[LorrieTorrie]

I've been married for four years and have two beautiful children. My husband has been my main support system and has stayed with me even though I lost us three houses, put is in debt, and cost us many friendships. I think this recent loss though may have been the straw that broke the camel's back. He told me recently that he doesn't know if he can get over this one. He said that everytime he looks at me all he sees is everything that I've done and how I've put the family in such terrible positions. I don't know what to do.

[Nammu]

Can you put all the money in his name only and have a prepaid debt card only? Do you have a good therapist to work on the impulse control part of bipolar illness? Medication is only part of the answer and sometimes it takes multiple tries to find the right cocktail for you.

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CBT helped me a lot but some people do better with DBT.

Sometimes its helpful for couples therapy so you both work together for stability.

[Mountainbard]

I really empathize with you. My wife finally reached her limit after years of dealing with my bipolar. She left me, although we did reconcile. I think sidestepper had some excellent suggestions for you. I hope your husband can come to see that it's your bipolar which is responsible for the past issues. If you could get him to see a therapist along with you (or on his own) it would probably help him understand much better.

[Unrigged64072835]

So sorry to hear about you and your husband. I agree with what has already been said.

[B2008]

I empathize with you! A few years ago (before being diagnosed) I closed my account and my husband took over paying the bills. I am not on his account and he keeps everything but what cash he gives me away. He does the shopping I give him the list. However I am responsible for two bills only because he knows he can cover them if I don't pay them. I don't like that I have to relinquish control like this but it's better for the family. It's an idea for you. We don't believe in divorce n completely agree with counseling. Good luck!

No matter how small, a positive change deserves to be celebrated!

[BleakGeek]

Is he willing to work it out with you? If so, you need to find out what it would take to work it out and adjust to accommodate those guidelines. I was in your situation and I realized I was about to lose my love. We talked it out and found a common ground. I had to give up control of the finances and stick to my committments. So far, so good! Good luck to you!

[hopeless2015]

I'm so sorry your going through this...excellent suggestions above. .I recently gave up control of my finances, it was very difficult at my age but I'm so relieved now that I did. Hugs to you

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[KarenSue]

I feel bad for you, but have no knowledge of Bipolar Disease. I'm the frugal one in the family. I even have on reading glasses right now from the dollar store w/one side broken. I am using scotch tape to hold the other side to my face...talk about frugal.

Have you tried to see all these things from his point of view? Putting your family in financial danger is still danger, like abuse in some respects. I hope you can get control of your illness b4 it is too late.

I have faith in you. Best of luck.

[LorrieTorrie]

Thank you all for your suggestions. Since my latest mishap he has been in charge of the money, and I thought things were going better until he told me yesterday how he really felt. I asked him if that meant he wanted a divorce, and he said he just wasn't sure. I want to be the wife he deserves so bad. I just feel like I'm incapable.

Hey girl I am in the same boat right now so know your not alone!! My marriage is always on thin ice and we've only been married two years and we have one son together! I used to go on spending sprees and my husband canceled our
Joined account and I got my own account he takes care of the main Bills and I take care of whatever else we need and pay the rest of some bills. It's hard not to go on spending sprees when sometimes that's all that can make me feel happy lol at the time I know bipolar is hard and stressful you just have to think about how to be the best bipolar person you can be for the sake of your family and yourself you have to try and get yourself better first are you on medication ?? Or anything ? I hope things get better for you I do I'm here if you ever want to talk!!!! Okay!?