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Old May 06, 2016, 08:56 PM
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Any of you have friends that tell you that you can talk to them anytime about anything? My coworkers are accepting of my illness and are understanding (we all read psych journals all day). And I trust them and tell them about many things as far as friendships go, as they do with me. But sometimes I feel like such a Debbie Downer. I feel like all I do is complain. More so lately since I've been unstable. I would like to share some good news every once in a while. Taking a shower and cleaning up isn't as exciting to other people as it can be for some of us.
What are your friendships like?

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Old May 06, 2016, 09:06 PM
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I work with about 100 other educators, and I don't have a single friend among them. There is one guy who has gone out sailing with me a few times, but I really don't like him very much. He's not my type. I do have four or five guys whom I consider to be friends, however. We do things like go sailing or fishing, but we don't do it very often. I can really count on one of the guys, and he can count on me. We are always helping each other out. It's good that he lives only a few minutes away.
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Old May 06, 2016, 09:20 PM
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My best friends are those I met when I lived in St Louis. They were there for my first inpatient stay. They saw me at my absolute worst, and I will always love them for that even after moving many many miles away. We still talk and I have gone back for visits and vice versa. Over the years my friendship circle has become much much smaller to the point where I can count on one hand how many people I actually like and trust. And two of them are the two I first mentioned. I'm over getting hurt and just have that wall closed for business. My family are my friends now. These friendships are more superficial in my opinion. Just people to talk to.
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Old May 06, 2016, 09:22 PM
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The absolute only friends I have are people with a MI like myself. And that's about...three people. If you count my sane bf, four. I've pretty much burned bridges since highschool and pushed everyone away with my illness and isolation. Two of my friends I just keep in touch with over FB or texts. We don't hang out outside of that but they get it. I also made a friend here on PC and we talk daily. I'm grateful for the few friends I do have.

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Old May 06, 2016, 09:37 PM
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My sister in law and future sister in law are the only friends I have who I can tell anything to. My sil has bipolar herself so we understand each other. My future sil is just a great person who has trauma issues so she gets it too. I have a couple of people from IOP that could probably be good friends if I could get over my anxiety of people not liking me and actually talk to them.

I can talk to my social worker coworker but I wouldn't call her a friend. We're work friends but she actually grates on my nerves a bit so I couldn't hang out with her socially.
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Old May 06, 2016, 09:38 PM
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Friends? I have had people in my life that said they would be there that we could share anything....but then.....along comes a episode and they're off and running. I don't bother getting close to anyone anymore. I get along with people and am friendly but it doesn't go farther than that anymore
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Old May 06, 2016, 09:43 PM
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...Taking a shower and cleaning up isn't as exciting to other people as it can be for some of us.
What are your friendships like?
I don't have any, so can't say, but wanted to let you know the shower comment made me smile. So true.

(Since you guys get it: I washed the dishes today. Woot.)

Edited to say guess that's not fair. BF is my friend, even if he's the only one. That counts, right?
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Old May 06, 2016, 09:48 PM
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@InnerZone: Congrats on washing the dishes!

I don't have any friends, either. I'd like to but i just don't seem to meet anyone suitable or i don't have the energy, or both. It's not a huge problem, but i would like to have a few girlfriends to have a laugh with. I have a lot of acquaintances in my support group and that seems to be enough.
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Old May 06, 2016, 10:27 PM
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As we've gotten older and more so during this pregnancy, my sister and I becoming closer. So I think I can start calling her a friend.

@Innerzone I still need to wash dishes! And I need to do laundry! You got one up on me!

@apfei Same here! I prefer being on my own. Maintaining friendships just seems like so much work. But a girlfriend would be nice to have nearby so I could leave my house every once in a while, and not just for grocery shopping.
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Old May 06, 2016, 11:00 PM
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Whoa! I didn't respond bc I didn't want to be embarrassed but I don't have any local friends. I only have friends I've met off pc, lol. But they're good friends. I did put an ad up on craigslist looking for friends and this woman that sounds really cool and I might be meeting tomorrow. I've had a lot of friends but would get all bp on them. Now that I'm stable I'm hoping that doesn't happen. I think too that I have a huge family and we get together and go see movies and all that so I didn't think I really needed friends kinda. But I want friends. I'm trying...

Gina, I consider us at the beginning of a friendship. message me anytime about anything ok.
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Old May 06, 2016, 11:20 PM
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I honestly consider a lot of you my friends. Some of you know more about me than a lot of people I actually know in person!
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Old May 06, 2016, 11:31 PM
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Yeah, but some things I only feel comfortable sharing privately with certain ppl. But I can see what you mean. This summer one of the friends I met off here is going to come out west to stay with me for a week. We talk everyday for a yr and a half now. I totally trust her. It's pretty cool...
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My friends are good part of my support system I love my friends
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