the work itself is not hard or stressful. It's not satisfying, though. But the stress and symptoms are coming from the anxiety and pressure of just being there. It doesn't feel safe. There is no real danger there, but it just doesn't 't feel safe. I can't explain it.

[newtothis31]

I'm sorry. Sometimes its hard to feel safe when you can't express yourself. Are there any outlets that you give yourself on a daily basis? Maybe it's as simple as letting yourself meditate at a certain time everyday- looking at pics on your phone of your family- sometimes my mind will slow down if I let myself do one game of Words with Friends on my phone. For me- I always feel better at work when I thank others to for their help. That helps a lot.

[Curious651]

sorry to hear you're struggling. I can only speak for myself. Longest I have been at one place is I've three years. Short of four by a few months. I have always been working since twelve and believe I will continue to work till dead. I will not say that everyday is terrible or everyday is good. I take a day at a time quite often. Sometimes I look back and wonder how I made it through the week, but I did. I like my job and for most part like some of the co workers. I will admit that I am set off at times by some co workers though. I think it helps me to stay in today. I tell myself often that tomorrow is not here and will never be. I always am in today. Not sure if this helps you, but that is how I do it. Been working twenty plus years. Not at same place though. Good luck.

[koshrov]

I understand your pain. I've been there too. I've gone through periods where work was grueling and I couldn't maintain long term employment. In fact, I'm going through that right now. Maybe you could find an industry that is less stressful. Hang in there...

[vital]

Originally Posted by BNLsMOM

I have disability and ma are the mistake of going full time when I got divorced. I have a few months left until I lose my benefits for good and I figured out that I would make pretty much the same on disability as this job. The killer is the future that this job could hold.

However I feel my symptoms returning, fantasizing about the safety of the hospital, assuming my co workers ' whispers are about me, driving past police and EMTs trying to project to them that I want their help and kindness. This is how it starts. I see my T tomorrow but I don't know how long I have till the crash comes and it scares the crap out of me because I could lose my kids if I get sick again. My ex would fight for custody.

Hi BNLsMOM,

I hope you're feeling better and your therapist was helpful. How did it go?

I think I've experienced exactly what you describe in work social settings.

- vital

[BNLsMOM]

It went well. T advised me to give my notice. I have a part time job that I can do from home and collect my disability so I will be able to get by. I took a sick day today and my boss is out tomorrow, so I am going to give notice on Monday morning. Man, he is going to hate me, but hopefully I can convince him to give me some contract writing work from home. It's not steady, but it can help now and then. I am dreading tomorrow, going in and faking that everything is OK.

[Mountainbard]

I totally get you, BNLsMOM. In 40 years the longest I've ever been able to stay at a job is 4 years, and I've been unemployed almost as many years in that time as I've been working. The only way to go is get through each day as it comes. I hope tomorrow's a better day for you.

[vital]

Originally Posted by BNLsMOM

It went well. T advised me to give my notice. I have a part time job that I can do from home and collect my disability so I will be able to get by. I took a sick day today and my boss is out tomorrow, so I am going to give notice on Monday morning. Man, he is going to hate me, but hopefully I can convince him to give me some contract writing work from home. It's not steady, but it can help now and then. I am dreading tomorrow, going in and faking that everything is OK.

Deciding is always good

In job quitting situations I always think of my favorite scene from Joe vs The Volcano

For fans of SNAP CLUB... notice the snapping!

- vital