[raspberrytorte]

Okay, so I don't talk about my issues with my friends. I have one friend who I told I have bipolar disorder. That is all though. I started seeing a new pdoc, and she asked if I liked her or not, and I said yeah, just that she was really intense. I told my friend I have issues besides just mood problems, but didn't get into what these other problems are.

And then I was an idiot and told my friend that my new pdoc changed my diagnosis from bipolar 1 to schizoaffective disorder bipolar type and that it's kind of like a mix of schizophrenia and bipolar.

And now my friend is scared of me!

Ugh. Why did I have to tell her that?!

I feel like no one understands. People are not educated about this stuff. I hate the stigma. And the way it is portrayed in movies and the media doesn't help.

I am not scary. I do not want to hurt anyone. I am harmless. I even let spiders go. I'm terrified of moths and butterflies, and there was once a moth in our apartment and, despite my moth terror, I saved the disgusting thing and put it outside! I'm a vegan. I don't even eat animals!

I just wish people were more educated about mental illness!

[cakeladie]

I am sorry. No people do not always understand and the one person you trusted turned on you mad I am sorry for that. Your true friends will stand by you.

My son has autism and mild retardation and his father will not have anything to do with him because he is "different". It's really sad because he is a very sweet kind person

Hopefully one day people will understand

[Yoda]

Originally Posted by raspberrytorte

I feel like no one understands. People are not educated about this stuff. I hate the stigma. And the way it is portrayed in movies and the media doesn't help.

Exactly. My family doesn't understand. My best friend didn't understand either. I have one friend who has combat ptsd and she understands but most don't.

You sound like a kind, compassionate person. Your friend sounds like a scared person who doesn't wish to take the time to do a little reading, before jumping to conclusions. I'd take this opportunity to educate her. If she doesn't listen, you don't need someone who is "scared of you" in your life. In my opinion at least.

There is a difference between the mentally ill, and the criminally insane. A big difference.

[Trippin2.0]

Your friend is not very smart either.


I say this because what type of logic is she working from, to go from, I am your friend, to I'm scared of you keep your distance in 60 seconds?


How did you magically transform from trusted friend into dangerous psycho mid convo just by divulging a dx???


How does her logic NOT dictate that you are exactly the same person as you were 5 seconds before divulging this info...


I'm sorry, I just find these reactions COMPLETELY idiotic, ridiculous, nonsensical, stupid, illogical, irrational, stupid. Did I mention stupid?


I have very little respect for stupid, stupid equals willful ignorance, and I have no respect for anyone who enjoys ignorance.


So yes, I think your friend is incredibly stupid.


Sorry her stupidity has hurt you

If you have the energy or desire, I would tell her how you are feeling. That you are the same person you have aways been, her friend.

[~Christina]

Most people are Bipolar longgggggggg before a diagnosis . So your friend is as Trippin stated S T U P I D !

You didnt turn into some kind of monster that is replusive.

Hopefully she will do a bit of education, I mean the internet is a simple place to find information !

I have lost a few friends when I talked about Fibro and then I let the Bipolar outta the bag,Omg it was like they couldnt get away from me any faster.

I was hurt , but I was also happy that there true colors showed, I dont need "fair weather friends" I deserve better !

I'm sorry your going through this nonsense

[raspberrytorte]

Hey, that's what my husband said, that it's not like I'm a different person now or something.

I'm going to talk to her again today.

[raspberrytorte]

I just wish I wouldn't have divulged that information! I knew it was a bad idea while I was doing it. I'm sure she'll be okay about it today. She's one of those people who ignore things that bother her, so maybe she's already put that information in the back of her mind.

I would tell her more about it, but I don't think she's interested in knowing, and I'm not comfortable talking about it (in detail).

[zepchic]

ugh...I can't keep my mouth shut and let too many people know what the deal with me is. Luckily of the 3-5 people that know, no one seems to care, but it is ****ed up because I need people to talk to and if these people are either physically or emotionally unavailable then I am all alone. I know how you feel though...there is so much stigma

[Crazy Hitch]

Ughhhhhhhhh I hate stigma toooooo!!!!!!!!

If she's your friend this should make no difference other than hopefully she will find better ways to try and support and understand you

[lovejoy91]

Child, I wouldn't sweat it. If she sticks around, cool.
If she doesn't, cool. You know who your true friends are.

[gina_re]

I hate the stigma too!!! The media definitely doesn't help, so I'm very careful who I tell. I'm sorry this happened to, but you still have us! If the friendship is meant to be, your friend will realize the error and return. If not, you're better off.

[raspberrytorte]

She was cool today, so I think her initial terror has worn off. lol

[~Christina]

Good !

[Nammu]

Strange how a label suddenly changes who we are in somebody's mind.

If I told people I just inherited a couple million bucks, and was a millionaire, I'd suddenly be their best friend.

[lovejoy91]

Originally Posted by sidestepper

Strange how a label suddenly changes who we are in somebody's mind.

If I told people I just inherited a couple million bucks, and was a millionaire, I'd suddenly be their best friend.

Good point.