How do I act busy when Husband visit for 2 weeks

One of the things I like about being alone, I feel very little guilt.

When ( in two more weeks) my husband comes to visit, he gets easily disappointed in me. Thinks I'm not trying hard enough.

He's never understood that I can not try to get rid of bipolar.
While I'm ok doing nothing, but reading or online or DVDs , he wants me full blown organizing projects, painting new water colors. Inventing new recipes.

Another thing he doesn't get is the med combo I'm on is set to prevent hypo mania.
Before all the meltdowns of last Spring I was on Adderral Valium and Norco( opioids ). Then when I weaned off everything I went into a deep black manic hole. Cut off all my hair and spent a week at a time with no sleep. It was the worst episode of my life.
Took 6 months of in and out of ip to make me somewhat sane.

Now. I just want to kick back. And it's harder when he's here.
If I select a book, I can lay on the couch and read. I have no new books here.
If I'm online I can tell him I'm checking in with you guys, my online support group.
But he'll go out to jog and then down to ocean for a swim.
When he gets back fired up with endorphins, I get the lecture. He says, "See. I just made it my goal and did it!"

It's hard for him to see the incredible effort I need to make to shower, brush teeth and eat healthy.

If we ever made love ( which we haven't probably in 10 years or more, we could use up some hours in the day doing intimate things. He won't cuddle, spoon or kiss.

I'm not going to leave him. Our financial well being is dependent on us as business partners. And now after 20 years ( 34 for him at work, he's thinking of early retirement. ( he is too young to collect his pension.

How can I fake it and look productive?
We don't have a car here.

I need ideas !

Do you have any other hobbies such as sewing/knitting? Sorry if I am not much help.

Sit in front of the computer (doing whatever you like) and tell him you're writing a book!


I would so do that...

Buy ready-made gourmet food and make it look like you cooked it.
Dress up in sexy costume and see what happens sexually- he won't complain about your laziness.
Get some art supplies and make it look like you are starting a painting.
Take out the ironing board and make it look like you were ironing.
Leave out the vacuum.

Thank G-d he's only home for two weeks! Sounds exhausting.

Tell him without sex you have no inner release and can't get anything done
That should curb the conversation for a while at least lol

I'd mention the obvious and say that he should be more understanding and you shouldn't have to worry about feeling judged, but again, I guess that's obvious. :P

Would you be up to going to the beach with him, maybe even just relaxing while he swims if you aren't up to swimming?
Is there any sort of project or thing you've been wanting to work on, where maybe you could use his visit as motivation but still be kind of doing it for yourself, too? I'd suggest the library for books, but I'm guessing transportation would be an issue.
You could also look up documentaries or something online and spend some time watching a few. I like to do that when I'm trying to be just a teeny bit productive, and tell myself it's better than TV because at least it's educational. :P

Oh you guys are great.
No tv. No computer. Just iPhone.

Can't walk home from the beach. Too weak from everything.
It's a totally uphill on rocks in the tropical heat. I haven't been able to climb the mountain in 2 yrs.
no car.
No store for food.
Dry goods and canned goods here.

I live in the rain forest. We've had this place 21 years.
I was going to Foster Mom more kittens. But he didn't want me too. Said too much stress.

I hate to say I'm such a sad case. I just can't do much.

I have an art studio. It's horrible. I can't work on anything. I finished one painting 3 months ago when he was coming. He didn't even look at it!

I'm watching my 2 1/2 men DVDs cause he has a fit when it's on the little 7" DVD player.

I go swimming when my worker comes here. He drives me down to ocean.

I used to create fancy pillow cases with silk dresses I got at $1 second hand store. But I just design projects. I have a seamstress. She's made me drapes too. I collect fabric. Or I used to before this current depression.

To kkhhrr. No library here. I'm in the rain forest.
But I do go to library all of the time in CA.
I rarely leave the ranch. I have trouble leaving my bed.

When is Easter? I might get caretakers family here. It would be a buffer between me and judgemental husband.