[palerider69]

Was just diagnosed as bi-polar yesterday morning. I'm not sure how I feel about this right now. I guess a little happy that I know now, but mostly ashamed that it has probably cost me a 23 year marriage. Therapist wants me on lithium and I'm kind of enthusiastic about it I guess. I think I may be trying to jump in and start repairing the damage this has caused a little too fast. At this point my marriage is absolutely everything I have left, and after she moved out last week, I'm not sure there is much left that I can do. Unfortunately I am obsessed with it and really don't know how not to be. If anyone has any suggestions I'm all ears.

Hi,

I was diagnosed bipolar about a year ago and I remember feeling a lot of what you have mentioned. I got obsessive too, but I think for your situation it is normal. You are grieving the loss of your marriage and that is huge. I would recommend talking to a therapist as soon as you get a chance about both your new diagnosis and your relationship. Therapy has been one of the best places for me to process my feelings and emotions. Best of luck to you in your marriage and your life.

Mrs J

[Nammu]

Maybe right now giving space to her and workinging with a therapist to manage your symptoms will communicate to her you are willing to work on your part of the relationship. Ask her if she would be willing to do marriage counseling when you've gotten a bit of stability. Medications alone don't do much when we've had years of reactions but showing that your serious about working on things and knowing that part of it was having an undiagnosed condition that you are now addressing will go a long way.

You need to work on you right now. At the same time, it may be advantageous to give her space.

I'm sorry for you, put it's a good thing because now you can get the proper treatment that you need.

I would put everything on hold that I can put on hold, of course you can't put bills on hold which means to keep working if possible, but get yourself right first. Learn coping skills, take your meds, and go from there. Good luck!

[Unrigged64072835]

I'm sorry to hear about your marriage. Now you have a diagnosis it's important to work on getting stable with therapy and meds. It may be hard with your marriage but whether you're still together or not you need to be stable.

[detfan4life]

i'm so sorry.