[TryingToMoveForward]

I think I am more charming then I intend to be, because people seem to think I'm flirting with them...or interested in them, when I'm really not. With a sassy, sardonic, dry sense of humor that most people don't get, its just...I made a coworker uncomfortable yesterday and I didn't mean to. He picked on me, so I picked on him later in the night and suddenly he got embarrassed and the assistant manager said, "I think you're making him uncomfortable."

I was only putting him on the spot for joking about calling me "Shakes" or "Shakey" because of my seizure symptoms. Making it clear I was only kidding about taking offense...or I thought that was clear. I feel really badly, about making him uncomfortable, I never thought me picking on him would do that. He's one of those guys who is very careful around me and polite. As if I'm delicate...but they were talking about stripper names, so I thought I'd join in about those nicknames. It wasn't out of context or anything. But maybe because I'm naturally feminine, soft and charming, it made him blush. I just feel like I did something wrong and I shouldn't have loosened up and let my guard down. What if I get fired for making someone uncomfortable?

Is anyone else disarmingly charming? I don't even mean to be, its part of my personality. People are always describing me and darling and charming. Is this a common trait among bipolar people? I know its characteristic of some personality disorders.

[Ocean Swimmer]

Sometimes bipolar are outgoing to a certain extent depending on thier cycle.

[SamJam24]

Personally I've noticed during certain cycles I am much more outgoing, witty, and bold compared to my usual quiet and polite manner. Certain things I've said definitely bordered on being rude, not that I intended it to sound that way. And it can be exacerbated when combined with rapid speech. Just my experience with it. I don't think you should be too concerned, maybe just apologize and see what happens. In any situation communication is pretty important, everyone sees and interprets things differently.
Hoping that helps!

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[TryingToMoveForward]

We talked about it yesterday. He admitted that he feels like he has to walk on eggshells around me, because I'm so....he just said I seem like the type of person that shouldn't hear vulgar things. And he was shocked when I swore in front of him. We found out we both have PTSD and bonded over that. So we are absolutely cool!

But my impulsive speech lead to some entertaining conversations yesterday. Me stating I had been a gay cowboy in a past life to the assistant manager. I was absolutely kidding, making a Brokeback Mountain joke reference, and he was absolutely shocked and had no idea how to react. It was hilarious! I've never seem him speechless like that. I'm loosening up a lot, and talking more, and more rapidly too. My mood has been going uphill. Life is pretty great right now.

But after 5 months of being too terrified to talk to these people, I can't seem to stop talking now.

[SamJam24]

I know what you mean, I'm in a similar boat as well at work. I go through phases of chattiness where I can feel comfortable talking with my guard down. It's refreshing for sure! Other than those moods I believe I have social anxiety, talking to "people of authority" are particularly difficult. It's only something that's developed in the last couple years though.. Have you always felt uncomfortable talking to people?

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