[jessica03]

Hi everyone, my friend has mentioned - in past he had to take colonapin, that he was suicidal and depressed when he went through a divorce. he's now in a new town and exhibiting in (my opinion) radical high's - with pressured speech - and delusional self importance. also showing extreme aggitation and rage all at same time.

I majored in psychology in college - went on line and i am putting together ...that my new friend suffers bi-polar.

Right now...I'm being bombarded with emails to visit him and go on a "spending spree" - not good idea folks....how or what do i do? I realize he needs to probably be on meds (right?) - how do i approach my friend, and maybe how do i get him into a thereapist asap? he has not admitted or shared that he's bi-polar - i seeing classic symtons, and i want to help my friend!

i care. i also realize that i am the only person in his life at the moment - because he's new to our small town.

What DO I DO - What shouldn't I do? my phone is ringing off hook with "overly excited" text messages - should i go over to his house or avoid?????

[jessica03]

ok, looks like a lot of views but no one is biting....yet.

I'm scared. I'm scared beacuse I care and love this person....and i don't know how i should handle what I'm going through. It's my new boyfriend (fyi) - someone who has a very caring loving soul - is a mania (high) dangerous?

[littlemissjess]

Aw. I just read this and I'll write. It could be dangerous in my opinion. If he's bipolar. Happy one second, sad another. He could get sad and think he'll never be happy again and do something stupid (Not to scare you) I'm just saying. You should try talking to him. Have you mentioned him having bipolar by any chance or would he be upset or offended if you did?

[Pughead]

Please go see him if you can. And get him to see a medical doc. It doesn't have to be a psychiatrist. A regular family doc or internist can prescribe medication that should help.

[jessica03]

thanks you guys! it's a tough tough situation i'm in.

bring up bi-polar (subject)? go over and try to navigate his wild mood today? I mean What i do not want to do is de-stabile him....

I'm worried sick - right now. but i want to be smart and handle (appropriately).....i think he'd be mortified if i brought up the bipolar possibility - i don't think it's something he wants me to know, at this stage in our relationship -
I fear it would cause suicidal thoughts in him -

I'm scared.

[jessica03]

did i mention that he thinks "i'm the one" as in life-partner...marriage material? one of the resaons he moved to our small town is so that i would date him....i have a policy about dating men that live in other states.

so he moved here to work on "having me in his life". he's a very successful business person (at the moment)....checkerd padt though with long bouts of unemployment and even homelessness. right now he's back on-top..Re: Business world.

[littlemissjess]

Aw darling. I would be worried too. And how long have you been dating?

Just try talking to him, when he's calm and in a good mood. When he gets depressed does he get angry also, or what about a bad temper? Also, is he very open with things, does he tell you how he's feeling alot of times, does he come to you with problems?

[jessica03]

he also has a history (from what he's shared)
not being able to sleep
anxiety (xanex perscribed before)
night terrors

etc.

[littlemissjess]

Okay so if he's been prescribed with medication he has seen a doctor before. Is it a local doctor, or where he used to live? If it's local, try finding the doctor's name and talk to his doctor. Tell him what you're seeing in your husband and try getting him into the doctor as if he needs a "check-up". That's doing it kind of behind his back/lying a tad, but at the same time it could be really worth it. That's an option and getting him help.

Also, if he's open with you... you can try talking to him when he's in a good mood and it's an appropreate time. If he's not that open, just ask some things like "How was your day?" or just little questions like that. Or mention something that relates into his problems. Maybe saying something happened at work or somewhere else. Also, maybe say something that might get him to say something to you about his problems. But don't force him, and if worse comes to worse I would confront him about it. I don't know how your boyfriend is with anger or anything, but still it's that last thing I would have in mind to do (well, basicly if he would be angry if you mentioned he needed help or he would get even more depressed)

I don't know if I did much help, but if you need anything else I'm sure I could help you. Good luck! PM me if you need anything.

[jessica03]

Yes he's VERy open w/me about his feelings - that's what i love about him...(heart) He's been completely normal...the last 6 months - aside from a few graniose statements and his night terros occaisionally....

Below is an example of an email he sent me today "out of blue" you can see it's "peppered with anger": when I asked him why we need to go "sopping" after a VERY VERY $$$$ successful business meeing he had ? - THe response is below:

….I HAVE WORKED 80 HOURS + A WEEK FOR A DECADE. I DESERVE IT. I WORKED FOR IT AND F(edit) ALL THOSE PEOPLE THAT SLEEP IN AND WANT TO SIT ON THERE FAT ASSSES AND BE CONSERVATIVE. F-(edit) THEM!!!!!

NOBODY IS GOING TO PASS ME ON THE FREEWAY UNLESS THEY HAVE A BADGE!

ALL THOSE BIT$#@#(edit) I HAD TO DEAL WITH THAT HAD NO VISION…..F(edit)THEM TOO!

F*&^(edit)F*&^(edit) F*&^(edit)…..

IM STILL A NICE GUY….BUT F(edit) EVERYONE WHO DID NOT BELIVE IN ME!

EVERY BODY WANTS TO BE YOUR FRIEND WHEN YOU ARE THE MAN….F(edit) THOSE A....(edit) HOLES!

I’M GOING TO GROCERY STORE AND BUYING ALL THE STEAKS ON SALE…THE WHOLE STORE BECAUSE I CAN…F(edit) EVERYONE!

NO ONE WAS THERE EXCEPT (his guy friend in other town) WHEN I WAS HOMLESS AND BROKE AND FINISHED AFTER 100+ HOURS A WEEK DOT COM DOT GONE FUC(editing) A (edit) HOLES…..

I’M CHANGING IN A DOLLAR INTO PENNIES AND THROWING IT UP LIKE PUKE ON ALL THOSE F (edit) er's!!!!

IM GOING TO MAKE SO MUCH MONEY AND HELP ALL THE KIDS…IM TALKING BILLIONAIRE

MOTHERR F(edit) ERS……

YOU NO WHAT HAPPENS TO YOUR BRAIN WHEN YOU GO THROUGH TEN YEARS OF THIS %#@&#!……F(edit)F(edit) (edit)!

THE ONY BREAK ANY ONE IS GOING TO GET FROM ME IS WHEN I’M DEAD IN THE GROUND….YOU THINK DONALD TRUMP IS TUFF ON PEOPLE.....

I HAVE COMMPASSION FOR THE UNFORTUATE AND POOR, SINGLE MOHTERS ETC……..BUT FU (edit) A(edit) HOLES!!!!!! I HAD TO DEAL WITH AND BE AROUND IN SILICON VALLEY…MOTHER F(edit)ERS……..HERE COMES (his name) YOU F(edit)S!!!!

EAT MY A*&! TO THEM….

YOU MET ME AT A GOOD TIME CHRISTIE…..


F(edit)ING A*& HOLES!!!!!


DO IT>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

[littlemissjess]

aw yes I can see the anger. try talking to him, you can say "i'm really trying to help you but maybe you can try talking to a doctor on how to fix some of these problems i'm sure they're really good with help" that's just a suggestion i don't know if it's all that good, or something along that line that could help him with his anger (which I see he has) and try sorting out his bipolar situation.

does he get angry with your opinions? i mean if you suggest help or would just say he needs a doctor would he get very offended and mad?

i'm sorry i'm going to a local bridal place to get my dress fitted for prom, but i'll be back online later-on tonight to respond.

good luck for now!

Love,
Jessica

[undertheradar]

Holy Cow!! That is one manic dude! If you care for this guy, talk to him. That is my 2 cents worth. Good Luck!

[darkeyes]

I agree. Also, he really needs mood stabilizers, a.s.a.p. or hospitlization to get him on a mood stabilization program. I was in a 10day pre-treatment plan, and then followed through after discharge, and following a plan DOES WORK, but must be committed to WANTING to get better, and lead a stable life. Encouragment by friends,loved ones, can help the process. After all, most of us like encouragment,re-assurement, that we are doing the right thing.
Help him, encourage him to take his meds, and also seek professional care. You'll be surprised what a huge,positive, difference it can all make.
Take good care,
DE

[littlemissjess]

Yes. The main thing is to help him, but first you have to make sure it's the right time to confront him about getting help.