Why does losing at things make me so mad?

My Fiance and me have been playing games lately like board games and video games (like football). And usually it's not a problem because I always lose at everything. But lately I have been severely Hypo-manic I think and my Fiance has been acting like a sore winner as always. And it's really pissing me off and making me feel like a failure.

FWIW I would suggest you stop playing for now, especially since it makes you feel that badly.

Also, can you go see your pdoc or therapist if you have them? If something as simple as a game is triggering such a strong reaction, I'm concerned about your safety :-/

Take care,

Lisa

Just throwing this out there for consideration:

Not all of our emotions come randomly from mental illness. If your fiance acts like a sore winner, it makes sense that you would feel agitated by that. But your automatic response of blaming yourself or your mental illness, makes me suspect that if you asked him to not act that way, he would dig at you for being "too sensitive". Do you think that would be the case?

All I'm saying is that if someone is acting like an immature little douche, it's not the BP that's making your irritated, those are just normal feelings.

I would add that you tend to become really irritated with people very easily from what has been shown here on PC and then blame it on a diagnosis. Whatever your diagnosis, you are ultimately responsible for your behaviors and reactions. I hope you will pursue active therapy, probably at least once a week, to work on your issues with anger and personal dynamics with others. It would definitely be a worthwhile goal for you.

my sister's like that with me.

when she wins at a board game (usually monopoly or the chase), i get really angry and start ignoring her.

not because she jokes at me for losing, it's just the simple fact she won that bothers me- and she always asks me why are you so mad.. it's only a game

it's not to mee.

i'd say i have a competitive streak, and when that goes wrong, i'm just frustrated

it's not

Seconding this!

Also... if you aren't happy playing... why play? Especially if he's a sore winner. Sore winners and angry losers are a bad combination!

It's just a game. I wouldn't take it seriously. If he wants to be a sore loser, so what. That's his personal problem.

Sounds more like BPD than BP, especially that I'll kill myself because of this. Extreme behavior does not equal BP.

When my mood is elevated anything can piss me off ..... so I guess yeah it would make sense what you're saying .... and if I'm in a mixed state that's even worse.

Maybe stay away from board games for the time being ....

Having a mental illness can be difficult for sure, but your ultimatly responsible for how you react to situations. If he acts in a ridiculous mannner then dont play the game, you know its going to upset you to an extreme, YOU have to control your reactions to situatons.

Are you doing any DBT sessions/Therapy ?

Your reactions seems much more bpd not bp..