[Becoming]

Hey everyone,

So I've been pretty depressed lately, but I still feel like I have a pretty high sex drive. It might increase when I'm hypomanic. I think in general maybe I just have a high sex drive all the time lol.

Anyway...I haven't had sex or kissed anyone in almost 6 months now and it's driving me crazy! There's nobody around to try things like that with as far as I know...I mean at least not that I'm really interested in.

I'm really sexually frustrated and self-pleasure isn't cutting it (I often feel guilty and even more sexually frustrated afterward anyhow).

I don't know what to do if there's even anything I can do. I almost wish I could find someone online to hook up with. Or -total last resort and probably not an actual option- go to this one girl I know is interested in me even though I'm not really into her (that would just be an asshole move of me though...quite selfish and I am not that kind of person to use someone for sex even if my body wants me to be).

How do people even find people to have sex with? Some people seem to do that without a problem. I just don't know how to do that.

[Ruftin]

Becoming....I hope you would never consider that last resort, because it involves another persons emotions. Hypomania can definitely cause increased sex drive, and it is possible to be manic and depressed at the same time. If you feel it is bothersome you should discuss it with your p-doc. You are suffering already. Looking for random people to have sex with will only make you feel worse. Best wishes!!!

[Crazy Hitch]

This is an interesting question Becoming

Thank you for asking.

I am sure that you may receive different responses.

I just wanted to say please make sure that you stay safe and look after yourself. We all have different needs and wants. It is really important that we are cautious as to how we go about managing these needs and wants. We would not want to do something in the short term for gratification that may lead to later regret.

Please be careful of what you are thinking about as your last resort. I think you may upset this person.

Look after yourself Becoming and be well.

[Becoming]

Originally Posted by Ruftin

Becoming....I hope you would never consider that last resort, because it involves another persons emotions. Hypomania can definitely cause increased sex drive, and it is possible to be manic and depressed at the same time. If you feel it is bothersome you should discuss it with your p-doc. You are suffering already. Looking for random people to have sex with will only make you feel worse. Best wishes!!!

I won't do it. It's more of a fleeting thought. I don't want to hurt someone in that way.

I just don't know how to kick the sex drive. It's annoying me especially when I cannot satisfy it. It's like I just want it to go away or to find someone to have sex with soon.

Originally Posted by Hooligan

This is an interesting question Becoming

Thank you for asking.

I am sure that you may receive different responses.

I just wanted to say please make sure that you stay safe and look after yourself. We all have different needs and wants. It is really important that we are cautious as to how we go about managing these needs and wants. We would not want to do something in the short term for gratification that may lead to later regret.

Please be careful of what you are thinking about as your last resort. I think you may upset this person.

Look after yourself Becoming and be well.

Yeah, I have to stay safe. I don't even know how to find someone to have sex with lol. I worry that when I figure it out I would go for many people though and that could turn unsafe. Legitimately, if STD's and HIV and such were not a thing, I would probably have sex with just about any girl.

I won't go for her. That's just a rotten thing to do. I know it. =/

[Velouria]

Whenever I'm hypersexual -- really, truly hypersexual -- I never feel guilty over what I am doing. At least, I don't feel guilty enough to let it stop me, even if I shouldn't be doing it. Even if it could hurt someone.

And when I'm not hypersexual, I never, ever feel guilty for pleasuring myself. I just never at any time feel guilty for that.

So I find that point interesting -- that you feel guilty over even self-pleasure. Why do you feel guilty?

I've discovered it's to find a booty call with someone that you aren't too attracted too, just enough to be interested like a friend of a friend. Just find somebody that ain't all that into you too, just a mutual sex partner, no strings attached. Oh, you both must agree it's just a sex thing because you don't want to get emotionally vested, if you can. The cuter they are, the harder to resist! Good luck Hun!

[quasicrystalline]

Wellbutrin helped me have a sex drive pretty much whenever. I miss that stuff so much. Now they think it makes me go manic, so I can't be on it. Hoping I can be once I have a good mood stabilizer in place.

I think even without it, though, I'm somewhat like this. I'll still indulge, but I'll feel INSANELY guilty about it when I'm depressed. Sometimes I trick myself and tell myself it won't and it won't be a big deal, but the high is only ever short-lived. I feel like since I've weened myself off all substances, I find myself turning to sex more, or mostly, self pleasure because I don't want to go down the random person route again, and I'm not in a relationship.

I don't think you should feel guilt about self-pleasure. And if you just wanted sex, I think you could probably go to a bar and find someone for a one night stand. There are males and females, both that are into that.

[Becoming]

Originally Posted by Velouria

Whenever I'm hypersexual -- really, truly hypersexual -- I never feel guilty over what I am doing. At least, I don't feel guilty enough to let it stop me, even if I shouldn't be doing it. Even if it could hurt someone.


And when I'm not hypersexual, I never, ever feel guilty for pleasuring myself. I just never at any time feel guilty for that.


So I find that point interesting -- that you feel guilty over even self-pleasure. Why do you feel guilty?

I've been trying to figure out why I feel guilty after self-pleasure. I guess maybe it is because I feel dirty/gross and lonely after I do it. Sometimes I also think I should be spending my time better.

Originally Posted by AlwaysChanging2

I've discovered it's to find a booty call with someone that you aren't too attracted too, just enough to be interested like a friend of a friend. Just find somebody that ain't all that into you too, just a mutual sex partner, no strings attached. Oh, you both must agree it's just a sex thing because you don't want to get emotionally vested, if you can. The cuter they are, the harder to resist! Good luck Hun!

It would certainly be nice if that could happen. I'm not in a great position in my life to have an actual relationship right now, but I want sex!! XD

Friends with benefits sort of things can get messy though...like if one person actually gets attached and the other does not.

Originally Posted by quasicrystalline

Wellbutrin helped me have a sex drive pretty much whenever. I miss that stuff so much. Now they think it makes me go manic, so I can't be on it. Hoping I can be once I have a good mood stabilizer in place.

I think even without it, though, I'm somewhat like this. I'll still indulge, but I'll feel INSANELY guilty about it when I'm depressed. Sometimes I trick myself and tell myself it won't and it won't be a big deal, but the high is only ever short-lived. I feel like since I've weened myself off all substances, I find myself turning to sex more, or mostly, self pleasure because I don't want to go down the random person route again, and I'm not in a relationship.

Is Wellbutrin an anti-depressant? I have heard they can trigger mania, so that makes sense to me. Hopefully it's possible for you to go back on it if it was helping once you, as you said, have a mood stabilizer that works.

Yeah. Self-pleasure is safer than random people, but much less fun. XD

Originally Posted by ValentinaVVV

I don't think you should feel guilt about self-pleasure. And if you just wanted sex, I think you could probably go to a bar and find someone for a one night stand. There are males and females, both that are into that.

Yeah. That's true. I have no idea how to approach that subject though. "hey, you're hot, want to f***?" Lol. But I go to a local gay club pretty often (once a week or every other week) and there are very attractive girls there. I used to dance with them no problem. Now I think I have gotten a bit more shy which certainly does not help if I want to meet someone (for sex or maybe even way into the future more than that).

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[BP2014]

Originally Posted by Becoming

Hey everyone,

So I've been pretty depressed lately, but I still feel like I have a pretty high sex drive. It might increase when I'm hypomanic. I think in general maybe I just have a high sex drive all the time lol.

Anyway...I haven't had sex or kissed anyone in almost 6 months now and it's driving me crazy! There's nobody around to try things like that with as far as I know...I mean at least not that I'm really interested in.

I'm really sexually frustrated and self-pleasure isn't cutting it (I often feel guilty and even more sexually frustrated afterward anyhow).

I don't know what to do if there's even anything I can do. I almost wish I could find someone online to hook up with. Or -total last resort and probably not an actual option- go to this one girl I know is interested in me even though I'm not really into her (that would just be an asshole move of me though...quite selfish and I am not that kind of person to use someone for sex even if my body wants me to be).

How do people even find people to have sex with? Some people seem to do that without a problem. I just don't know how to do that.

This may be a little off topic, but I think some people with BP have a tendency to get absorbed into a single topic...especially during mania. Seems similar to autism. I would suggest doing a self check to make sure you are not seeking sex as an outlet. Otherwise, I think sex is normal desire and not something you should be ashamed of. As far as finding people who want sex, they are everywhere. However, many also expect sex to lead to a something a little deeper such as a relationship. Therefore, if you are lacking a relationship, I would suggest seeking that first.