[C2015]

I feel like my family treats me differently and I feel like its because I am bipolar. My family knows I am lonely. I have no friends or boyfriend. My phone hardly rings. It seems like I always have to start conversations. Sometimes I have to call 2-3 times for my call to be answered. My texts are read but often ignored. I have stopped giving my opinions and suggestions. I stopped doing that because my family always rejects my opinions and suggestions. No one ever accepts my offer to help. No one ever wants to visit me or asks me to visit them. Everyone went on vacation this year. I have to always hear about the fun everyone has. They know I never get to do anything fun. I've tried hard to make my Dad understand me. Nothing I say makes him understand me. I don't know if he can't understand me or if he simply doesn't want to. He makes me feel inferior to my siblings. He acts like they are better than me. Is there anything wrong me or is it them?

[Shadesofdark]

I am sorry to see you are feeling so bad. Not sure what to say except if you are looking for acceptance, this is a good place.

Welcome to PC.

Posting and answering posts helps most people.

Hope you feel better and find some comfort here.

[C2015]

Thank you. I have only one friend. He seems to understand me. We don't see each other much and he hates talking on the phone. We do text each other. He will listen to all of my problems. We don't see each other much since he lives 40 minutes away. He understands me better than my Dad does. I wish my Dad understood me like my friend does. I do wish I had friends to be with often but I don't. Which makes it harder when my family doesn't contact me.

[gina_re]

Welcome to PC!

I feel your pain. I don't have many friends either, but I feel comfortable when I'm here because most people have experienced similar issues and/or can relate and offer advice or encouragement.
There is nothing wrong with you. They just don't understand and aren't sure how to react. And sometimes ignorance is bliss. When I'm in a mood my mom completely avoids me. It seems as though more people want to be around when I'm happy, but if I'm upset, everyone disappears. It's frustrating. But then again sometimes it's difficult to explain certain feelings and feel understood, and that's where PC comes in. You can't make your parents understand right away. It takes time. My dad thinks he understands, but he doesn't. My mom obviously doesn't, but I try and explain it to her when I can. She's slowly coming around. But still dances around the issue. Friends try and get it, but not really. Either way we're here whenever you want to vent, rant, ramble, cry...however you're feeling that moment.
PM me if you ever need someone to talk to.

[CopperStar]

Just remember that you can't pick your relatives, including your parents.

We can go through life learning how to more wisely choose friends, how to be selective and form healthy bonds with good and genuine people.

But with our relatives, it's just a genetic role of the dice. And you get stuck with your parent(s), with all of their good and bad qualities, while growing up.

It's not like you chose as a kid to give your time, love and energy to people who make you feel inferior and brush you off. Yet you forged bonds for better or worse with these people.

So just remember that our parents do not represent what is "normal". We get to decide what our normal will be as adults, what we tolerate, what we need in relationships, what healthy and normal is going to be for us.

As children I think most people see their parents as the be-all-end-all epitome of what is "normal", but in adulthood we can begin to see that they are just complicated and flawed humans like everyone else.

[C2015]

Thank you I really appreciate.