[Becoming]

Upon graduating, that's what is going to happen to me. It's like 99% likely (the other 1% is moving in with friends without having a job and they still don't know where they are living yet). I'm graduating in about 5 weeks and that is why I am moving back home.

Home. The place where I grew up. It's not that bad. It's just got another Bipolar person (brother) who is usually a **** to me and everyone else. He never sees it that way. Neither do my parents. He's the trigger. I know I'll be depressed and angry almost all the time because of him and the fights he starts with both me and my parents. I don't know what's wrong with him. He wasn't raised to be a complete asshole, but maybe it was the poor friends he chose during high school.

Now...I also will be moving back home without a job. Also...I have one friend here. One. So...not only will I be living in an unhealthy environment, but I will be lonely. I'll have to spend a lot of my time looking for a job.

I'm just not going to deal with this well at all. Not one bit. I don't usually do well with change (it usually always causes depression), but this is kind of a big one. I'm going back to unhealthy living...the place I could not wait to escape when I graduate High School and the place I haven't been long-term in 4 years. I'm scared.

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[Row Jimmy]

Be careful with triggers, environment, and lack of consistency. These are big problems for me and I am actively planning to get away from them. My bipolar took off like a rocket when I accepted my current job. I am looking for a new one right now.

Good luck. Right on.

[Homeira]

Try to find a hobby that takes you out of the house. Do some volunteering-work, just anything that helps you get away from situations that trigger you. Volunteering will look good on your resumee also. Try a gym. hike, take a bike-ride, go for a drive somewhere, just make it a day and take a road-trip, if you have access to a car. Just find some kind of something that will make you feel like you have a life outside of your family and to interact with other people.

Giving you a hug for this post! It certainly brought back a memory for me. I graduated from college during a recession and had to move back with my parents, too. I know that people usually say "live in the moment, not the past or the future" but this might be a situation where it would be helpful to really focus on your future and what you want. Lots of job hunting, yes, but also thinking about where you'd like to live, if you want roommates or a house share, just planning your future in general. That can help me to get through a tough time.

I was surprised to find that my parents were nicer to me than usual when I moved back home after college. (I think they didn't want to do anything that might slow down my job search so I'd leave the nest, heh, but in any case, I appreciated it.)

Best of luck to you and I hope the job search doesn't take too long.

[Becoming]

Originally Posted by Row Jimmy

Be careful with triggers, environment, and lack of consistency. These are big problems for me and I am actively planning to get away from them. My bipolar took off like a rocket when I accepted my current job. I am looking for a new one right now.


Good luck. Right on.

Yes, they are big for me as well. I usually get depressed when things change. And home is full of triggers too :/

Originally Posted by Homeira

Try to find a hobby that takes you out of the house. Do some volunteering-work, just anything that helps you get away from situations that trigger you. Volunteering will look good on your resumee also. Try a gym. hike, take a bike-ride, go for a drive somewhere, just make it a day and take a road-trip, if you have access to a car. Just find some kind of something that will make you feel like you have a life outside of your family and to interact with other people.

I might volunteer at a couple of places at least until I can find a job, but hopefully I can do both at once. I love bike rides, but my bike got stolen last summer. Need to save for a new one! :/ Maybe a road trip with my best friend sometime would be fun too. Also going to some groups around home. I'm better at going places alone than I once was, so I should hopefully do okay with that.

Originally Posted by jo_thorne

Giving you a hug for this post! It certainly brought back a memory for me. I graduated from college during a recession and had to move back with my parents, too. I know that people usually say "live in the moment, not the past or the future" but this might be a situation where it would be helpful to really focus on your future and what you want. Lots of job hunting, yes, but also thinking about where you'd like to live, if you want roommates or a house share, just planning your future in general. That can help me to get through a tough time.

I was surprised to find that my parents were nicer to me than usual when I moved back home after college. (I think they didn't want to do anything that might slow down my job search so I'd leave the nest, heh, but in any case, I appreciated it.)

Best of luck to you and I hope the job search doesn't take too long.

Thanks. Good advice. Glad they were nice to you and all. The majority of the time, my parents are great to me. It's my brother who is the concern really. He's very inconsiderate and picks on me for almost anything even if I tell him it bothers me. His excuse is "I'm your brother and that's what I do." But it crosses the line when he is rude and shoves the fact I am a lesbian and a vegetarian down my throat. He's also being a jerk about how meat is awesome and healthy and eating it savagely on purpose to piss me off. I don't like being reminded that I am different. It gets me so down I feel like I should succumb to society by eating meat and being straight. It'd be so much easier. *sigh*

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