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#1
May 24, 2017, 02:08 PM
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we did an "exercise " at a work meeting a few days ago . we had to write down something nice about the other employees on a paper passed around.
well got mine back and all the comments were "always smiling no matter what" "jovial and laughing " etc I was like this is nice but where's my paper  I could not believe it. I really feel like I walk around half the time like someone from the "Adams family" do you feel you present yourself different than you think or feel?
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I used to rule the world Seas would rise when I gave the word Now in the morning, I sleep alone Sweep the streets I used to own I used to roll the dice Feel the fear in my enemy's eyes Listen as the crowd would sing Now the old king is dead! Long live the king! One minute I held the key Next the walls were closed on me And I discovered that my castles stand Upon pillars of salt and pillars of sand |
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#2
May 24, 2017, 02:17 PM
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Jacky, you make me laugh so hard!!! I love you and I mean that!! Thanks for the smile. The Adams family, I'm pudsley or uncle Fester, who are you?
Yes, I can't work in my self esteem booklet because I care too much about what others think and I imagine they see nothing but bad. It's probably not as terrible as I imagine it is. I have no real idea of what others think at all and I always imagine the worst which means I act a certain way which makes people treat me accordingly which confuses things all to heck. I'm trying to work in a self esteem workbook. Usually I like myself but feel others hate me and get the wrong impression so I can't answer the questions in the book. Thanks for the laugh, you seem upbeat to me! |
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#3
May 24, 2017, 02:30 PM
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I love you too Elsa!
Haha i would definitely be the daughter Adams. maybe I just hold onto my depressed inner child lol self esteem definitely screws with the way we think others see us. I see you as kind , intelligent funny and passionate. we have to work on how we see ourselves! Damn the work never ends does it?
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I used to rule the world Seas would rise when I gave the word Now in the morning, I sleep alone Sweep the streets I used to own I used to roll the dice Feel the fear in my enemy's eyes Listen as the crowd would sing Now the old king is dead! Long live the king! One minute I held the key Next the walls were closed on me And I discovered that my castles stand Upon pillars of salt and pillars of sand |
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#4
May 24, 2017, 02:39 PM
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Wednesday is her name. Christina Ricci did a wonderful job with that character though I love the black and white Adams family best. Such a good show....I want to marathon watch it now.
Yes, every time I figure out something new I need to work on I realize I have a list long enough to keep me occupied for hundreds of years. Unless life span increases drastically due to scientific advancements, I will need to pick what's most important and get to work fast if I intend to make progress. |
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#5
May 24, 2017, 03:44 PM
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Yes, I am often very surprised with how people see me.
I am very self-critical. Jacky and Elsa, I love you both! You are both intelligent and fun!   WC |
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#6
May 24, 2017, 04:06 PM
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we love you too wild coyote!
mother earth of the board herself
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I used to rule the world Seas would rise when I gave the word Now in the morning, I sleep alone Sweep the streets I used to own I used to roll the dice Feel the fear in my enemy's eyes Listen as the crowd would sing Now the old king is dead! Long live the king! One minute I held the key Next the walls were closed on me And I discovered that my castles stand Upon pillars of salt and pillars of sand |
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#7
May 24, 2017, 04:22 PM
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Quote:
  I haven't a clue.  WC |
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#8
May 24, 2017, 04:28 PM
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I always look at you as the "wise one"
you give great advice I could never even think of! 
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I used to rule the world Seas would rise when I gave the word Now in the morning, I sleep alone Sweep the streets I used to own I used to roll the dice Feel the fear in my enemy's eyes Listen as the crowd would sing Now the old king is dead! Long live the king! One minute I held the key Next the walls were closed on me And I discovered that my castles stand Upon pillars of salt and pillars of sand |
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#9
May 24, 2017, 04:33 PM
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Quote:
I honestly see you and others in that role. Just an example of what the exercise was trying to demonstrate.  WC |
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#10
May 24, 2017, 05:25 PM
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Have you ever seen that ad for one of those antidepressants where the lady (or fella) hold up a stick that has a smiling white paper mask on it, while they are looking away distracted and sad looking? I feel I do that a lot. I wear a mask out in public so people won't see the sadness and baggage I lug around, you know? So yeah, definitely agree there's a disconnect between how I am seen by others and how I actually am. Good topic of discussion.
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#11
May 24, 2017, 08:41 PM
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Once upon a time I was good at hiding what I was going through but no more. If I am severely depressed, I am nearly catatonic and it is noticeable. In fall of 2014 I started the school year extremely depressed and was known as "the teacher who never smiles" by my students. Yeah I ended up having to take three months off on disability to get treatment.
I think the disconnect comes with my competency. Everyone always tells me how capable I am but I feel like a fraud. That was basically confirmed when I lost my job this year. Now I know that my superiors can see my incompetency that I thought I was hiding well. Big blow to my already low self confidence. I have coworkers telling me it was unfair and it wasn't my fault because I had a really difficult student who caused problems in ALL her classes, not just mine, but I just don't know. I have always felt, when receiving compliments, that these people don't really know me and if they did they wouldn't have anything nice to say. Maybe that's wrong.
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Of course it is happening inside your head. But why on earth should that mean that it is not real? -Albus Dumbledore That’s life. If nothing else, that is life. It’s real. Sometimes it f—-ing hurts. But it’s sort of all we have. -Garden State |
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#12
May 24, 2017, 09:06 PM
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I think my inner views are in line more than my outer ones. I've heard beautiful smile, shiny green eyes, creamy skin, lovely hair and I'm average size thanks to a lap band but when I look in the mirror I see the distorted features of the elephant man. I sometimes cover mirrors and never allow photographs. I plan on working on that as soon as I get my depression a little more stable.
I wish it weren't so. I shun people before they can shun me and when I go to the beach I die a little inside. 
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#13
May 24, 2017, 09:13 PM
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Nvmd....
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#14
May 24, 2017, 09:30 PM
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wildflower I can't hide it when I'm depressed either. Im not depressed and think I am in remission (knock on wood!)
After that exercise Im realizing I am holding on to a depressed or crazy image. That is how I have spent so many years, one or the other. I'm sorry about your job, but you are not a fraud! I really hope something wonderful works out for you  Jennifer I understand where you are coming from. and self esteem is so much worse when we are depressed. we all need to know our self worth!
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I used to rule the world Seas would rise when I gave the word Now in the morning, I sleep alone Sweep the streets I used to own I used to roll the dice Feel the fear in my enemy's eyes Listen as the crowd would sing Now the old king is dead! Long live the king! One minute I held the key Next the walls were closed on me And I discovered that my castles stand Upon pillars of salt and pillars of sand |
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#15
May 24, 2017, 09:40 PM
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I see myself as an anti-social curmudgeon but others seem to like being around me and talking to me....everybody talks to me! I'm told I'm funny, I see myself as cynical.
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Nammu …Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. …... Desiderata Max Ehrmann |
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May 24, 2017, 09:50 PM
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I had to partake in a similar scenario in my group counseling course in grad school. We were instructed to go around the room and say something positive about each person. I remember being surprised when I was told I'm always smiling and have a good attitude. That is not how I feel on the inside, and I've been afraid people will see right through me. I guess they don't.
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May 25, 2017, 01:04 PM
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Interesting. I wonder what people would say about me.
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#18
May 25, 2017, 02:34 PM
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I did this in my DBT class. I was kind of surprised, because I didn't want to be there and hated the instructor.
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