[tipper1492]

At first I was not going to ask this question, but why not. Just between us you understand. I feel my wife all too often will start off with the word WHY. I try, most times, to cover it up that it gets on my nerves. We don't argue or anything. It's about, most times, why I didn't do this, or why I did that, and just hate hearing that word over all. Lots of stuff about something to do with the house. I need not go into this too far. Just wonder if any others out there with a spouse with such a question they start off with. Between you and me, it's my wife. OH she will get very p-ssed if I don't like her food, don't react a certain way when she says she will be cooking this or that. I'm not into chicken much now. Also, in the last yr or two, not crazy about shrimp.

My wife & I have been married for 30+ years. She says / does things that drive me up the wall! I'm quite certain I do the same for her. It's just marriage. Put two people together in a home for year-after-year, & these sorts of things are bound to crop up.

[~Christina]

Have you spoken with her about her use of the word "why" ? Maybe she isn't aware of it.

As for food ? its okay to not like everything she cooks, She should realize that not everyone enjoys the same food. If she knows your dont like food X , why not have a feed yourself nite , she can fix what she likes and you can fix what you like. Happens in my home often.

[gayleggg]

I needed this post today. My husband and I have been getting on each others nerves now for about a week. I just want it to stop but can't seem to get it back to calm. All we do is react off of stuff. It's left me really angry and hurt today. I don't really have any wisdom to give but I sure understand where you are coming from.

Thanks Skeezyks, I needed to hear that, too.

[loophole]

I get similar attitude about household work like fixing things. To be fair im not good at that stiff but on the note I tend to let things go for month or months so she does have a fair justification

[tipper1492]

I let things go on not doing the job told too, and then told again. The wife's WHY, couple of times I repeated WHY, WHY did I do this or that? That word has gotten so old. She can rely get upset if I say anything about what she will be cooking. "I do all the preparing to fix the meal from scratch, which isn't easy, and you don't like it?" To night it was chicken salad, but with beef instead of chicken than goodness. Then I went for seconds and of course I got too much on my plate. Then I find it has turned cool-cold, and not tasting as well. Then she said why did you get that much when you could have saved it for your lunch tomorrow. I hardly wanted anything left over for the next. Then she tells me to just dump it all in the trash. And tells me how much it all cost. Like I can't avoid doing something wrong. We have been married 22 yrs. Don't argue any, but sometimes I feel I am being dictated to. Before being treated with my medication, I was a true a-s-hole to be married for 20 yrs. I can fully understand her wanting to get hers in now, so I try to just chill out, and keep my mouth shut, and say "you're right".
It's marriage - right?

[LostMommy227]

It's just marriage. My husband and I have only been together 3 years but he drives me up the wall sometimes. Especially during certain times of the month or when I'm aggravated about other things. Eventually I realize it wasn't really him I was upset with to begin with. The things I would usually overlook or blow off, he catches major heat for.

Of course I would be happy if he could put the dang toilet seat down.

[~Christina]

Just a marriage??

I swear people should have to take a course on how to fight fair and make compromises. So you were untreated and probably a mess to handle , your being treated now and working on yourself.

You wife most likely has resentment issues , does she see a T to help her navigate and work through old problems that happened in the past ?

Are you in T and couples counseling ?

I just realized "why" I'm single and refused to get married 3 times, and that actually being single isn't all "bad". Good luck to those who aren't.